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bexx87
bexx87

So yesterday I got told that due to a cancellation I am being pushed forward for CBT as I said you tell me where I will be make sure by any means possible I can attend, Ive got 2 more weeks to wait until I explain everything to BIRU, I said that due to falling out with yet another member of the HWBristol group, this may be the last time they see me as I cant take it any more, I am going speed dating tonight and Im trying not to think about it and on Sunday I told my neighbour where to shove it and told the landlord and I haven't heard anything from her since and Ive expressed interest in being coming vice thingy or something for disabled employees group in work and I will now who that goes next thursday *plays the only way is up for you and me noow*

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Not had it myself but a friend has and they say it helps them to weather the storm and keep calm when stress shows it's head.

As for Headway groups why should you get on with others just because they've had a TBI, I can think of some I'd avoid. A lot of people on this site are passionate about TBI rights and differences of opinion about what groups should or shouldn't do can be a source of frustration. I've had to literally bite my tongue many times, as they say you can't choose your family.

Good luck with the CBT

bexx87
bexx87
in reply to sealiphone

Thanks yes bruce said why should you stop going I said because its becoming more of a pain, people try to bring me down to their level when I go and I cant take it I need to limit the amount of stress in my life I will see how the next one is and see how I feel

sealiphone
sealiphone
in reply to bexx87

It may be best, my strategy of tongue biting can be very painful and I'm not joking.

Cj-195
Cj-195
in reply to sealiphone

Wow!!!! I not only the one who have problems with the group. Well speak up. Is a learning that headway says. My family offering they help but the members from that group threw back. Somebody like backing stab and judging people before they knew that both sides. Now my group have a new boss I hope he can understand. If my group don't want help just tell people. I so sorry for HeadwayUK because it a worthy charity💖💖I love to help HeadwayUK. I wish to meet a professional from HeadwayUK who will read all paperwork the group send me after the complaint 👎. Thank you HeadwayUK for your help and for healthunlocked line which help me. Mental health is important!!!!!! 👍

sealiphone
sealiphone
in reply to Cj-195

Well to fair about this I'm know for being particular about trying to achieve something as close to perfect as possible. The other thing is that I've helped smaller agencies in the advice sector to set themselves as a professional organisation.

If you've not worked in that type of setting some things I see as basic they've not come across. When I was on the Trustee board they'd never considered what I was saying was lacking, bet they thought who let this idiot in.

Cj-195
Cj-195
in reply to sealiphone

OMG. I can't sleep after the treatment from the group. Somebody from the group messages me that I'm toxic because I complain about my treatment from the group. The false hope from them and the lies. Maybe the HeadwayUK can look my paperwork. They put some points that I complain about but the point was wrong and it have a lies on it. Which I can proof. Even the old boss who work in law. Didn't talk with me about before they respond to my complaint. Even one of the carers tell me that she was a spy for the boss (funny this carers who complain all the time). They ask for help and didn't respond for the help (Which I offer so much). All I want them to explain WHY they treat the users like that. Not good for HeadwayUK that all!!!!!!

Just read 'Sealiphone' just under here and I can't help but agree with him/ her/ it (he/ she may be a hermaphrodite) anyway, its like the old vegetarian in the room joke - some TBI/ or BI injured are so pious and opinionated they feel the have to tell you what to do and when to do it. All you have to do is do what you feel is right when you think it is the right time to do it. If you are wrong, you will learn not to do it again. The appropriate word for this is 'experience' and it is something you gain through time. The DEG (Disabled Employee's Group) can be full of a million and one agendas - in the same way that any meeting can be but I will do my best to attend and give you some moral support - talking of which, good luck for tonight

bexx87
bexx87
in reply to brumatmed

thank you I hope to stay awake as the past few nights I have been having afternoon naps which are baaaaaaaad and I now have a headache so I will need to get that to go

brumatmed
brumatmed
in reply to bexx87

Orright,

How did it go last night? - A castle turret with Prince Charming or a pond of frogs? Was it held in a pub, club, or Church Hall type of place - in short, tell all and don't miss out the gory bits - if there was any! and if all else fails, change the names of the participants to protect the innocent.

LOL He but I like the thought of it, scary(?)

OK, you are a 'he' but do you like the thought of being a hermaphrodite or simply the anonymity if it - in either case what is so scary about it?

I was thinking of Stephen King (it), even though the film was rubbish.

I refer you to a previous dirge from me where I bang on (and on) about the luxury of books, how I love and respect the things which allow an imagination to run riot and a film or TV program which can stain a perfectly good idea, just to make it more 'cinematic'

No 'it' the Stephen King book was scary.

As far a being a hermaphrodite I think I know enough about the human brain after a TBi to know I don't know anything about it and certainly can't understand anybody else so absolutely no idea how it would feel.

I may be getting confused now I'm not sure what question I'm answering (bad day). I shall depart now for a coffee.

Hi Bexx, good luck with the cat. It can be hard going but worth it. The result are not always instant but can arm you to deal with problems better.

As for getting on with people in groups , yes you can find some people hard work but try and not let others views stop you going to groups you enjoy. You don't have to speak to them and you may be the one who loses out in the end by leaving.

I hope you get things sorted and once again good luck with the cat.

Pax x

CBT is definitely the most helpful I’ve found glad, next to mindfulness and hypnotherapy, you’ve got an appointment xx

so the dating was pointless there is 1 guy that likes me back (I liked them all even though I lied to see who liked me back) but this guy is still hung up on his marriage, the initial CBT appointment was good but I have been feeling low since Friday (didn't fancy going to the hardbourside as it was packed on the weekend and we have graduates on college green making lunch times a nightmare) I was looking forward to going to this quarters DEG (disability employee group) as I put my name forward to help run it (which got a good response and I got excited) but even though they said if multiple people went for it, it would go to a group vote but that hasn't happened because the other 2 people are "more experience" in doing the role (if I don't get the chance how am I meant to gain the expirance, I also thought it may give work a new lease of life but meh) Im in 2 minds about going or not, I have a mentor session Wednesday and I am dreading tonight so ever

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