mixed feelings here that I just needed to get off my chest. ...
so I had my fresh embryo transfer yesterday. The embryologist said it was good quality at 4BA.the clinic rang me today to say that out of the remaining 6 embryos we had from this cycle, There were none to freeze.
I am so shocked! Before transfer yesterday the embryologist said that there was one other good one just slightly behind our 4BA and three others that looked promising leaving them to day 6.
then today.. ..nothing! This is our last chance and I am devestated.i .am so blessed that we got to a transfer and I knew our odds were against us with my age (42) and I'm so thankful for that transfer but I really hoped we would have had one at least to fall back on.
no point to this post really,I just needed to air my feelings. Not feeling that hopeful now, and feel that added pressure and stress of it being our last try! Thank you for reading....if you got this far!
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So sorry you've had that shock! Ivf always has something else to throw at you doesn't it. I understand why you feel as you do, I'm 41 too and feel that pressure a lot.
I had that situation too but with a donor egg. I’m currently 22 weeks pregnant with the good blastocyst but the 3 others weren’t good enough to freeze. So now, as long as everything continues to go well, we get one baby, which of course is wonderful, but I’m also sad that it won’t have a sibling. It’s definitely a mixed bag of emotions. Good luck with everything! X
I am sorry to hear that and I completely understand. The same thing happened to me. It hit me really hard; I had been so positive but suddenly felt immense pressure. I think it’s important to congratulate yourself on how far you’ve come and focus on how it only takes one! It is also important to not draw a line with this your last try. I don’t know your situation but it is worth keeping your mind open that if it doesn’t work, there will be other options in the future. It helps to take the pressure off. I have my fingers crossed for you. xx
Hi Ruby, sorry to hear this! I know this feeling of shock when you expect a much better result (because you really had many embryos!!) and then the disappointment when they do not develop a expected. I feel with you xxx
However, I have to say that the 4BA embryo sounds really promising. I would just try to concentrate on this one now, if you can.
I totally understand. It’s crazy the potential drop off you can get at each stage of IVF.
I did my first cycle in august. Of 11 eggs, 9 fertilised, but by day 5 we had 1 good blast (resulting in chemical), day 6 we got 2 to freeze. Next month did FET - BFN. That left us with a remaining frostie of “average” quality.
Wanting to have more of a bank of quality embryos to fall back on I went straight into 2nd attempt at IVF. 9 eggs retrieved, 6 fertilised. At day 5 we had 2x blasts (3BB and a dubious 2- -. We’ve transferred both). Yesterday was d6: I had a call to say 1 more to freeze but only average quality, so now have 2 of average quality frozen. I suppose that’s better than nothing, but is it really? I just feel like given our good embryos haven’t worked, what chances are there for the ones at the bottom of the pile.
Not sure what we’ll do if this cycle doesn’t work 😞 Fingers crossed for OTD next Thursday
I can imagine that must have been a horrible shock. Try and focus on the fact you have a great little embryo on board. My current pregnancy (32 weeks) was the only embryo that survived the cycle it came from, nothing to freeze and it was the lowest quality embryo I’d ever had transferred and yet here I am. Sending all the positive vibes that this embryo is your take home baby xx
Hey it’s complete understandable you feel this way and it’s sad they said one thing then it all changed. All I can say is the sad emotions won’t help with this amazing transfer u got yesterday and if it’s a good grade then put all your positive energy into this one being the one! Wish u good luck and try to stay positive x
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