Sensitive Don't lose hope with negative early testing sometimes they aren't right!

[Jess1981]

hi ladies.

I very rarely post here as I was lucky enough to have my daughters ages 4 and nearly 2 after a tough 7 year journey for our first. We have also had 4 miscarriages and 1 late loss.

I have been a serial early tester after having our first daughter too scared after a long journey with her to test early ! Testing as 12 DPO but this cycle it didn't show and I was convinced it was done especially with heavy period cramping a day after missed period so take a test to show myself it was really over this cycle but instead got a surprise BFP. So it is very possible to have false negatives if testing before missed period. I hope this offers hope to anyone else testing early but not yet seeing BFP hang on in there - it ain't over till period is here! I hope my post doesn't offend not my intention at all, I am not really confident at all of not having another miscarriage after 5 losses but one day at time. Lots of baby dust to all xx

[CardiGrey]

Thanks for sharing hope Jess and I wish you a smooth and healthy pregnancy xx

[Jess1981 in reply to CardiGrey]

Thank you. I hope you are well? Xx

[CardiGrey in reply to Jess1981]

I’m struggling at the moment hun. Just got so much going on. Hoping for a miracle this year. My partner and I are now looking into IVF after our loss. I hate the uncertainty of everything but hoping one day I can look back and it’s all been worth it xx

[Jess1981 in reply to CardiGrey]

That is the worst part of infertility. If someone could've said to me years ago whilst struggling for our first " it will be ok Jess - you will have that family that you dream of with your husband " I would've relaxed a lot more and enjoyed the time we had together more instead I felt I was constantly fast forwarding my life. 😞 It is my belief that most couples do end up with a family and there is no reason you can't be one of them too 🥰 the fact you did manage to conceive tho it wasn't the result you wanted 💔 our first positive test was also a early loss then I had another 2 surgeries to treat my endometriosis and 2 months later conceived our first daughter. Dreams can happen I never thought we would ever have one baby it felt it would be everyone but us. Keeping everything crossed you won't have to wait too much longer until you have your miracle in your arms. Yeah it is definitely worth all the years of heartache Xx

[CardiGrey in reply to Jess1981]

Stories like yours do give me hope. I am hopeful for the future but it’s just being in the present with the uncertainty that is the lonely part. It’s lovely to read when someone gets that happy ending and you have been through so much. It’s incredible that people like you have the will to go on- I feel like stopping at the first hurdle already. My partner has two kids and it’s difficult sometimes to be around. Even when they’re watching their TV shows and everything is about “mummy” and just not knowing whether I will ever hear that word and it’s for me. I am hopeful though and thank you for your kind words ❤️ xx

[Jess1981 in reply to CardiGrey]

It is a bloody tough journey that's for sure. Keep going and wont give up it will all be worth it in the end . Your time will come coz you are strong and fighting this to come out the other side Xx

[Fruitandflowers]

Congratulations Jess! Was this a natural pregnancy or IVF?

[Jess1981 in reply to Fruitandflowers]

Thank you it was natural.Its a real struggle for to having a successful pregnancies out of 8 only 2 have been healthy babies . Miscarriages do rob the excitement of a pregnancy. Hope your pregnancy is going well Xx

[Fruitandflowers in reply to Jess1981]

You've been through more than most and totally understandable. I was just going to say I think natural pregnancies can show up quite late and it's difficult to date and not worry there's something wrong, like it's all behind where it should be - especially compared to IVF and all the known dates. I'm trying to think of each time as new and not be worried by past experiences (or even the fact we had to IVF, which my irrational brain tells me means there must be something 'wrong' which could ruin everything without warning). I'm with you on your reply about wishing someone could have said things will be alright eventually and just keep going through the hard parts, but I've accepted I won't ever be not anxious about this, and that is fine too. I really hope this one works out for you and you can complete your family x

[romaluna2015]

hi Jess, we used to speak regular on here. Hope you and pregnancy are doing well. I often wonder how everyone I used to communicate with on our journeys are doing on here. Xx

[Jess1981 in reply to romaluna2015]

I lost the pregnancy and another one ( so far 3 miscarriages after our youngest daughter) x

[romaluna2015 in reply to Jess1981]

Ohh Jess I’m so sorry it must be so draining for you xxx