Pathetically weak line 12dp5dt- help!

[LallyLoops]

Hi all, I'm looking for someone to share a positive story about having a terribly weak line 12dp5dt... see photo. It was done with 2nd morning urine, and with the test you get from the clinic. My OTD is on Wednesday (2days).

The photo was taken within 3 or 4 mins, but went darker later. I did some other cheap tests with 3rd urine which barely showed.

Am I out?

[LallyLoops]

These are my tests and hour or so later. The others were done with 3.m.u.

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[Greenleaves1]

Hopefully tomorrow is darker again for you xx

[LouCollier]

1st morning will probably give you a stronger line tomorrow (I always found it a nightmare on test date as I couldn't sleep so always ended up peeing through the night and would lay there needing a pee and thinking I can't go because then it would give me a strong results)

I have everything crossed it will get stronger each day for you xx

[LallyLoops]

Chemical pregnancy 😔 negative this morning. How do you all keep this going for so long? I see some women have done 6 or 7 rounds of IVF. Im on my 2nd failed transfer and I'm emotionally done.

[Doodlebug23 in reply to LallyLoops]

I didn’t want to comment before but I had the same on my 4th transfer. I got a vv faint line on day 9 that was gone by day 12. So sorry it’s gone this way for you, I know how crushing it is. I took some comfort from the fact it did start to implant and was probably down to the embryo.

I’ve had RIF. No reason or explanation. It’s taken me 7 transfers (3 doubles) to get a BFP. Unfortunately I don’t really have any advice except don’t give up. It’s a numbers game and you just have to find your lucky one 🍀

Give yourself time to grieve. Cause it’s a loss. For me it was eat, drink and vape 🙈 Not advocating that, but just be kind to yourself, allow yourself some time, then decide you’re next move and throw your all into that! You got this 💪🏻

[LallyLoops in reply to Doodlebug23]

Thank you so much for your reply! Im glad you finally got your BFP! It's good to hear positive stories, even though I can imagine it's been so hard to go through. I'm sure it was all worth it.

Did you ask for double transfers? My clinic hasn't offered that yet, though I guess it's because we had so few Embryos last time.

There is also no explanation for my infertility. I lost 3 consecutive natural pregnancies in 2022 then just stopped getting pregnant. I've been prodded and poked and they can find nothing. I'm at my healthiest... nobody understands whats going on.

Have you had your baby already? Or how far along are you?

Thanks for the support 🥰

[Doodlebug23 in reply to LallyLoops]

I was starting to doubt that it would ever happen and tbh still now doesn’t feel real!

My clinic were reluctant to do double transfers but finally agreed on transfer 5, then 6 and 7 were fine.

I had a miscarriage several years ago and no pregnancy since, no explanation. And no explanation for RIF either.

I’m only 5+2 so very early days.

X

[Twiglet2 in reply to LallyLoops]

I’m so sorry I’ve had quite a few chemicals 😢 one thing to take away is that the embryo did implant so that’s half the battle and the next one just needs the right embryo too 🤗💜 not something that will help right now but hopefully in a few days or weeks when you are ready to think about next steps it will give you some hope. Thinking of you xx

[LallyLoops in reply to Twiglet2]

Thank you for the support. 🥰

[Glaedy]

My 3rd transfer was chemical ;( I got decent line 10dp5dt and by 13dp5dt it completely disappeared.Last month I was so distressed that out 4th transfer didn't took that we decided to take short 2-3month break before going for another FET just to reset emotionally and physically because I won't lie, the last medicated transfer took a toll on me. Do you still have any embabies frozen? I will keep my fingers crossed for your success!

[LallyLoops in reply to Glaedy]

That was our last. We only got 3 from 10, and only one was genetically ok and we just lost it. Need to go the full egg retrieval route again in June. My sister in law is having IVF for her second and is probably pregnant now as she's started making excuses not to drink. My other sister in law is getting married next week, so there will be a baby soon there too. 3 friends have had babies in the last few months. Im sitting here crocheting baby clothes and blankets for other peoples babies whilst losing my own. And I haven't told anyone about our journey or our losses, which means noone asks me if im ok, and noone knows I've been a mummy too, if only for a couple of months at the most. Urgh. Sorry for the rant, feeling sorry for myself is not something I do often but as I'm anonymous here it feels a bit easier! Thanks for the support. Maybe taking a break is the way forward for us too. Hope you get your baby soon, and wishing you strength for the next medicated round xx

[MrsOrangejuice]

I don't know if this will help right now but your experience sounds pretty similar to mine - two early losses and they were crushing. We had to have two back to back rounds which I didn't expect and my clinic had assured me wasn't going to be necessary as I had such a great AMH and all results were perfect. The second one I was losing at my in-laws' family bbq where my SIL just announced her early pregnancy (her second child) and it would have been pretty much the same dates as mine. Everyone was asking her if it was twins and would she have more(!) as she had bad morning sickness. We never told anyone we were TTC let along going through IVF so I just smiled and broke a bit inside. I thought the losses meant it would never happen and that something was fundamentally wrong but my consultant said - as gently as possible - that he thought they were actually positive signs and meant statistically we had much better chances and had overcome so many hurdles and ruled out so many problems to get that far. He said with unexplained infertility, no known issues and age not a problem, he would expect 1 in 3 to implant, which was about the same as natural conceptions. I still made him go through every test, investigation, option, treatment etc and although all he came up with was progesterone, it helped me to feel at least I wasn't missing something. The next FET worked. Then I had two more transfers trying for a sibling - ended in a PUL at 10 weeks and a BFN, then out of nowhere my first ever natural pregnancy, and I've now had two children in less than two years, and I'll be 40 soon. So get through this awful bit, regroup, decide with a clearer head what you want to do and then jump straight in and don't second guess. You were a mummy and you're so strong to have gotten this far. It's also an incredibly strong thing to decide enough is enough, I want a life again. But if you want to carry on treatment or TTC, focus on the future where you can be a mummy who brings their baby home an don't look back.