Does any 1 else think what is the FXXXING point or is it just me?

[nick_01]

[spideyman]

Nick we all get our down days.

Ive had them. 1 minute im square bashing in the Army and the next im staggering down the road holding on to things to stay upright.

That was then. This is now.

In order to appreciate the good you have to suffer the bad.

Things DO GET BETTER.

Ive plateaud now and my recovery is very slight but the only real problem i have is when i get tired.

To look at me nobody would even know.

Stay strong my friend and be a winner cos winners never lose and losers never win

[Hidden]

I don't think what's the point, but I do thnk why me!

What can anyone say to make you feel better.... I don't know...

I often wish I had a magic wand, or the genies lamp to put things right!!!!

It's tough Nick, somehow you've got to get through it and to do that you've got to want to do it. Look at it this way (if you can)

We've all been dealt a pack of cards, ours have been shuffled and its how we deal with the new pack (hope it makes sense)

You can't have your old life back. You have to think how you can make this new pack work for you.

Remember we only get one go at ths thing called life

Hooe you feel better soon

[formula]

NICK , Nick .. nick ...

if i had a pound everytime i said that id be rich ,although it doesn't work that way so don't try it ! , you know ive been in dark places , mainly because ive struggled to come to terms with things especially when my body wont do what i want it do but i think now it could of been alot worse and i also think the doctors and nurses and the time people have put in to save my life and get me back on my feet , they must of seen a point , they must of believed i had something to offer in life ..sometimes life can be shit , but it can turn round just as fast , and i know your going say i cant see it but neither could i

if i was you id get a social worker and tell them how you feel and theres nothing like your mum and dad for support .. surround yourself with your family , they would only be to pleased to help .. no matter how things are don't think anything stupid you parents wouldn't want it and don't forget them doctors and nurses you put alot into you and want to see a return ! so if thee don't buck thi idea's up il hav come round and chin thee .. now think on

take the advice of people no matter how stupid the things sound .. im sorry nick but at the end of the day you have to help yourself its hard but its possible

wish you all the best ... Paul

[Danslatete]

I think everyone does at some point in thier life, with or without an injury.

Its natural to feel down at times but if its very invasive and you are having problems just getting by day to day then speak to your doctor, you dont need to suffer low moods alone.

[cat3]

I know you have severe physical disadvantages and, for many of us ,getting on with life is more straightforward. However, as I've said before, your mood swings suggest you are suffering from depression and it's possible that nothing will change unless you seek professional help.

Please think about it nick.

love, cat x

[Hidden]

Aren't you seeing a neuropsychologist? I think you should tell them all this.

[nick_01]

im seeing a neuropsychologist tomorrow any tips

[cat3]

I would have said be totally honest and ask all the same questions you've asked on here......but it's probably too late now.......didn't see your post 'til a few minutes ago.

I would really like to know how it goes. Can you tell us in a blog......or message me if you prefer ? Cheers nick x

[nick_01 in reply to cat3]

thanks and cat its not 2 late

[cat3]

Best of luck, X

[nick_01]

have seen them and it didnt really help

[cat3]

Sorry to hear it......but not really surprised. I never, personally,felt any benefit from seeing neuropsychologists. I think it depends on your particular problems and your personality whether or not you can respond.

Still, it would be interesting to hear about any positive experiences from other people.

Do you feel like elaborating on why you feel it failed ?

Also, what's your attitude toward anti-depressant medication ?

[nick_01 in reply to cat3]

i feel the same really and dont want to be on anti depressants as thats the easy way out and admitting defeat and i failed

[cat3 in reply to nick_01]

nick, It's obvious to anyone that you are deeply unhappy and that some type of intervention is essential to break the cycle of desperation and disappointment

If you're not prepared to persevere with cognitive treatments then you need to be realistic........medication may be your only alternative.

Failure isn't an issue. what if you needed meds for a heart condition......would

you refuse it on the grounds that you would feel a failure.....I doubt it....what is it.....a macho thing ? I'm not entirely comfortable, suggesting drug treatment but anti-depressants have given me my life back and I'm running out of ideas for how to help you improve yours.

Help from a psychiatrist is, I believe, an option worth considering.

cat x

[cat3 in reply to cat3]

P.S. What's wrong with an easy way out when life is so very difficult ?

Also, have you had many experiences of neuropsychologists in the past,

surely this can't be your first ?

[Hidden]

Nick, it sounds as though you might have unrealistic expectations. What were you hoping to gain from seeing the neuropsychologist? It's only your first visit and it was probably just an introduction, I wouldn't give up yet.

[headwayuk Partner Headway]

Hi Nick

Please also remember that the Headway helpline is always available. Suggest you give the team a call on 0808 800 2244 if you want to talk things through.

[nick_01]

it would b rather difficult to call you as im unable to talk lol

[headwayuk Partner Headway]

Hi nick_01

If you did wish to get in touch with our nurse led helpline, they are also available via email. The address is [e-mail]

Best wishes

Headway UK

[nick_01]

thanks

[ncmurphy1951]

of course there is a point sure life changes and we suffer enormous frustration anger depression and pain but we are fortunate to survive to do anything but celebrate the fact would be an insult to those and their loved ones who dont survive i spoke last week to a friend whose wife died he commented to have just 5 minutes with his wife again would make him happy hhe wanted to say thank you and goodbye she collapsed at work out of the blue

my dad 81 we lost my mum last year after they spent 50 years married i am now a tenth of the man i was having to rely on my 81 year old dad to get me about and dip inrto his pension every week to keep me in funds a 20 here and there