i need to start doing things without my care and then i can start to make friends well thats the plan anyway

[nick_01]

[bikerlifestyle]

well that sounds like a good plan, go for it

[nick_01]

hope so will start with going to heady meets by myself

[Liblob]

you are taking the first steps on a long journey, well done!, try your local headway group, you may surprise yourself and enjoy it

[cat3]

This is a great attitude,nick. Good luck.

Regards, cat

[leeleeleelee]

time to be yourself at last well done

[nick_01]

i just thought this might be a problem as i dont no many people

[ncmurphy1951]

nick a good plan recovery is hugly assisted by personal goal setting but a cautinary note not to dismiss your care i am out of hospital now 4 years i can drive to visit friends and meet people but rely heavily on my careworkers take to day i was badly let down yesterday by someone who helps nme get out and about without my carers i wouldnt have eaten and spoke to a soul all day not excluding the garage who have taken 7 dayts to repair an electric window on a ford c max which ford make in 2 days it was a short conversation needless to say i dont want apologies iu want my car back be true to yourself maintain your dignity these people out there have not a clue what it takes to recover from a brain injury

[spartan300]

each journey starts with one step,seek friends who are better than you, not your own kind,also the caged bird yearns for the forest,take care, john.xxx

[Hidden]

If you are able, confident, feel safe and can manage your surroundings by going out alone, then go for it. Headway sounds a god starting point. Try not to put yourself under too much pressure and make someone aware of what you are doing, so that you can call them (assume you have a mobile) if you get panicky on your own.

Wishing you lots of luck and remember one step at a time

[rubikscube]

This may seem a stupid question and may have already been asked, but how do you communicate when you are out & about?

And hey I am really proud of you for getting out there I wish I had your courage to go out on my own, I considered jumping on the bus to go & see my daughter this morning for a surprise visit, then completely bottled it, remembering the last time over a year ago I tried it and cos I got an unexpected phone call on my mobile as the bus pulled up, it span me out and the confusion and noise and people led to me having a seizure, so I have a slight phobia of putting myself in that situation again!

So, yes I do agree let someone know what you are up to and when you are doing it, it may not feel like total freedom but it is a 1st step.

If I had of told Anthony what I was up to that day I would not have got that unexpected call (from him)!

And would not be sitting here one year on with this phobia of bus stops!

Good luck on your travels

[nick_01]

thanks people and i have a communication app on my Iphone

[cat3 in reply to nick_01]

What IS a communication app.nick ?........and don't laugh !

[nick_01]

a communication aid is a piece of equipment that helps u to talk so is like a computer. i have managed to download the software a application (app) so i can use my iphone (mobile) to help me to communicate

[cat3 in reply to nick_01]

I can't imagine how that works but I'm going to find out.....I think I'll Google it. x

[cat3 in reply to cat3]

Got the gist now......I think I get it.....you key in what you want to say (maybe using pre-composed templates) and your iphone does the talking. Brilliant !

If that's how it works there's no excuse for hiding away any more, nick.

Give the Headway meet a go and let us know how you went on.

Good luck. cat x

[cat3 in reply to cat3]

Taking a fresh look at my above comments, I apologise if thay seem flippant and patronising because they do to me.

What I'd really like to say is that I am so happy to see that you are making such positive moves toward testing out your confidence and taking control of your future.

My problems are slight compared to yours and I do appreciate what enormous courage it must take for you to make such significant moves.

I wish you all the very best..... I am sure that everyone else would be proud to hear of any progress you can make.

Sincere best wishes, cat x

[nick_01]

google AAC

[nick_01]

thanks ur comments dont sound patronising. i went 2 the atm meating with headway on my own which seemed ok so will do it again