My partner suffered a severe tbi in July this year. He is actually doing really well but I suspect he will need supervision for the rest of his life - it’s difficult to say that for sure at this point but given the severity of his injury that is what I am anticipating.
As his partner I have no rights. We had been together 2 and a half years prior to his fall and he was due to move in with me the week after his accident. We were in a committed long term relationship.
I suspect he will be in rehab for most of 2019 but beyond that I would hope to take him home and look after him even if that means that I have to give up work to do so.
My potential problem is his sons (27 & 24) who are are heavily influenced by their financially motivated mother. My concern is that they will want to put him in some rehab facility nearer to where they live. His ex is all about the control and if he lives with me she won’t have the control.
I have been to see my partner everyday for the 6 months since his accident which is a 100 mile round trip on top of working full time. His sons have been but a handful of times and send out emails ‘to avoid visiting’ when they visit - not just to my self but to my partners parents and sister as well.
Will I have any influence in his ongoing care decisions as I believe being with me he will have the best possible life that he can have. It’s not so much about his care as he will walk eventually it will be more a question of support in so far as he will most likely lack insight into his injury. Of course I hope as time moves on he will be able to make decisions for himself but I can’t at this point guarantee that will be the case.
Does anyone have any experience of this situation.