Valentines Day

[Julesgettingthere]

did anyone else forget and how are you planning to get out of it ?

Kind regards

Jules

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[Johnnyreb49]

Did not forget, thought my husband had, but how wrong I was. Bought him what he requested, with a soppy card as usual. I remember very well the first card he sent to me 51 years ago, not that he does.

[Julesgettingthere in reply to Johnnyreb49]

Hello there Jonnyreb, Jules here.

W0w... 51 years !

I married just mmmm (i think) 3 years ago and i am 51 years old now. Grounding to know i will never be able to say i remember his first card 51 years ago. Were you very young when you met ? How lovely to know people do sometimes stay together so long.

Hope your having a peaceful day

Kind regards

Jules

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[Johnnyreb49 in reply to Julesgettingthere]

Hi Jules

I got married 3 months after my 18th birthday. We were both in the Navy. We met just as I joined the WRNS, and married 12 months later. It is great to know that the vows we made are still great today. He does have a lot to put up with, would not be without him

Take care

Johnnyreb

[BaronC]

No forgetting here. Card on the pillow for the Baroness and I've already prepared her evening meal for when she gets in from work.

Brownie points

[Julesgettingthere in reply to BaronC]

Ahh thats lovely, have a wonderful night Mr Barron

Jules

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[Hidden]

I always forget about it- I think it's overrated like Xmas. Easter is coming up as well- I. am. not. religous.

[Julesgettingthere in reply to Hidden]

totally agree aqua.

Still not sure myself where i am with religion. I know i think about the big questions of life and 'why' a lot more than i did 'before' . I wanted to go along to a church last year - just curious (and lost in my life). But i couldn't find anyone to go with me.

Spring time looking at my garden grow and watching its hedgehogs bats and birds (and the occasional fox) is my most favorite time of all.

Jules

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[Hidden in reply to Julesgettingthere]

I've never been into religion, spiritual but not religious I remember ticking on a form or when giving details to something ha! I definitely think a lot about the world and existence and I think I was obsessed with it in the past. I do take every opportunity (only about 5 times) to go into churches but don't really get anything from it. I think religion is a dated concept.

I totally agree with you about nature- that, I get something from and especially now I live by the sea. Spring is definitely the best season with new beginnings and longer days. It's wonderful to feel the sun after months of darkness! 5 weeks til Spring Equinox- bring on the longer days!

[TiredNan in reply to Hidden]

Never have done Valentines day either.. still recovering from Christmas!

Quite keen on a Cadburys creme egg though... always acceptable whatever the date!

[Hidden]

I've been told we're not allowed to do Valentines. Instead we'll do Sant Jordi which is the Catalan patron saint day where partners exchange flowers and books (England has the same patron saint but has much less romantic traditions).

[moo196]

Can't wait until midnight and it's over with... just another reminder of how this stupid illness changed my life....ie partner left me. .....meh !

[sca2013 in reply to moo196]

Yep, I hear you. Sad that it is this way now.

[paxo05]

Hi Jules.

Yep once again I forgot. Will not forget all week as my wife will remind me.

I suppose having a bi doesn't get you out of it as well.

Only joking about my wife. Think she would have fainted if I had remembered.

I remember our aniversary and her birthday so I think she let's me off with today.

Oh when I say remember I really mean my daughters remind me. Not the first time my wife has received three birthday cards. I just say it's because I love her sooooo much. Yep she doesn't fall for that also.

Here's to forgetting easter .

Pax

[sca2013]

I forgot this way - I went to the store to get a gift, card, and a couple of other things. By the time I go to the card section I was I guess on sensory overload by all the action, people and lights, so I thought I'll just go to a smaller store and get a card there. I got to the checkout and went to pay for the other items and much to my surprise I had forgotten my wallet and any way to pay. So now my mind was completely off of completing the whole Valentine's day stuff. So I thought OK I'll go home and have my wife go back with me to get these items, of course totally forgetting the Valentine Day gift and card. Then comes Valentine's Day and I'm trying to figure out what happened to the card and gift I thought I had bought. Then I finally remembered what happened and chose to be very frustrated (quite a bit of swearing to myself was done by me at the time) about the whole thing. Really no idea how to recover from that.

[Julesgettingthere in reply to sca2013]

very much ditto here

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[jacs17]

I r forgot because reason im here is what a man did so think I can live without a card jules;as rather not be reminded of the bleeds he gave me nor shaking cox he knows were I live so hard night but uno wat,i got through it like I have with assault so heres hoping still,,,

[Julesgettingthere in reply to jacs17]

Hello Jacs, Jules here

I cant remember speaking to you before - how are you doing ?

So sorry, sounds like you are/ have been through a horrible time.

I know this forum helps me through some of my darkest times, even if i am just reading and not responding - hope it is helping you a little too.

Kindest regards Jacs

Jules

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[jacs17 in reply to Julesgettingthere]

lost at he moment Jules getting there kind of invisible apart from falling an forgetting everything,its like im stuck in a time warp;as wont do any cbt,as its too dangerous for me as rein act in my sleep as it brings back what I couldn't remember but then jumbles it up to a bloody nightmare an half ,i not spoke 4 4 years an that's whats crucifying,me the, load I carry around ,live alone housebound in middle floor flat until June but don't think il reach there as my heads overloaded my body bruised battered an unsteady no memory an a gp;who thinks 40 tablets isn't enuf an throwing more at me sorry for my frustration,just hard but that don't suffice,its hell living within your own head ,especially when your remembering an you don't want too;weird how you remember the bad an not the good maybe cos not seen good as yet anyway reason I said to you it helps talking,but make sure you don't fall in my category,as once they open the box you Cant shut it k hun's,an with no specialist helping shut it my heads a bloody well,so make sure that you feel ready an get the specialist to confirm,if you cant talk or goes awol;will they help you close it an leave it at a place you feel confident with Jules k

[RogerCMerriman]

My wife likes flowers, so I got her card plus well chosen bunch of flowers I knew she would like, plus some daffs, the intention was to go out, but I was too worn out so we had a takeaway and relaxed.

We tend not to do that much, we never did to be honest!

[Julesgettingthere]

Mine got me daffs as well - they mean spring is on the way and new things to me - so he chose well. Having a takeaway together at home sounds far more attractive to me than being 'forced' into getting dressed up and going out.

On my wedding day we went home and both put our jeans back on and crashed on the couch and left our wedding guests to get on with it .... well, it was our day and i was so tired.

I love the look of your hair on your picture here - it looks wild and free !

Jules

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