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Hi, My husband was an induced coma for 7 days. He had fluid in the lungs he couldn't breath in the ER he was very combative so as they told me they had to induce him in a coma. when he woke up he remembered me I couldn't believe he remembered me I was so scared. Ever since he came out of the coma he's been going through Hallucinations and he sees things that aren't there and talks to people that aren't there either, and when I tried to correct him he gets very angry. He's working on getting better he walks 2 spaces forward and 4 back he's trying very hard, He calls me crying sometimes because he leaves the floor for a bit and when he returns to the floor he says it's like they changed the whole floor, room, nurses the whole placed changed. I don't know what to do or how to help him he cries and tells me that he fears he's going to crazy. as a wife I try to be strong in front of him but what he doesn't know it's what he's going through is killing me. Please someone tell me this will pass. thank you

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Sherlock1971

Hi,

I too was in a coma for 10 days, when I came out I didn't know where I was or what was happening. It was a struggle to start with but after a while I have managed to recover. I too struggled to walk, I even struggled to sit up in the bed at one stage but with the help of the physcios, I managed to walk again. Be strong he will get better it will just take time.

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Andihe

Hi, ask his medical team if there is a psychologist or counsellor attached to the unit (there should be). They can offer him some grounding techniques and therapy. I'm a therapist but also had itu psychosis after an op that went wrong. It was very frightening and I needed help.

Hope things improve soon

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mikea101

It sounds to me that your husband is having a strong reaction to the drugs that put him in the coma, as I did: even when it may have seemed to others that I was awake I continued hallucinating for days, imagining that I had been sectioned in a psychiatric ward or that I was in an elaborate TV reality programme about hospital care. It’s so frightening for you just as it was for my family, but it will pass. He will find himself, and you, again.

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BBDEBS

I promise, it will get better. Please just focus on your husband being here, no matter how altered he appears right now. What he went through, yes scary for the family too, but the nightmares when in a coma, I would not wish on anyone.

The recovery time is a marathon not a sprint. I’m 2 years out of hospital but still in recovery albeit I’m in the final yards of my marathon.

Be patient, be calm, be brave, be strong. He will come back to you xx

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bishopecart in reply to BBDEBS

😢😢thank yo

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Sepsur

Have a look at attached pdf on delirium - it is temporary don’t worry. As has been mentioned, the sedative drugs that are used to put us in an induced coma are heavy duty - it can take up to 9 months to fully leave your system, I was emotionally & mentally volatile for a couple of months.

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It will improve soon, your husband is in the best place.

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angelrock

Yes, been there and he will get better and improve over time, it takes time but be reassured he is in the very best place for all his medical and health needs. Try and be strong.

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Lynn2010

He will get better. The hallucinations seem as real to him as true memories do to you. As hard as it is don’t try to correct t him just change the subject. Waking up in ICU is scary.

I had to learn to walk again after being in a coma. You lose so much muscle mass.

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Alevia

You Dear Wife, please know this will pass. It's been six months since my last surgery, and I have had many, but this last one produced horrible hallucinations. Time literally Stood Still. I was three weeks in intensive care recovering from surgery, but it seemed to me I had been in there for years with no one telling me what was happening so I had to use my imagination. I had 13 tubes coming out of my body, my hands were tied down as were my legs for a long time and I was unable to speak due to the feeding tubes down my throat. I could barely see, having forgotten that I even required glasses. I thought I was dying, that no one cared, that I was all alone, that family didn't know I was there, that military was holding me, that aliens had abducted me, my thoughts were getting stranger and stranger. I saw a piece of paper face down on a table next to me and I have convinced myself that held all the answers to my questions, if I could only get ahold of that paper life would be okay. So day after day, seemingly month after month, I tried to get that paper, and one day I actually succeeded and read it. It was the TV channel listing! I was full of paranoia at this point. I was convinced I was being moved from room to room floor to floor and building to building, but it turns out I was in the same bed in the same room all the time. When I was able to use my cell phone, I called everyone I knew begging for help. For me it took about a month to connect with reality, but months before the hallucinations completely stopped. I can still recall them vividly, unlike dreams which fade. I never had a reaction to medication before like this last experience. Just be supportive for your husband and tried to spend as much time with him as you can because things get worse for the patient when they are alone. Perhaps supportive relatives could help you. I know I just needed someone there to keep me connected to reality. Just being there listening to his fears can help him immensely. Calmly tell him the truth and the facts, but don't argue of course, just reassure him that he is in good care, that this is the medication affecting his thought process, and let him know you will be there for him, and you won't let these horrible thoughts he is having actually happen to him. I'm sure it will get better for your husband and you will both make it through this stressful time Together.

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Hagglund

It will pass. It did for me a few days after I left the hospital. Part of it was the drugs and I had sundowners. Hugs

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