Anyone in their TWW

[Avocadolover1]

hi everyone, so I’ve had my first frozen transfer yesterday, Tuesday 12th. November. The transfer was difficult, the professional who’s done the transfer struggled finding my cervix and with a full bladder I was in EXCRUCIATING PAIN. It took forever to get sorted before the transfer happened. I cried a lot in the toilet when i went to empty my bladder after the transfer. It was not nice at all. The moment i was hoping to love and experience during the transfer went straight out the window. Makes me sad really.

Anywhooooo……the transfer was done and I’m now in my TWW. Has anyone had any difficult transfers?

[Sarah770]

Did they make you wait before you went to empty your bladder? I had a difficult transfer once when I forgot not to take my cyclogest on the morning of the transfer. They had to clean my cervix before actually doing the transfer it was very difficult, especially with my full bladder!

[Avocadolover1 in reply to Sarah770]

They kept trying to find my cervix whilst I had the full bladder. Everything just looked dark on the screen as the other person who did the scan said. They changed Catheter and speculum. I held so much that at the end I nearly peed on the professional. I think a bit came out. I was so embarrassed! My husband came into the toilet and hugged me as I cried because I can’t believe that little happiness was taken away. I was in AGONY! My husband wanted to ask them if it’s best to let some of the urine out. But I think he felt awkward asking a professional such questions. We had to double check that the embryo was definitely in. Because of how it all happened.

[Sarah770 in reply to Avocadolover1]

They always double check that the embryo is definitely in, wherever you are. Rest assured that they is no magic at all about the transfer, you don’t feel anything special, it is insignificant at best and painful at worst. You did not miss anything however you must remain laid down for 20 minutes after the transfer.

[Endofitall in reply to Sarah770]

I am sorry you had a bad experience I’ve been there with bad transfers and know how worrying it can feel but honestly even the ones that went smoothly - I agree with Sarah770 that they were non event at most to painful at worst. I don’t know many people who’ve had it be this wondrous moment. Also I’ve been told at two separate clinics that no need to lie down or rest after - maybe just no trampolining. Try to watch and read some funny things and enjoy being PUPO now ❤️

[Avocadolover1 in reply to Sarah770]

Awww maybe it was all a fairy tale in my mind about how I’d feel there and then and what I expected.

My clinic lets you get up right away after the transfer. As soon as it was in, they hurriedly escorted me to the toilet. Then it was an hour drive home from then. They said it won’t “fall out” so 🤷🏾‍♀️.

Thank you ever so much for your reply. You are very caring x

[Twiglet2 in reply to Sarah770]

You defo don’t need to lie down for 20mins after transfer 🤗 there was a study done on this and it makes absolutely no difference to success rate at all xx

[Avocadolover1 in reply to Twiglet2]

Thank you for your reply. It’s worrying when you hear all different mixed information. Straight after transfer my clinic allows you to get up and straight to the toilet due to having a full, uncomfortable bladder. X

[Twiglet2 in reply to Avocadolover1]

Mine is the same and I have a 3 year old and currently 23 weeks pregnant so the embryo is defo tucked in there safe 🤗 good luck xx

[Avocadolover1 in reply to Twiglet2]

congratulations ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

[dbrjmb in reply to Avocadolover1]

Sorry to hear you had a difficult transfer. I can relate. My experience was painful too and they struggled to find my cervix. They had to use forceps as well and different sizes of catheter, it was a painful experience but when I look back now all I actually think about is the moment when they showed us the little bubble of air as our little embryo was put in place, it was like watching a litte star and now 18 weeks pregnant.!!oh and my nurses actually encouraged me to go to the toilet straight away, rest assured the embryo will not fall out of place and I didn't have to rest for 20 minutes, it's not necessary. My nurses told me not to do any strenuous exercises during TWW, but they also told me not to rest too much as well and recommended walking everyday. Good luck with your journey. Xx

[Belldandy]

At my clinic, they give you a document that lists several studies that conclude that rest after embryo transfer is not needed (and even not beneficial) to ease women’s piece of mind as I guess everybody thinks it’s going to fall out! I am sorry for your hard transfer but now fingers crossed 🤞. Keep us updated!

[Avocadolover1 in reply to Belldandy]

Thank you for this x

[Sarah770 in reply to Belldandy]

I had 5 transfers in my life, including one outside of my window (error from the doctor), and 3 pregnancies. The two clinics I dealt with (US and Greece) are beyond vis a vis the 20 minutes resting. I find safe to stick to the resting. It does not hurt anyone to lay down and avoid unnecessary contractions.

[Avocadolover1 in reply to Sarah770]

Makes me wonder if the rules are just different in the UK?

Must be a good reason as well I suppose x

[Sarah770 in reply to Avocadolover1]

It appears to me that there are many different practices all over the world and that at the end of the day, no one’s knows the truth. My advice is to never go crazy (like not moving at all after a transfer), to remain as calm as can be mentally (by doing other things - I know it is very difficult) but to always remain on the cautious side. For ex on my las t transfer 10 days ago my clinic told me that my level of progesterone was low and that I should add support. The doctor who prepped my endometrium thought that the level was fine as it was. I remained on the cautious side by adding progesterone. For ex for the 20min lay down, I would do the same and stay on the cautious side and do it irrespective of what the doctors have to say about it. A part of the community advocates for this, I experienced positive transfers using this method, I do it, whether they have to say about it. It is good to keep our opinions and our feelings in general, rather than doing everything they say without questioning. It is my view on things, I am very stubborn, I always question what they say as I want to understand. If they can’t explain it means they don’t know.

[Chocraisin]

Hi, I'm sorry to hear you had a difficult transfer, and I can relate! They couldn't find my cervix either and had to use forceps for a mock one, then in the real one they couldn't get a clear visual. I had to go to loo to empty just a little bit from my extremely full bladder 3 times during their attempts before they finally successfully performed the transfer. I was in pain too with overly full bladder. At my next FET with a different clinic, they said it is not necessary to have a very full bladder and better not to - information I could have done with knowing the first time!!

Anyway, second time was easy, and taking a sedative really helped with being relaxed too. If you have to have another just know it can be a much much better experience, and pain-free! Sending you loads of luck for your 2ww

[Avocadolover1 in reply to Chocraisin]

Hey? Thanks for sharing your experience. To be fair I could have done without that pain, I couldn’t even walk that’s how bad it was. I wish they could have told me to empty a bit more as it didn’t make sense being in so much pain. It’s the worst pain I’ve been in. Thank you anyway. I’m still hoping got a positive x

[Chocraisin]

Yes, I don't think a bad experience with transfer has any bearing on the outcome whatsoever! If needs be, you will just be more informed going forward. At my second FET they were sympathetic to the difficulty I'd had the first time, and made sure a doctor was present for it too. Keeping my fingers crossed for you