Hi all,
10 months ago I posted asking for advice how to move forward and be as supportive as I could following my wife's TBI. Thanks for all of your replies.
The one year anniversary of her accident is tomorrow and two days ago I discovered that she wants to leave me and yesterday it was confirmed that she wants a divorce.
We have been attending Relate sessions since October but that doesn't seem to have worked.
Around 9 months ago I discovered a diary she had written (with hand written notes by her mother) detailing my unacceptable behaviour. It included our children being scared of me, me potentially emotionally abusing her and general unacceptable behaviour - all of which myself, my family and friends feel is absolutely untrue.
I finally confronted her about it and she said that she had been told to compile it on the advice of the medical practitioners at the hospital where she received her final treatment/assessment.
I believed that at the time but now can't help but think that it was a prelude to the situation I find myself in now.
Also, around this time there were whisperings from a couple of mutual acquaintancies that we were going to split up which could only have come from her lips.
It seems to me that 3 months after her TBI she had already made the decision that our relationship wasn't going to survive and started to lay the groundwork then.
We have two children (13 and 7) and they're still exceptionally unsettled after last March's accident and the aftermath. I absolutely don't want to do anything to hurt them any more and don't want my family to break up.
I wonder if anyone out there has had a similar experience or if anyone has any words of advice or support?
Thank you so much in advance
Bugsy