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Today couldn't have been worse if it tried!

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Hi all :*

I received a letter from the DWP stating that my sick cert for my ESA was about to run out when in fact the letter was dated after it had run out!!!

Anyway I phoned Drs who were happy to do another for 6 months without me seeing the Dr - I see them roughly every 2 weeks anyway !

Bearing in mind I find telephone conversations almost impossible due to my aphasia and slurr/stammer I also can't listen/process/write down what they are saying - it's too much for my brain to take

So I then called the Central job centre to explain what had happened and the lady was lovely and told me I could go to nearest job centre and it could get faxed across instantly and my ESA released same day!

Problem was I had nobody to take me other half couldn't afford time off work and my parents both work full time and are in a different county!

So me being the stubborn idiot that I am I decided I was going to go on my own which was stupid enough and I've had sufficient enough of a shock to not do anything so ridiculous again!

So I wrote down where I live (in case something bad happened) and other halfs contact number I also wrote down where I was going in case I forgot

Problem number 1: motion sickness on bus

As I got off I promptly vomited in a flower bed!

2 Got almost to job centre and very nearly got run down by an idiot in a car literally he sped up as if to hurry me which doesn't work currently! And he slammed on his brakes I ended up sat on his bonnet

Two witnesses saw it shouted at him and asked if I was alright he then wheel span off

I was a bit shakey then when I got in job centre I burst into tears the security looked at CCTV and saw the whole thing and got his reg plates!

So I spent most of my afternoon with job centre staff and police !

I then had to get bus home again !!! I couldn't read the bus numbers so had to keep asking a couple if it was the no 2 LOL!

Seriously though I had some lovely people come to my aid today it kind of restored my faith in human kind (other than that a'hole driver!)

Xxx

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Wow what a day!

So frustrating how they write to you when it's already expired!

Sorry to hear about you other calamities, can't believe that driver, but sounds like this will go to court with all the evidence. Glad you are ok though.

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Broken_Doll in reply to

I have been absolutely exhausted the last 24 hrs done a lot of sleeping! Lol I even fell asleep with my phone in my hand and dropped it on my face - not cool!

Thanks for kind words edgy hedgehog ;)

Xx

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Danslatete

E by eck you did have an adventure!

I'm glad the incident was caught on CCTV.

It's good when there is a silver lining to an otherwise grotty situation.

I'm glad you are ok all the same.

Stay safe x

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Broken_Doll in reply to Danslatete

Thank you danslatete :)

Been so exhausted since!

You doing ok?

Xxx

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Danslatete in reply to Broken_Doll

I'm doing away fine, full of a cold from those lovely children I work with.

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Matt2584

After reading what you said about the phone thing, I am very similar to that.

I do not like using phones myself much. My bro is a chiropadist and so he has patients phoning our house a lot.

I choose not to answer the phone no more because it would likely be a patient and they would ask me to write a message which I would not want to do as my jandwriting is weird and crap and it is also wuite hard to do for me.

Like you said about listening and processing what a person has said is a task.

The other thing I hate about phones is if an Indian is on the other line. Im not trying to be horrible or nothing but these bloody Indians have got to learn some English!

They LIVE in England, at least learn the language too.

Aside from that and referring to your story, Im pleased to hear that you had some good treatment from some folk, docs.

It makes you feel great that there are nice, genuine people out there cos I alsways assume that most people are ignorant... So and so's :).

Some people seriously do not know how to drive. I remember a few years ago, all I was doing was going for a walk around the block and I was walking across a generally quiet road and a mad driver came zooming out.

I had to quickly step out the way and lost my balance at the same time, bloody idiot I tell thee!

Glad you are OK though :).

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Broken_Doll in reply to Matt2584

Thanks Matt xx

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Matt2584 in reply to Broken_Doll

No probs. now don't do it again... Mental driver, that is :).

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Tortie14

Blimey Em what a day! Just glad you weren't seriously injured by idiot driver. Take it easy now. Glad the doctors were helpful.

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Broken_Doll in reply to Tortie14

Tortie it was awful and completely wiped me out !

You doing ok?

Emma xx

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iforget

Good grief...glad you are okay...

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Broken_Doll in reply to iforget

Thanks iforget

Yes was so close and now he prob has a bottom shaped dent on his bonnet :p

So exhausted today

Hope you are doing ok

Xx

Hi Emma

hope you not too shaken up by today. You were very brave to go off on that journey on your own. Be careful and look after yourself though.

Karen x

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Thank you Karen

Maybe stupid not brave lol silly me

I won't be doing that again!

Hope you are doing ok

Emma xx

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Matt2584 in reply to Broken_Doll

There is a fine line between stupid and bravery.

I can't believe how idiotic some people are.

in reply to Broken_Doll

I'm fine thanks Emma at my mum n dads 50th celebration.

Was very confused earlier when i got here but settled down now.xx

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Kirk5w7

Hi Emma, glad you are ok.

Dealing with the DWP is a stress in itself.

I'm just the same on the phone, we've had to get a call blocker on our phone cos I was getting too many cold all's and they're twice as bad if from overseas call centre, can't understand accents and it was mega stressing me.

To the point I wouldn't answer the phone, now it screens my calls, no cold calls and when it rings it displays who is calling.

I was getting as many as 5 a day, the automated ones are the worst.

Any way hope you've recovered. Janet x

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Broken_Doll in reply to Kirk5w7

Hi Janet yes I will not answer my phone to numbers I don't recognise (or people I don't want to talk to haha!)

Yes just worn out now !

Hope you are ok!

Emma x

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Matt2584 in reply to Broken_Doll

I don't bother answering my mobile to unknown callers, it's weird cos when my Dad phones me he is listed as unknown.

So basically I rarely talk to him on the phone haha, that's a good thing though :).

My phone plays the theme tune from the film 'Dawn of the dead' when it is a number I don't recognise :).

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StrawberryCream

Hi Emma

I was totally gobsmacked with shock to read of your dreadful day! Pleased that you didn't get seriously hurt. I assume you had a collar on so the your neck was protected?? It is great to hear that some people have been helpful in supporting you after it happened. Virtual hug to you. xx

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Broken_Doll in reply to StrawberryCream

Hi caroline aww thanks for the virtual hug :)

Yes it was shocking! I just console myself with the fact that he's in trouble and he has a bum shaped dent on his bonnet!

Emma xx

WHAT A COMPLETE NIGHTMARE. YOU REALLY DON'T NEED A BRUSH WITH A P**T IN A CAR.

I'M SO GLAD YOU'RE OK.

WOULD IT BE POSSIBLE TO GET TAXIS WHEN YOU HAVE SPECIFICTHING TO DO?

MY OTHER HALF NAGGED & NAGGED ME TO GET CAB TO THEDOCTOR EVEN THI IT'S ONLY 3 MILES AWAY. I GET SO STRESSED ABOUT IT I COULDN'T COPE WITH A BUS HOME.

IT'S HELLISHLY EXPENSIVE BUT AT LEAST I KNOW I'LL BE SAFE.

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ZEB I won't be repeating those escapades that's for sure!

Yes think I'll have to get taxi but not even supposed to do that as I'm still having blackouts and my seizures aren't very well controlled yet!

Xx

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cat3

Hope you're feeling a bit better today Emma. That was an 'everyone's out to get you' day . . . . . . . . . and one of them actually did !! I hope the driver is traced and made to pay for their reckless and cowardly act.

And I'm glad you've got an extension on your ESA.

No use asking you to 'take care' as it's just not in your nature ! :O x

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lloydyuk

Sounds like quite an adventure. Don't be too hard on yourself I've done similar, months ago when I convinced myself I could go for a walk. At that time I had no balance at all I couldn't stand up for a start. It was dark, I had no phone etc but off I went! No one knew where I was and I got about a mile away turned to come back and fell over smashing my elbow and gaining a haematoma. I then fell over a raised paving slab a day or so later and landed on my elbow again......elephant arm and A&E visit.

For quite a while I was convinced I'd be back boxing and doing judo. Sounds madness now.

I do get your frustrations tho. I often think it's easier to forget who I once was and try to embrace who I am now. Hard part is the constant reminders. I try to learn new things and be the best I can I think it's all any of us can do ultimately.

I'm sure each of us are like a pebble in a pond where the ripples we create affect many many things. Best we be good pebbles and make a good plop lol

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lloydyuk

Sounds like quite an adventure. Don't be too hard on yourself I've done similar, months ago when I convinced myself I could go for a walk. At that time I had no balance at all I couldn't stand up for a start. It was dark, I had no phone etc but off I went! No one knew where I was and I got about a mile away turned to come back and fell over smashing my elbow and gaining a haematoma. I then fell over a raised paving slab a day or so later and landed on my elbow again......elephant arm and A&E visit.

For quite a while I was convinced I'd be back boxing and doing judo. Sounds madness now.

I do get your frustrations tho. I often think it's easier to forget who I once was and try to embrace who I am now. Hard part is the constant reminders. I try to learn new things and be the best I can I think it's all any of us can do ultimately.

I'm sure each of us are like a pebble in a pond where the ripples we create affect many many things. Best we be good pebbles and make a good plop lol

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