Depression getting worse - And so is everything else...

[FuzzyPonies]

I have fibro as well as hypermobilty. I've had more problems with the fibro lately, acheing, tiredness being the worse things along with joint pain all over. I have depression and big issues with lack of confidence and self esteem as well (in fact i cannot deal with people in general, prefer to avoid and keep myself to myself which not working i am very much able to do that). I have horses so the only interaction with people i have is when i got to the yard, i'm on a livery yard so there is a lot of people but i can still keep myself to myself mostly.. but lately.. i just feel like everything is getting to me, i find myself worrying about other peoples opinions an thoughts, like no one likes me... this is just making me feel so depressed... i just don't know what to do...

[Fibrofoggiest]

Awwwwwwww dear Fuzzy, I empathise with you so so much on this, I had horses when I was younger but due to spine fractures can't ride anymore, but I still love horses and find dealing with animals in real life much more easy than dealing with people. You obviously have huge issues with self esteem, but I can tell from what you have written that you are a lovely person, but with very little confidence. You must not worry about what other people think of you, you must take care of you, and if people do not like you, which I very much doubt , then they are not even worth worrying yourself about .

I was a "people pleaser" and it nearly did for me, now I live a very quiet life in my little cottage with my two terriers. I sometimes worry about what people will think of me, but then I think they probably aren't thinking anything about me in the first place and if they are the so be it. I come here and meet with nice people who don't judge and do give support, I hope that you too will find that is the case for you too, I'm sure it will be

Do feel free to message me any time at all if I can be of any help to you.

Gentle Hugs, Foggy x

[FuzzyPonies]

Thanks foggy. I am a people pleaser and do all I can to help others to only be used and abused I don't ride for problems with my joints but have little mini ponies that most are rescued. I often feel people are always judging me and like i can't do anything right, but don't know how to switch the feelings off so to speak.

[Ginsing in reply to FuzzyPonies]

Evening fussy is there no one you can chat with at the livery . Stables. Well you do have the wonderful horses. Yes I adore them but can no longer ride strangely I had anaccident t and chipped and . Cracked vertebrae. In my neck so no more riding . I miss it terribly even after thirty years.

If I can help you are welcome to message me all ways good to have some one who you can talk too

Xxgin

[suffolklass]

Hi Fuzzy.

It is difficult to switch off thoughts we don't want and which almost haunt us. I really understand your feelings. There are different agencies which offer confidence courses and other similar courses.

If you don't feel you can do that at the moment there is a book which I bought, Think About Your Thinking. It isn't a heavy reading book and is written in easy to read chapters. It goes into the way we think and gives us alternative ways to think about situations. I found it really useful and re-read it from time to time as a top up if I find myself wandering in the wrong direction again.

You certainly come across as a very caring person. Caring for rescue animals of any kind takes a special person and one of them looks like you.

There is always someone who cares on site and you can message any of us if you don't want others to see. Don't avoid us, we, I and many others want to help.

Take care

Is xx

[Cookie72]

Hi fuzzy ponies yes the same goes for me, you can message anytime, just remember we all suffer the same pain so we know just what you are going thru, they are a mad lovely caring bunch on here so keep logging in even if you don't join in, it's sometimes great just to read what others are up to, they go on picnics sometimes, good laugh, apparently I think we are all gonna stage a hibernation lockin this winter, should be fun, do join us, you sound as tho you have no confidence in your self, so we will help you, what's that old saying, " you have to love yourself before you can expect anyone else too" and I'm sure reading thru the lines you are a lovely person, you just have to believe in yourself....depression is all part of the fibro, do you take an antidepressant, if not ask your Doc to try you with some, I'm on serttraline ,.... anyways I do go on dont I, just remember we are all here for you, take care and look forward to reading your posts, and remember if you don't want every one to read your thoughts then in box one of us and get it off your chest, we are all good at keeping things to ourselves ...sending you a huge gentle hug...Dee xx

[RIBBONPINK]

HI FUZZY PONIES WHEN I GET DOWN I HAVE TO BE ON MY OWN SOMETIMES,I HUG MY CATS AND TALK TO MY PARROTS.MY HUSBAND WORKS LONG HOURS. OUR PETS GIVE US UNCONDITIONAL LOVE WHEN WE NEED IT DONT THEY? I FEEL OTHER PEOPLE OUT THERE DONT UNDERSTAND US THATS WHY HERE WE CAN TALK ABOUT ANYTHING IT IS HELPING MY CONFIDENCE.SOMETIMES A GOOD CRY CLEARS THE AIR.XX PINK RIBBONS