7dpt BFN, lost hope

[Mlove12]

Couldnt help myself testing yet again. Was a bit of hope before but this morning I tested with a early detection pregnant test (frer) this morning and nothing, same negative im always used too.

OTD is Tuesday and period is due Monday. I know my body well and can tell the symptoms of my period coming, mood, less hungry, emotional etc.

Just very disheartening. Will test again till Tuesday unless period comes Monday.

Anyone else had this but still gone on to be pregnant? I’m also wondering why it hasn’t happened for us, what else could we have done :/ x

[Skittles11]

Hi Mlove. Sorry to hear you have lost hope this time round, I know it's upsetting and disappointing. There are people for whom have tested positive around 9dp5dt, I've seen them on here however I can understand why you are feeling disheartened as you can feel the window closing. Is this your first IVF cycle? Xx

[Mlove12 in reply to Skittles11]

Hi Skittles, thanks for replying.Yes this is our first round, we have one more round on the NHS and are now having those difficult conversations as to whether we then go private if it doesn’t work out again.

Your right in regards to OTD hasnt arrived just yet, but can’t help but feel I know my body well and period is on its way! What an emotional journey hey, hope your well x x

[Skittles11 in reply to Mlove12]

I know it might not seem much consolation at this stage but if the cycle is not successful the medical professionals will have a better idea of what did and didn't work for you and would hopefully make adjustments going forward. It is a hard pill to swallow but IVF does not often work first time. There would not be anything extra you could have done, as you will hear doctors say (as frustrating as it is) it is a numbers game xx

[Twiglet2]

I’m so sorry it’s a BFN, there are a small number of ladies that it turns around for I’m really hoping you are one of them 🤞🏽💜 if it doesn’t I’ve always found treating myself for a few days (shopping/alcohol/ cheesecake/ book a holiday) and letting myself feel the sadness/anger/frustration helps. Then I move onto ‘what’s next’ and start planning for that. Might not help you but thought I’d share in case it does …. Hopefully you don’t need it though and tests turn around xx

[Mlove12 in reply to Twiglet2]

Hi Twiglet, this is really lovely advice, shall definitely take this on board! I hope you are well x x

[Kimbob82]

Hi mlove, I am the same, if by day 7 I haven’t gotten a positive on a frer I know in my heart that it’s all over. Like the other girls have said, there is a small chance that could change… but if I were you I’d be pouring myself a half glass of wine and relaxing for the night. There’s always hope for the next cycle. X

[Mlove12 in reply to Kimbob82]

Hi Kimbob,

Thanks exactly what i done, small glass of wine (still holding on to a slither of hope lol) and just admitted defeat unfortunately.

I’m sorry to hear you’ve been in a similar situation, it is so difficult and the emotions that go with it are crazy.

Hope you are well and your next cycle is successful xx

[Kimbob82 in reply to Mlove12]

Sadly I’ve had many transfers where this has been the case, so I really know how it feels. It’s more the norm for me these days. Wishing you all the best 💗

[Midsummer_daydream]

I was having the same thought on my last cycle. Also on NHS and was also 1st round. From what I read 9dp5dt is the optimal time to test even on Frer and that will be most reliable result. It’s very hard and I’m always the one feeling more prepared if I know what happened so I tested from 7dp5dt throughout. Regardless I’m still disappointed and heartbroken 💔 totally understand how you feel right now. Focus your mind onto what next, even if the result turns out not what you expected.