Please a Little Prayer

[Negeen]

Hey guys, i'm really not religous- but i've really been wanting to go to college. Right now the last neuropsych said college was out of the question so now i'm just working. Please pray a little prayer- i just want to go to school.

[Flumptious]

Well, I'm a screaming atheist, myself, so I can't do a prayer for you, but I am sending lots of wishes. Go on, Negeen's brain, you can do it!

[Negeen in reply to Flumptious]

Thank you Flumptious

[spartan300]

can you study at home, or is it wanting to study and be with people your own age which I can understand.

[Mikesghost]

Prayers and positive vibes! You can do it!

[SAMBS in reply to Mikesghost]

I doubt it Mikesghost.....

[Hidden]

Lots of positive thoughts and wishes from this end Negeen. Could you possibly do any short intro courses to test the water? Like, go into it on a less steep gradient to gradually get your brain's learning abilities exercised.

It might take the family pressure off too, I think you said they were pushing you a bit.

Anyway, wishing you well,

Dev

[Negeen in reply to Hidden]

Devastated, ya I actually tried college for two years, but it didn't work for me at the time. I might try again.

[RogerCMerriman in reply to Negeen]

It also depends on how the coarse is set up, I did a lot better where it's a small group, I recall almost nothing from lectures etc, even now on training days my recall is close to zero.

I started back by doing low level evening stuff, yes it was way below my level but it got me into learning the education way again.

[Negeen in reply to RogerCMerriman]

Yea, it makes sense to start small. But before I do, i'm gonna try getting some cognitive therapy.

[Hidden in reply to Negeen]

Well I really want to see you prove the Neuropsychologist wrong. When you are ready I'm sure you will do well. It is important that you make the decision to return to studying based on how confident you feel and at a level you can cope with. Hence the suggestions to do some "taster" sessions. Get those wins and successes on some short courses, it will boost your confidence and help your brain learn to learn again.

Good luck Negeen!

[Hidden]

Everyone's different, and everyone's TBI is different too so I can only tell you what I did. I was made redundant, minutes before my 'return-to-work' meeting, which was with the OT there, to explain why I needed a graduated return and not be shoved straight back into full time. So, with no employer going to hire me at any level, let alone the level I was at (essentially an MD role) on a graduated start basis, with no guarantee I'd ever be able to do it, I took myself back to college to do a degree in photography. Rehab had also failed me - it wasn't geared to the individual - and so my intention was to use it as rehab. It was Very Very Tough, but I did it, and I came out having scored the highest marks ever on the course. BUT, my constant headaches had their volume turned up, I was cut no slack for my TBI, fatigue was a constant problem, I had to leave some seminars because the environment was just too noisy to concentrate, I had to read and re-read everything multiple times because of attention and memory problems, had to ask other people to go up ladders to change backgrounds for me, had to work out a complicated reminder system to stop me missing deadlines, and I was constantly snappy with just about everyone (no change there then!), the moodswings were intense. All the other students thought I had it easy - they couldn't see my struggles. One even said, when the results were posted, "Well, it was easy for you. You're intelligent". Instead of feeling elated that I'd done so well, I felt hurt and the moodswing went down not up! Only you can tell whether you think it's worth a go, Negeen. I was lucky that my intelligence was left intact and that I have always been stubborn! One suggestion though - are there some local, short courses, you could attend, where you could gauge whether going the whole hog and signing up for a whole, long, expensive, college course would be possible?

[lorrainedickson2]

Start small Negeen and stay positive. I will pray a prayer for you ! With love x

[Negeen in reply to lorrainedickson2]

Thanks Lorraine

[Danslatete]

I did a European computer driving licence, which is nothing to do with driving!

Basic computer operations. I needed too many prompts and I got very stressed, I had horrific headaches and very big mood swings. It was not pretty when they told me I couldn't do the exam at the end of the course because I needed too much prompt cards.

I had been told that it was not advised, too much too soon.

I kept away from education till I was in a better place mentally.

I went back doing a part time course in art, better atmosphere more relaxed and was much better on my stress levels.

It's good to get a confidence boost, it feels grotty when it goes to pot.

Many people have said try short course first. I would second that. Do one and see how you get on. If you manage ok try two courses together or one more academic. As my gran says, there is more than one way to skin a cat!

Good luck