Confusion

[treetate]

I went to see Kev last week in the new rehabiliation centre that he is now in and he is still so confused and cant really make sense of anything. We are 5 months in and I am so scared that he is not going to recover from this. He knows who I am but doesnt really understand that I am his wife and he knew his son (who is 26) but thinks he has 4 children (me being one of them). It is so heart breaking to see him like this and I am just not seeing any improvement. He is still having behaviour issues and is still sectioned (he is being reassessed on Monday to be put under section 3 which could last 6 months).

I am at a loss with him not being at home and having to sort everything out myself - yesterday I had a burst water pipe which flooded the whole of my ground floor and I honestly thought I was going to have a breakdown of some sort - my anxiety went through the roof.

Not having a great day today x

[hevs90]

hi just wanted to show my support for you, my partner has just been transferred to the rehab ward and is not aware of were he is or can do anything for himself at the moment. I find my self being frustrated with the docs saying its early days and it doesn't give me much confidence. Steve did all the fixing around the house and I too am finding everything needs fixing all of a sudden. I'm hear if you wanna vent xx

[treetate in reply to hevs90]

Hiya, it’s the not knowing that’s the worst thing. No one talks to me and tells me what to expect or how much damage there is, I feel I am in a constant battle for information!!! I hope and pray that he will recover and that he will eventually come home even if he is a different person, I would just love to see Kev again. Everything seems to be going wrong at home and I’m having to do it all myself, which I know is nothing to anyone else but it’s massive for me on top of working full time and the constant worry about Kev.

I’m sorry to hear you are having the same issues and I pray that your husband makes a full recovery xx

[cat3]

We often talk about 'The new me' after a brain injury, but it should be applied to carers/loved ones too because they're equally affected, just in different ways. I remember similar anxieties when my husband moved out and I was left with two young children and all manner of issues and debts.

It was horrific at times (also had a cold water burst just after Geoff left which flooded undetected in the night, so understand that feeling of desperation).

I think it's true that, although life feels unbearable at the time, it all ultimately made me a stronger person. But I didn't have the extra worry of a brain injured partner and I did have some control over the circumstances.

Concentrate on your own survival Teresa whilst trying to accustom yourself to the situation, which I know feels utterly bizarre and unreal, and dreadfully upsetting. So long as Kevin is conscious and has basic functioning, there's hope, with the right medication, for improvement.

Hang in there m'love ; we're always here to listen. Love from Cat xx

[treetate in reply to cat3]

Thank Cat, as always for your reassurance. I feel so lost at the moment and feel a little out of control. I know it all takes time and hopefully I will be a much stronger person for it all xx