Daughter struggling after witnessing trauma.

[Sambo73]

It's a while since I posted. It is nearly 5 years since our son was assaulted and suffered a TBI. His daily struggles are heartbreaking but we are getting through one day at a time. Our daughter is now 20 and witnessed some horrific sights of her brother in hospital. It's all coming out now and she really needs someone of a similar age who has gone through the same trauma to talk to, and to try and put it to rest. If anyone out there is willing to help I would be eternally grateful. Sam x

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Hi,

Has anyone mentioned the possibility of PTSD? I had help with this during my wife's rehab for her BI. It was professional help with a phycologist, trauma memories are processed differently than other memories so professional help for me was very beneficial in being able to understand, deal with and live peacefully again with what sounds like similar trauma which you mention.

Regards

[Marnie22]

I also thought of PTSD when I read your post. I am currently being treated for PTSD. I am having EMDR therapy and it is so effective and powerful - I am becoming able to live without being overwhelmed by the trauma that I experienced, whereas before it was with me all the time. I really thought that I would never escape it.

I would just like to mention that if your daughter goes for any type of therapy, it needs to be trauma focused and delivered by someone qualified specifically in this type of therapy - sometimes having 'normal' therapy can make things worse.

I do hope you can find something that works to help your daughter. I wish you all the best. 🌸

[cat3]

Sam, hope this might be of help :-

youngminds.org.uk › find-help › conditions › ptsd

Best wishes, Cat x

[randomphantoms in reply to cat3]

Hi Cat

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youngminds.org.uk

[cat3 in reply to randomphantoms]

Thanks Shirl ! Hope you're doing OK m'love… xx

[AndrewT]

Dear Sambo73,

I'm Very Sorry, to hear, about your Children- both suffering in different ways. As regards your Daughter... Have you tried asking at your local Doctors Surgery/ the Local Hospital or even Social Services? Failing that, you might find 'useful information, via the CAB, your local Library or even on a 'Supermarket Notice Board'! (where you can 'post' questions too, you never know.)

There is Always, the Internet, of course....Which I recommend, with CAUTION! (I know that this IS also 'The Net', but this IS Different- we 'know' each other.) Whilst there Are, without doubt, genuine people- like yourself- wanting to, for want of a better phrase, Link Up. There are some, VERY MEAN, AND HEARTLESS, people too. Some of these people, from what I have seen, are ONLY interested in causing 'Trouble' and Heartache. Since, the Likes of you and I, do not Think as 'They' do we can be, very easily, 'caught out'- as can our friends!

Perhaps Start with you own GP you might, even be, Pleasantly Surprised!

AndrewT

[14th]

Hi Sambo73

My heart goes out to you. I have a 20 year old daughter who for the past 6 years has also witnessed the daily struggles her big sister endures following a RTA and subsequent TBI. Like your daughter she has seen things in the hospital that are the material of horror films and things you hope no one has to encounter in normal life.

I don’t know if they might benefit from talking to each other but I would certainly be happy to ask my daughter if you think this would be helpful

[Sambo73 in reply to 14th]

That would be great, she really doesn’t want to speak to professionals due to bad experiences in the past. It has really shocked me how she has kept it in for so long, not wanting to worry me or her dad, it’s heartbreaking. I still hear her screams the night it happened, and then her strength trying to will her brother to survive. She is an amazing young lady, she kept me and her dad going through like you say was something from a horror movie 😞

[14th]

Direct message me and we will see what we can do

[ScubaD]

As you may know a person can experience ptsd from eitnessing a traumatic event (family or not). I would suggest a counsellor as due to the time frame a professional will know this straight away and give appropriate assistance and guidance which would include socialising with friends her age. This kind of trauma needs an appropriate place in which she can safely speak and release feelings and emotions. My best wishes to her for the future.

D. Morgan MBPS