Just wanted to share a few things on here that have upset me today. I've read through recent posts and quite a few people have commented about changes in personality after a BI. I really do understand this but it still is upsetting.
I've shared in the past because I've needed to get things off my chest with people who understand.
My son had a SAH 4 years ago and has done amazingly but there are subtle changes in his personality that others probably wouldn't notice.
A few things have happened today that have upset me. He's been quite sharp with me and with one of his children. With his child, he needed to tell him off but it was his manner, such sharp words that I hate to hear and shouting. Then apologising for shouting but going over the same thing all over again.
He seems unable to let go of whatever issue there is at that moment.
I really struggle and hate the put downs and shouting. I struggle keeping quiet. I spoke to him about it but then it just opened up the issue once again and he always thinks he's right.
He can be childlike and have a laugh and a joke and say just how he feels, however inappropriate, but we can't unless he's in the mood.
He can talk throughout a TV programme but we can't.
It's like treading on eggshells. I want peace and quiet not arguments and criticism and hearing things repeated over and over again.
At the moment it's worse because Christmas is stressful, lots to do, expensive etc etc.
It's certainly not like this all the time but when it happens its upsetting.
He can also be so much fun and is a great dad but if something happens he doesn't like you never hear the end of it.
He usually thinks about things later in the day and will apologise if he thinks he should.
Anyway, thanks for listening, not upset now and got it out of my system.
Thank goodness for this forum, no one else would understand xx