please show him support!

[Mollyainscoughx]

Hi my brother has brain damage and he is scared and worried to join up on this forum. Please help out and show him your kindness! He has been especially struggling recently and we think it would be a good idea for him to speak with people going through similar situations.

[cat3]

Hello Molly. What's your brother's name ? He'd be very welcome here !

Cat x

[steve55]

tell him not to be. i have a brain injury too. molly another good thing you could do for your brother is find out where and when your nearest monthly headway group meets, give your brother a chance, when he feels like it to talk to people with brain injuries have a few laughs and for you and your family to meet and chat with the darlings who put up with us.

anyway, we dont bite, hell be more than welcome, have a chat, some come on just to let off steam.

if he feels a bit shy at first why dont you share your posts.

steve x

[randomphantoms]

Hi Molly.

It can be really daunting for anyone with a brain injury to try something new.

Perhaps he could sit with you while you talk to us or show him some of the posts.

You don't say how long your brother has had his brain injury. I know that everyone is different but it may be too early for him to fly solo on a forum like ours.

You could ask him to phone Headway .....the people on the helpline understand brain injuries.

Please tell him not to worry most of us have a brain injury and the rest are those who have to deal with us.

It never ceases to amaze me how well we work together and what we can learn from each other.

I'm sure your brother would get a lot from joining.

[Mollyainscoughx]

Hi everyone thank you for your messages! My brothers name is Joel and we are actually twins. So we are both 16 and going through A Levels which he is finding difficult because he can’t keep up with everyone else. He was in a bike accident when we were about 5 so for around 11 years. He just finds New situations and people difficult to speak to but we think it could really benefit him and everyone else seems to find it beneficial too!

[randomphantoms in reply to Mollyainscoughx]

Molly. Both you and Joel have your lives ahead of you.

Definitely ring the Headway helpline and download the leaflets from the Headway website.....headway.org.uk

If there is anything else we can do to help just let us know and is Joel getting any support with his education?

[steve55 in reply to Mollyainscoughx]

joel and i have a similar problem, it takes me a while to feel comfortable in new situations and around new people and new surroundings but at least he has your support although you maybe doing different subjects.

im not sure if joel has the same issues as me but im noise intolerant and can be rude?

[Mufc in reply to Mollyainscoughx]

Joel

You need to live to your best ability now. Yes it is not the same as it was it can never be the same but accept the new you and what you can give. Sad but I had my tbi in 1998. My 18 month old daughter was in the car which my husband had an accident in. He had to be in hospital for a few days and my daughter also. They both have got over their problems. I cannot walk so wheelchair bound. Lost my long term memory. I cannot remember getting married or giving birth to my daughter. Life goes on hard work but worth it. We survived are injuries so we need to accept the new us and continue are life’s. It has taken me many years to understand and except the new me but I have and think my life is worth living even though my husband is divorcing me now due to my moods. I feel my life is still worth living.😀

So try and accept I will be more than happy to try and give you my thoughts through this difficult time. So please communicate with me. I need friends like you.

Best

Mufc

[sca2013]

This is the perfect place for him as we all have brain injuries and understand better than others without them. I think he would really feel this is a good place to be. He is definitely welcome here.

[cat3]

Molly, please pass on our good wishes to Joel and, as Randomphantoms suggests, you might try a joint effort at posting just to break the ice for your brother. He obviously has a firm ally in you, but twins have that special bond don't they.

Maybe, between you, you could fill in some of the blanks about Joel's physical and cognitive issues so that others who identify can offer some reassurance and maybe some advice..........

We're a very mixed bunch here, but our common issues are a great leveller ; it's more of a second family than just a forum......

Hope to see one, or both of you, around. x

[Ernest_lam]

Can you explain in detail of your brother brains cell damage. If you can you may send your brother to Hong Kong for treatment.

If can’t you can going Hong Kong to learn the treatment techniques. After learning it and bought the equipment back to your home country to remedy your brother brains

The equipment cost around 6000 pounds.

[Ernest_lam]

Sorry that have you any nursery courses taken, any Chinese doctor knowledge learned before for example Acupuncture ,

The treatment is calling quantum therapy, otherwise please may contact your local Chinese doctor for details

[GT500]

Hi Molly, tell your Bro' to just have a look first, he can just see what happens on here and get an idea if he thinks he'll find it useful or not.

i tend to just come on here now and then but some people are heavy users. We're all human ( well, most are ) and are from a variety of age groups.

[lcd8]

Hi Molly. Very best wishes to your brother and we would love him to join. Everyone here is in the same position, or a similar one at least. We have all been affected by BI and understand the many pressures from the world. No one is here to judge, we are just here to support. Personally it has helped me loads to know that I'm not the only one facing such issues.

[Mufc]

Hi , sorry I do not know how to address your brother. This information is for him. I have tbi and have been scared for 20 years. I wish I had found this site at the very beginning of my injury as I have found it a great help since I have been using it . Unfortunately it’s only been a couple of years. It is good to discuss my ‘problems ‘ with people who have similar injuries. You need to understand we are all individuals with different clinical problems due to are tbi. This site there is always someone who can relate to our problems.

So take my advise sign up I would be happy to try and relate to you. I use to be a specialist clinical cancer nurse. So I need to feel I am offering some help as I will never work again due to my injuries. How do you fill your days?

Best wishes

Mufc

[Hodder1992]

Hello Molly

You and your bro Joe are more than welcome to join this community and post anytime, whether you are a family member or friend of a brain injury survivor or a brain injury survivor.

I joined this community 2 days after I was discharged from hospital in February this year.

I have been left brain damaged from brain injuries I suffered on the 14/9/2017-last year in a car crash that I still do not remember and I was in a coma for 13 weeks, spent the first 3 weeks in the ICU and 23 weeks and 1 day in hospital following the car crash.

Also at the moment I have a best friend who is still in the ICU fighting for her life in a induced/natural coma after she fell 30 ft over a balcony and suffered severe skull, brain and spinal injuries, a week ago today.

Ben

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