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Hi guys I'm back again hopefully you all been coping very well and I'm getting on very well with my meds . I met a new man in my life is he's such nice guy we were talking about having babies,he's nagetive are there any chance I could pass the virus to him because I don't want him getting sick or something is it ok if I'm ovulating to sleep with him and try to get pregnant? Please help 😘😘😘

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Hi Jordan,

It is good to hear from you and I am glad things are going well for you.

As I recall you started treatment back in February. We need to look at the date which your first viral load test came back as undetectable.

This will differ for each individual, but lets say (as an example) you got down to undetectable in May 2016. You will need to wait for six months, so though to November 2016 before you are un-infectious.

So according to current thinking, come Christmas, you and your new boyfriend could make a new baby in just the same way as anyone else.

If you wanted to extra cautious, and this my take some negotiating with your clinic as it is not yet available on the NHS in the UK, your boyfriend could take Truvada (an anti HIV treatment) for a few days before you do the deed and a day or two after. This would also prevent him from becoming infected. This is called PrEP.

PrEP is short for pre-exposure prophylaxis. It’s a pill that is proven to help protect people from catching HIV. The same medicine has been used for many years to treat people with HIV. The treatment needs to be started before sex.

The NHS doesn’t currently provide free PrEP. However, you can buy it from a special PrEP clinic at NHS list price around £400.00 per month, see this clinic in London getprep.uk .

It is also legal to buy PrEP more cheaply online, the following web site has a lot of information about getting PrEP online, iwantprepnow.co.uk/#!buy-pr... . You can buy a months worth of pills for around £45.00

I have seen some research testing the quality of the main online suppliers medications and the results show that they do contain the active ingredient and at the correct levels to be effective.

I hope this helps.

All the best,



Thanks a lot,let me just wait few more months maybe Dec or Jan I could start a family xxx


If you have a zero viral load you can't give him HIV - there is research to show this - BUT talk to your consultant, then you can be clearer about this, which I am sure that you want to be!

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Thanks a lot Gigijo


Just for absolute clarity...

We need to be undetectable for at LEAST SIX MONTHS before we are Un-infectious.


This is because the level of the HIV virus in our blood drops to undetectable faster than it does in other bodily fluids.

These other fluids include semen, pre-ejaculate fluid (pre-cum), vaginal fluid and rectal fluid (rectal fluid is the mucus that lines the rectum).

Because it takes longer to get the virus down to undetectable levels in these fluids we are not Un-infectious for the additional six months.

It is important that we all understand this point.

I hope this helps,

As Always,

Kind Regards,


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