Sensitive post MMC

[Kitty230515]

It’s taking me a few days to find the courage to write this. Somehow writing it down makes it more real, but managed a good few hours with out crying.

So after our 1st scan at just over 6 weeks and seeing a heartbeat I was filled with so much hope this time it was finally going to be ok.

However at my follow up scan a week later I was told the news that although they could still the heartbeat the baby was measuring to small, and it was highly unlikely that the pregnancy would continue.

Went back a well later and had the miscarriage confirmed.

Was referred to the EPU, who confirmed that the baby stopped growing at around 6.5weeks.

I asked for surgical management, but due to coronavirus it isn’t possible, so took the medicine yesterday morning.

So far nothing has happened, but the nurse said it can take up to 48 hours.

So that’s it, my last shot at IVF, as we had to fund it privately and we have no money left.

Anyone got any advice on how to get some closure on an IVF journey, and what helped them deal with the pain.

Sorry for such a long post

Cx

[Picalilli99]

I’m so sorry for your loss. I haven’t got any advice on getting closure I’m afraid. But just wanted to stop by and say you are not alone. We experienced very similar in terms of seeing a heartbeat at 6 weeks, after which we just felt so elated that it might finally be our time, then just a few weeks later it was gone. It is such a heartbreaking thing to go through and I’m glad you have reached out as there are so many on here who understand. Have you thought about trying counselling at all? This was something I found really helpful (well it was actually a psychotherapist) but just talking things through in a safe space can really help to work through such difficult things. I hope you have some good support around you. Look after yourself and I hope the physical side of things happens soon and is relatively quick for you. Not to be dramatic but it can be quite a stressful/traumatic process so make sure you reach out if there’s any info/support you need (equally it might all be ok for you physically so not wanting to scare you unnecessarily either!). Take care lovely xx

[Solly-44]

I’m so sorry Kitty, this is just heartbreaking. Am hoping you have lots of love and support around you. Give yourself time. Sending hugs xx

[FrancyItaly]

I’m so sorry, it’s so unfair 💕

[Cinderella5]

I'm so sorry for your loss sweetheart! It's all so unfair. Love and hugs to you.xxx

[Georgie17]

I am so sorry, this is just horrible after all the hopes you would have had. Wish you all the best whatever you choose to do. Xx

[Annakabana]

I am sorry for your loss. Keep strong. There is an Instagram account of a lady I follow who is childfree after infertility. It is called @chasing.creation. Take a look, she often organizes online workshops. I hope it helps xxx

[Sparklylife]

Oh it is just heartbreaking. I am so sorry for your loss! Words just get so small in moments like this, but I am sending you a virtual hug!

I got no advise on how to get closure either, maybe speak to your clinic and hopefully they could guide you from there.

Warm hugs 💛

[LauraEW]

So sorry for your loss Kitty. Sending lots of virtual hugs 🤗 xxx

[Westielover16]

So sorry for your loss and that this whole process is so unfair. There isn’t any advice that I have that could help. But time will take away some of the intensity eventually. Sending you loads of virtual hugs xx

[leah30]

So sorry for your loss , massive hugs xx

[Msze]

So sorry 💔

[hannahkc]

Kitty, I'm so sorry to read this.

Really brave of you to share what has happened. Sending hugs 💙

I found this a useful site to help with making decisions when I was at a crossroads

miscarriageassociation.org.uk/

[wildchild1989]

I'm so sorry 😪 sending you hugs xx