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Feeling numb

Hi guys, haven't posted in a few days. It's been crazy busy. We had to drive three hours to Birmingham yesterday and on our way back now. We had to go to the funeral of my step dad in laws mum. I know, a mouthful right, but family still the same and she was such a lovely woman that shouldnt have left us. She was diagnosed with cancer and died mere days later out of the blue.

The funeral was hard today, walking through it all I kept having flashbacks of my mum's funeral a year and a half ago. It's made today even harder.

We are now in the car, I've already had a twenty minute nap as I just couldn't stay away and even though I'm up now I feel drained, numb in emotions, and my whole body hurts.

I have taken my medication regularly the past few days knowing this will happen but does anyone have some tips for in car care as it were and also how to help with how I am feeling now. I keep feeling like I shouldn't feel like this as it wasn't my mum, but it's someone's mum and I know how that feels. I was diagnosed with severe depression and moderate anxiety when my mum died, which I think gets better and then these things set me back.

I have a wedding Saturday too and work tomorrow so I best work on feeling better quick.

I hope all my other fibro friends are feeling okay today and I'm sending gentle hugs x

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Hope you feel better for the wedding.

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Hi Danni_jane sounds like a very stressful time you have been having.

It is not a surprise that you have had so much pain. Mixed emotions wedding and funeral i can imagine thats very difficult.

Sending hugs

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I would say you are having a strong attack of empathy that is also stirring up emotions you have about your own mum. The lady may not be your mum but as you say she was family so it's still a loss. Don't suppress the feeling, let yourself grieve for her and also let the residual grief you still feel for your mum come out too. This quote was on a card I received from a friend after my own mum's passing "Grief is like the ocean, it comes in waves, ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim." I think this sums it up perfectly so let yourself have a cry, then wash your face, get yourself a good night's sleep, put your water wings on and you will be ready for work tomorrow. Take care my lovely. xxx

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Hi DanniiJane

I am so gneuinely sorry to read of your sad loss, and I personally think that you are a wonderful person who cares about others and this is why you feel the way that you do my friend?

The *lifescript.com website says about travelling:

* Chill out. Relaxation techniques can minimize fibromyalgia pain, Dr. Schubiner says. ...

Dress the part. ...

Stay warm. ...

Travel light. ...

Sleep well. ...

Keep moving. ...

Listen to your body. ...

Schedule downtime.

I want to sincerely wish you all the best of luck and please take care of yourself my friend.

All my hopes and dreams for you

Ken x

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