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Isn't it amazing what a person can deal with?I've had more hugs/kisses today off my boy than in last 20years!going outside(this man gets about!)he is a big hit with the ladies in unit,and he is charming them all.he was tired when I turned up today,but rallied and engaged the whole time I was there.I had told him of a conversation I had with his best pal who said he wants to go and see him but was scared and didn't think he would know what to say,he pointed to angry on his mood board and gave me middle finger...so I guess that visit won't be soon!I didn't visit last week but I can see so much progress.on a more worrying note,it is obvious he remembers what happened to him,he indicated to me today what happened before his head hit ground.it is affecting him,I calmly explained to him that we cannot change the situation,that was then,this is now.I told him he was very strong and fit and of all the people who helped him.he was more concerned(I hadn't noticed)his two bottom teeth are missing and he has a slight scar through his lip,he kept pointing to his mouth.so I tell him your hair is going grey,you can go dentist and get some dye,he smiled...I'm not daft,I know more problems will come,when he smiled it was all on right side,the left side of his body is not working,not yet.I hold hope....

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Nanapal

Hi D, so pleased you had a good visit today. Great to hear you were able to see some improvements in your son celebrate them, savour those hugs and kisses and put aside worries/concerns for another day. Take care Nanapal. x

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New_beginning

I bet you can still feel him hugging and kissing you now; hold on to this will bring much comfort. You done well bringing comfort to him with injuries, but I know you are carrying his thoughts how it happened. In time he will see his friend which is nice to see your still in contact with; hold on to his friends, my husband has one friend and he has visited few times took 6months to start with due to covid and not knowing what to say. Basically they talk about back in the day, as husbands long term memory good, no conversations on the now as short term memory poor. X

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cat3

Such a moving account of your visit D. I refused visits from friends at first ; it's natural not wanting to appear 'diminished' I guess.

But it looks like your son's progress is gaining ground and I'm sure his spasticity will improve with more intensive rehab. Slow and steady.....

So pleased for you both ! xx

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Cornishboxer2

So glad to hear he is responding positively to you. Your last three words say it all. He needs you to do that for him and it seems like you are doing a brilliant job right now. Give yourself time out too to recharge your batteries. Wishing him a good recovery.

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Skallagrigg

Aw a lovely visit,

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