please help me

[Daughter12345]

2 weeks ago my dad was diagnosed with a grade 4 glioblastoma and given a few months to live, with the option of chemo to possibly give him a little longer. He is deteriorating incredibly quickly and says he feels near the end. On top of this, his younger Thai wife has starting demanding my sisters and I give her large sums of money otherwise she will destroy his will so she gets everything. She has manipulated him so much to turn him against us for her own financial gain, and behaved extremely nastily towards us. My dad says he no longer trusts his family, only her. You can imagine our feelings towards her at this point. My dad is now refusing to go to any chemo appointments without her, leaving me in an impossibly situation: take him and be forced to behave cordially towards her, or not take him and he not get the treatment he wants. He is not eligible for patient transport services. We don’t want to involve police as the stress on my dad is already too high and we want to act in his best interests. Any advice would be so appreciated on how to possibly navigate this.

[AvocadoForever]

Dear Daughter12345, I am so sorry you are going through this, on top of dealing with the terrible disease itself. It must be incredibly hard for you. I'm afraid I don't have advice for you, but you might be able to find more support and tips in the biggest Glioblastoma forum on the internet: it's a Facebook group called Glioblastoma - GBM survivors to thrivers! Someone might be able to help you there. It's a very supportive community. Wishing you and your dad all the best.

[Tansi75]

Hi daughter 12345,

Sorry to read about your fathers diagnosis and the situation with his wife. I was diagnosed with my grade 4 GBM in 2010, and diet is a key component to living a longer and better life.

Do you know what diet he is being given? Sugar feeds cancer cells, so cutting out all unnecessary sugar is vital.

I know you are between a rock and a hard place at the moment, but I do think you should re-consider contacting the Police, as this may be the only way to ensure decisions are made in his best interest.

Do you know when and how his will was created, is it a self-made will or was it created via a solicitor? Does one actually exist, have you seen it or is this just a method of obtaining payments from you?

[birdyellow]

I am terrible sorry to hear about you dad's situation and wish you well under such difficult time. Take care of yourself .

[Zhaleh_TBTC Administrator]

Hello, I am so sorry to hear what a difficult situation you are navigating alongside your father's diagnosis. Please do reach out to our Support Team, we are here to listen and it may help to talk things through and work out how best to manage things. Our lines are open Monday to Friday 0808 800 0004. Or, if you prefer you can start a conversation with the team on LiveChat via our website: thebraintumourcharity.org/l.... We also have a range of other support services you can access, such as free counselling and speaking to a benefits and money advice specialist. Warm wishes - the Support Team.