I’m having my (8th or 9th, honestly don’t know anymore) transfer tomorrow and have been struggling with anxiety this week. It’s my fourth with DE and comes on the back of two miscarriages in the last 18 months as well as a BFN and a chemical.
I am just feeling slightly hopeless, sort of going through the motions and trying not to really think about it. I haven’t been that well over the last couple of weeks (I’ve got ME) so feel a bit defeated already. I really need some words of encouragement or any advice or positive stories, xx
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It does get tough to keep the positivity after everything you go through but you are an amazing human - just take each day as it comes and do whatever you need to get yourself feeling as good as you can. This could be the embryo you've been waiting for and will be sending you hopeful healthy wishes tomorrow for your transfer. Don't lose hope, your happy ending could be round the corner xx
Heaps of luck lovely. I think it's totally normal to feel defeated/anxious/hopeless when you have been through so much. With my most recent DE transfer I was so convinced it was pointless I had a glass of wine the evening before to chill out a bit. I went into the room feeling like I was going through the motions and I am pretty sure I even mentioned something about it being a waste of time... anyway here I am 31 weeks pregnant. And I had had previously transferred I think 16 embryos and had also had some MCs... it can and does happen. Don't beat yourself up about not being the positive ray of sunshine etc., just do what you need to do to get through each day and know that every single emotion is valid and normal x
Sending heaps of good luck and baby dust to you 💞.
I have been thinking about you.
I think it’s natural to feel how you do after all you’ve been through. Just take each day as you can. Don’t beat yourself up about not being 100%positive, it a self protection mechanism in a way.
You are amazing. Remember that. I have everything crossed this is your time lovely xx
thanks so much ever! I knew I could count on the amazing human beings on here. I take so much comfort in your words and will be looking at them many times over the next 24 hours. Love to you all. Xxx
I dunno how many embryos I have had through my cycles… some lost, some tested, some transferred, 1 MC, 1 BFN but I also got 1 amazing daughter….
It’s a pure numbers game.
You are 💯 NOT hopeless. Look what you & your body have been through & you are still standing.
Download the Calm app. Listen to a meditation before bed, put on a sleep story when in bed & put on an upbeat playlist for your drive to the clinic! You’ve got this.
Wishing you all the baby dust there is & hoping this is your time x
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All that baby dust around finally worked.
Sharing hope and postive vibes (surrogacy)
9dpt and AF symptoms and low mood…needing positive vibes!
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