General concerns / SSR delay / need a listening ear!

[Terrierlover123]

Hi everyone,

I haven't considered posting on something like this before but here goes!

My husband was due to have a SSR in June. The clinic cancelled this with less than 24 hours notice due to concerns with high blood pressure that is under control with medication. We are funding this treatment privately. Therefore, we had to pay another £500 for a full cardiologist report to prove my husband was well enough. It is now nearly August and next week we will find out what dates they have available to re-book the SSR. Without typing everything out that has gone on, in summary, it has felt like a complete uphill struggle. The clinic have been very apologetic, blaming anesthetists and whoever else. One morning I cried on the phone due to frustration and I was told they would call me Monday morning to check on my wellbeing and they never did. I have at times felt like they are so frustrated with us for going back and forth and bothering them but understandably, we want to get on and move forwards. My husband and I are fit and well, have had the initial tests to confirm there's a good chance this will be successful and I just don't want to waste anymore time.

I guess I need some reassurance about the clinic as all sorts is running through my head - are they competent enough? Will they use the right eggs and sperm when the time comes?! do they have it in for us? I know it sounds crazy but hey, it's where my head has gone.

I have contemplated moving the sperm to another clinic but I am not sure of the ease of this.

We are keeping this IVF journey to ourselves therefore none of our family and friends know, so it is very hard to vent and talk about this.

If I could have some reassurance that would be great as I feel so in the dark and frustrated right now! 🥵

[JA-fnuk Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

You are certainly having a difficult time - a real upward struggle It is really important that they make sure your husband is as fit as possible because some meds used in anaesthetics can effect the blood pressure All clinics in the UK[ Private & NHS] are governed by the Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority and have rules and regulations they must stick to when operating a fertility clinic They are also inspected at regular intervals to ensure the clinic is observing these conditions before a licence is granted and renewal For more info take a look at hfea.gov.uk

Take care

Janet-Partner

[Terrierlover123 in reply to JA-fnuk]

Hi Janet, Thanks for your message and understanding. I am pleased they are putting my Husband's wellbeing first and that has never been something I have questioned, it has just been the lack of communication / general understanding around it but I will see how things go... Take care. 😀