Is it me?

[spideyman]

I’m sure that most people think I’m unsociable but I can’t be bothered socialising with people who are just putting an act on.

I’ve seen how they really are and I don’t want to be associated with 2 faced people

[Trevor78]

What are those people really like and what act are they putting on?

[spideyman in reply to Trevor78]

These ppl used to socialise with me before my injury.

After my injury that stopped and I’d be avoided.

Now I’ve got better and some ppl want to know me again. Others are embarrassed to think how they treated me when I was I’ll.

To be honest I can’t be bothered

[Trevor78 in reply to spideyman]

I see. I can understand that. I think that any illness/injury is a personal journey and people do disappear through being wrapped up in their own world and not educated in the plight of the individual. I don't know what your family or social circle is like but from my own perspective of being very socially isolated I'd not dismiss those former contacts so lightly. You don't have to particularly like those people now or live in each other's pockets but you never know when they might be of use, even given their previous unhelpful disappearing act. Only you can decide though whether you can forgive and forget to some extent at least.

[Mads1975]

Hello, following my brain injury, something changed within my mindset and I no longer continue to put in the excessive effort I had previously, to maintain a friendship.

My illness made me reevaluate my friendships and I realised that for certain friends, it was me who was the one putting most of the effort in. I now have a far better quality of friends and feel pretty empowered for making the decision

[spideyman in reply to Mads1975]

That’s soooooo true

[Pairofboots]

Fair do, spidey. But why announce it, in such a social way?

[spideyman in reply to Pairofboots]

Why not?

[Pairofboots in reply to spideyman]

Good answer

[sashaming1]

It is what it is. So, they will have to get used to it.

[Painting-girl]

I'm grateful for my two old friends, and it's easier to talk to them than to someone new, but I am making new friends slowly too.

[Amber-11]

I am happy that I have made some new friends since the abi, but it has been very mixed and discouraging at times . I think I have had to try a lot, and some people just don't talk or engage with me, I wear a hat and dark glasses indoors with leds lights, because of light sensitivity .

I think some people are maybe too busy with work and family,but I also think they are not interested in me as I am disabled . I have always had lodgers and recently a home sharer. My two new friends who want to see regularly me are two former lodgers . I think people do not engage with me when they know I am disabled. I feel encouraged that some people who have lived with me for over a year, want to continue being my friend. In general though I am discouraged by some groups who just ignore me, and do not talk to me, I have tried to join in conversations , but they do not talk to me. maybe because I cannot work and have a disability. Sorry for the sad post, although I have made some new friends. Happy New Year.

[Headshrink]

Totally agree. Most people are completely superficial and I am just not bothered anymore and whether it's a spiitual awakening or a remnant of brain damage, who cares; choose real people. I am with you