Need to rant post NIPT for what should have been a happy experience after reaching another milestone on this crazy ivf journey unfortunately it was anything but.
The sonographer was incredibly rude (I would say a bitch). She had zero bedside manner and the only time she spoke to us was to tell my fiancé who is in a wheelchair that him being at the end of the bed was unnerving her. He could not fit where the support person chair once and had to move completely away and couldn’t hold my leg as he was doing. Other than that she didn’t say a single word, not even to be like here is bub etc.
After the ultrasound in our consult the nurse upon finding out it’s donor sperm due to my fiancé’s accident turned to him, “oh so it’s not you’re child, you’re not the dad”. I couldn’t believe when she said that, I saw how shattered my fiancé was, my heart broke for him in that moment. He is and always will be the dad!!!
Sorry ladies, needed to let it out! 😖
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I am so sorry I can’t honestly believe this has happened to you. What an awful awful person. I would put it in a complaint immediately. How dare she insinuate he isn’t the father! She really shouldn’t be in that line of work.. x
Oh my days, I was reading this and my blood was boiling. I would have hit the roof, I totally understand as I'm a same sex couple and were using doner sperm. I'm so sorry this happened to you, id maybe send a letter/email to voice your concerns as that's totally not acceptable. I hope nothing like this happens to you again xxx
Omg what a total b****!!! The NHS may be under pressure right now but it’s no excuse for such lack of respect. If it’s of any consolation you’re not the only one- yesterday I went for my first midwife appointment (the booking one) and when she has found out we’ve done donor egg she went: ah ok so you’re not the mother 😳 I said: I very much am since I’m carrying it and have endured a very long and difficult road to get here. I think she felt ashamed. And I’m happy she did!!! Im starting to think that we’ll need to get used (which is very very bad) to this kind of comments, nonetheless whoever will be rude to me will get my appropriate answer to make them feel ashamed.
Chin up babe ❤️Let’s ignore these horrible people ❤️And focus on bub being well ❤️And you! Love to you, bub & fiancé (who is absolutely the father!!!!) xxxx
I’m sorry to hear about your experience also. That’s not fair at all. You’ve come such a long way to get here, don’t let anyone rob you of being this baby’s mum. ♥️♥️
Thank you. Once my journey is over, I am making a full complaint. I know we are vulnerable and not in a position of power (lying there, petrified in case there is bad news), but these people can’t get away with it.....xx
Rant away my love, what a cow! We thought our NHS sonographer was a bit of a cold bitch but this takes the biscuit. There are some ignorant people out there, I know its really hard but ignore her....she is clueless and your hubby will always be the dad! It actually leaves me fuming that you both had to go through this, I would complain.xx
That is disgusting! That child is every bit of your husband and more.... I’m in a same sex couple, so we are using donor sperm and donor eggs as I have no egg reserve. So in that horrible persons eyes me and my partner have robbed a baby off someone as we have no genetic attachment at all but let them tell me that! Horrible people x
Om flipping g. Im so utterly shocked for what you and your husband have endured. How very dare she. I hope you've complained people like that should not be working for the NHS full stop. I'm so sorry hun you've experienced such rubbish care 💗😘
Oh my god!!! I can’t believe she did this, I would complain. What an awful person with zero empathy. She should not be employed in a job where she has to deal with people. I’m sorry you had such a bad time. Try and focus on the positives - you’ve got a loving husband and a healthy baby in there. Forget about that cow, focus on the good stuff! xx
She sounds completely unfit to practice. Definitely make a complaint. Sorry you experienced this - your partner is absolutely the daddy of your new baby 👶 🍼 Xx
Omg what a cow!!I'm sorry about what you went through and your fiancè too. She is some one definitely who shouldn't be working in the NHS. I think you should complain to pals and thought the department! Good luck work your pregnancy xx
I had to show this thread to my OH as he can’t believe that people will make comments about our donor egg baby in the future. He says nobody will ask who’s the real mother, etc. Bless him, he can’t imagine people could be so stupid, cruel, tactless and insensitive. Sadly you’ve proven my point to him. And in a really disturbing way. This is a medical professional at a fertility clinic! FFS. I am so sorry you and your husband went through that and I’m glad you’ve raised a complaint. More importantly yay to you and your husband on your pregnancy! Congratulations!!! Xxxx
This is just awful and I’m so angry on your behalf😡.
Why are these people even doing these types of jobs if they are annoyed by someone being in a wheelchair and uneducated and rude about the strength it takes to have a baby using donor sperm!!!
You know that We used donor sperm to get our wee boy and I couldn’t imagine a better daddy than my partner. It’s outrageous that she thinks that way and needs to be sent for some retraining and to be reprimanded!!
Hope you are ok lovely. Can you move to another healthcare provider (your in Australia right?).
But most importantly congratulations on your little bean making it to another scan and doing well. Sending hugs xx
Thanks hun. You’re exactly right, our partners are the fathers and I will do my best to try to make sure no one takes that away from him again.
We have our 13w scan booked in with the same company but at a different location (it was already booked in). Hopefully it’s a better experience, but I will be definitely looking elsewhere for our later scans.
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