Advice on waiting for viabilty scan after bfp!

[LunaSky2]

I posted a wee while ago with my faint bfp on 4dp5dt & we've enjoyed it whilst being very cautious however now we have our official scan date, 22nd of June, I am absolutely bricking it!! I will be 8 weeks & 1 so I'm not sure if I want to pay for a private scan at 6 weeks just incase there isn't a heart beat as I know I'll be filled with the hopes that "there will be in a week" which is the case for some but I know it would play havoc with my head!! Ive been testing every few days and they seem to be getting darker but im so cautious of it all just incase! Any advice for keeping busy or how anyone else coped with the wait between test & scan xxx

[Chiefy]

The wait for the scan is worse than the 2ww. There's nothing you can do but go one day at a time. I had a scan at 6+1 and there was a heartbeat, but I know a lot of people don't see anything that early and I think if we hadn't seen anything I would have been devastated (we went for an early private scan so my husband could be there due to covid restrictions).

I found that it didn't matter how many scans I had, my anxiety for those first 22 weeks (when I was able to feel baby) was through the roof. I think I had about 6 scans in that time as I was so convinced I would lose the baby. The scan only reassures you for a couple of days and then the panic started again. I had to ultimately try to accept that what would be would be and no amount of scans or pregnancy tests was going to change the outcome.

You know you and whether you can cope with an early scan that may be inconclusive.

Sending you love x

[Twiglet2]

hi lovely congratulations 🥳 and welcome to another ‘wait’ this one being even harder! I didn’t really ‘cope’ at that stage so don’t have any decent advice (I was also bleeding so stress levels to the max!) but I was going to suggest maybe posting on the fertility network uk pregnancy support forum which is for people who have gotten pregnant after treatment etc as I have saw lots of helpful posts on this there 🤗 ps I got scans private and nhs all throughout as much as I could as it helped me so defo an option for you. I had early scans on nhs because of the bleeding (5.5 and 6.5 weeks) and yeah there wasn’t much to see at that stage other than fetal pole etc so was very much a wait and see holding message anyway where as the 8 week one we saw so much more! I hope you can find a way to make the time go quickly 🤗 xx

[km307]

No real advice, just wanted to show solidarity! I think we must have transferred about the same time, but thankfully my viability scan is a week earlier. This is the third time I’ve done this wait, and it’s hard every time. I won’t be doing a private scan before my clinic scan, but am doing some home blood tests to check hcg, which will hopefully give me some reassurance that things are going in the right direction. With my last successful transfer I did private scans at 6, 8, 10 and 15 weeks and it’s an expensive hobby!! Good luck in your wait x

[JoleneR]

As someone who recently had an inconclusive result spot on 6 weeks, I would definitely recommend waiting until at least 7 weeks for a scan.! The wait for a second scan is worse than the first, in my experience. I would never have agreed to scan so early, but naiive me took the date the receptionist gave me. At the scan, the doctor told me it was common for 6 week scans to be inconclusive.

The experience was so stressful, I chose to wait a whole 14 days for a rescan (going this afternoon, ugh).

I've been genuinely busy with work and life, so that's how I've coped with the wait, but I can't say I haven't been anxious.

Whatever you choose, I truly wish everything goes well for you, and all the best of luck xx

[LunaSky2]

Thank you ALL for your lovely comments & stories! It really is so much more difficult than the 2ww, I even cheated that and tested early so this wait will feel even longer 🫣 I do think i will just wait it out though because I don't think I could cope with the maybe next scan there will be etc! I wish I could keep busy with work but I've only 1 full week left before I'm off for summer holidays for 9 so that will make things so much harder, I might get some crafty bits try to keep my mind occupied!

Thank you all🫶🏼❤️