5 days past transfer with baby number two

[ashbb]

Hello,

I’m back here 4 years later as it’s a great place to vent anxieties. We successfully had our gorgeous little boy end of 2021 and have had really mixed feelings about trying again for baby number two. Scared of the potential failures in fertility treatment and the emotional upheaval whilst also parenting a toddler but also changing our unit of 3 that we waited for so long for

We started the process for trying again in 2023 but then avoidance took over. We then tried again in November 2024 but timings of treatment didn’t work with other commitments. We just transferred one of our remaining 4 embryos on Jan 7th (almost the exact same date as our son’s FET in 2021).

Company protocols changed and I was told to take cyclogest pessaries before transfer and my goodness they made me sooooo anxious and depressed. I was so fatigued I had to return to bed for a few hours each morning which is not like me at all.

Eventually pleaded to come off them and they agreed. We would stick to an ovitrelle injection on the day of transfer.

I anxiously await the day we can test -Jan 20th. Previously we found out 10 days after transfer as they did blood tests but things have changed and I’ve to do an at home pregnancy test 13 days later. Frustrating to wait longer.

I guess I’m posting in case I need support if it hasn’t worked or possibly to share some hope if it does work.

[Twiglet2]

good luck! As someone who had a baby in 2021 too and has tried for the past 3.5 years for a sibling (currently 32 weeks pregnant) I will warn you though you think it might be easier (emotionally, physically etc) the 2nd time around but it absolutely isn’t! Sending you lots and lots of luck! Xx

[ashbb in reply to Twiglet2]

Haha! I remember you. Congratulations! Hope all goes well for the birth. One more week till I can test. My stress levels are higher this time what with wrestling a toddler. 🫣

[Hopeful221107]

hello! We are second transfer twins - i had my first IVF baby in 2022 and transferred second embryo on 6th Jan. Our test date is supposed to be 20th Jan too!

Feeling very anxious because I don’t feel the same as last time but I also don’t trust my body-memory, and know it can be different every transfer. This is our only other euploid from 2 ECs. I am trying to avoid thinking about what we will do if it doesn’t work until we know the outcome but it’s hard!

Wishing you a lot of strength and luck and calm over the next few days.

[ashbb in reply to Hopeful221107]

Oh exciting and nerve wracking. I feel the same. Hyperfocusing on any twinge. The last time I was off work so could just relax as much as possible and go for nice walks.

Now I’m paranoid that any stress is going to sabotage this. We have another 3 embryos left but tbh not sure how much I’m up for spending another £3k to do another transfer. We’ve certainly decided that we’re not doing any more full cycles/egg collections.

Wishing the best for you. Keep in touch whatever the outcome! X