Grief

I'm not having a good one tonight...

[Lionyx2006]

Sorry to hear that. I'm listening.

[Hidden in reply to Lionyx2006]

Thanks Lionyx...it's complex grief. I had 15 losses but the stuff I never grieved, so it's hitting at once. It's difficult to type....

[Lionyx2006 in reply to Hidden]

I can definitely relate to complex grief.

I found that I didn't need to grieve in the way I had pictured I would. I expected to go through some cathartic, drawn out scenario and it never happened.

With my newest therapist, I've seen him for just over a year, I gained a new perspective on grief. He consulted with other therapists in his group and read about grief online at a professional site. After that he told me extended grieving in a cathartic way may or may not happen and for him to not judge it one way or another. My therapist said some people never grieve in the typical way, especially those with horrific traumas and complicated grief.

That was a relief to me because I wondered if there was something wrong with me. I expected to wail over what occurred and that never happened. At first I thought I was broken beyond broken and that I couldn't be put back together again.

Armed with a new truth about grieving, I started to let go of the past and the years of abuse. Each day I experience more and more freedom to be exactly where I am and who I am.

[Hidden in reply to Lionyx2006]

Thank you for sharing. It was rough last night. I'm letting go of the past as we speak. Thanks for responding. It's much appreciated.

[Stuck1 Pioneer]

Hi my love. You are NOT alone. I too am here for you.I too am struggling right now. A friend in need is a friend indeed. Together we will succeed. xxxx

[Hidden in reply to Stuck1]

Hey thanks for the comfort. Hang in there. The pain will subside.....this moment is weird....