Hey , I'm writing as I have searched everywhere for support but it's difficult To get first hand reprieve rather than reading articles .
My mumma had a cardiac arrest 2 yrs ago and was in a coma for a while and had quite a long rehabilitation , that it's self changed out lives . On discharge she was doing well but has frontal lob damage from being unresponsive for 7 minutes .
She suffers also from depression as and anxiety .
Her memory and processing began to deteriorate but was at a steady pace . 5 months ago she began to deteriorate rapidly over two week period ( delusional , halucinating , wandering about ) After trying many professional avenues I finally took her to a and e , she was admitted to a mental health unit and after 5 months she was diagnosed with psychosis and vascular dementia as well as the brain injury .
Really I'm look to you guys for some sort of answer which I know noone can give , i am desperately struggling to deal with the way she treats me , and sometimes my sister but mostly me . I Try and give her as much knowledge and support as I can but literally can not say a word right , she is verbally abusive towards me and to be truthful torn me apart I just don't know what to do anymore . I am the person who deals with her the most and sees her . I have tried various was to speak to her - be informative ( I'm being to abrupt and pushy ) agreeing with her ( I don't care and am not supportive ) be factual etc
She is argumentative and admits it's to get a rise
While I understand her life is changing and She is frightened and she feels like she has lost control , she has capacity to control herself around her carers and friends . Yet not with me ... even in front of my small children .
I guess I'm looking to see if anyone has experienced te same thing and how did they keep going . I feel terrible guilt as I know the last week I have distanced myself from her yet I know this is not what she need she needs me there to help and support her , but I'm struggling to keep myself together .
this sounds like such a selfish post but I want to know how to deal with this all so I can do what's best by her ( which Is currently nothing )
She was discharged with home care but no information for my sister and I to help suport her either .
Any ideas would be welcomed greatly, it is beginning to affect my own home life with my two bubba , and I don't want them to suffer xx