Dilemma

[Bluelady-sing]

What to do? I am single 43 desperate for baby.

[Jessy1280]

Ivf is a tough journey. I'm third cycle in and still no baby. I'm 39 and if I had to go it alone I most definitely would with a sperm donor. No hesitation. Biological clock definitely deep wired into me. So many people do it nowadays. Sod what anyone else thinks. If you're OK doing it alone, go for if it's right for you. Or..... The alternative is freeze your eggs if that's a possibility. They're essentially frozen in time then until you're ready to use them. Not sure if that's allowed though as some clinics won't treat us so called old birds after a certain age x

[Bluelady-sing in reply to Jessy1280]

I have pcos and submuciod fibriod I am not if I will surgery, which I want avoid if possible

[Jessy1280 in reply to Bluelady-sing]

Loads of ladies on here with pcos and get that bfp. I'd say the first step would be to check your amh and afc if you were to pursue ivf. X

[12356 in reply to Jessy1280]

I have pcos, had my first Son through IVF 2 years ago, am 39 years now, currently 12weeks+pregnant through IVF, just want to give you some hope, go ahead and try IVF, although it comes with alot of mental stress and trauma, but you can do it, wishing you all the best In any decision you take🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

[JoP32 in reply to Jessy1280]

What Jessy 👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻Said!

If you want it, put a plan in place to get it!

I also agree that you could start with getting your AMH checked.

Very best of luck to you xx

[Progy7]

At your age you might need both donor egg and donor sperm. I know someone who did that and she is very happy with her decision.

[HemBella]

I started my journey here as a single woman. Found donor sperm and went through 3 IUIs, and just recently an unsuccessful IVF. Waiting for things to get going again and I plan to do another round of IVF with donor sperm.

If you want something badly enough you’ll find a way. I met a lovely man last year (during an IUI cycle). And I was honest with him about where I was at and he totally respected (and admired) my determination and honesty.

He’s got children and had a vasectomy so here we are a year later still using donor sperm and he totally supports me.

I’ll be 41 soon. Go for it. It’s better to try than regret not knowing that you did everything you could

[Bluelady-sing]

Do not have severe MH Problems, besides which If someone has medical problems and needs treatment it would be discriminatory.

[Hidden in reply to Bluelady-sing]

It's just what I was told that people with severe mental health problems would be unable to get sperm donor treatment on their own , they can get IVF but would have to have a home inspection. But, if you don't have severe mental health problems it doesn't apply to you. If you want to have treatment using a sperm donor then you should just go for it and see what happens

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Unfortunately, there is discrimination everywhere especially within healthcare.

[josephnsn]

If you really want a baby go for sperm donor. It probably seems scary and not the way you wanted it but once you are pregnant and when your baby comes you won't care. You might still meet someone later on. If you are lucky enough to have good friends and family to support you, you will be fine, otherwise you can still do it, it's just it will be harder but still worth it. I got pregnant at 42 so you still have a chance of using your own eggs now.

[Bluelady-sing in reply to josephnsn]

I am worried that something happens to me who will look after the child. I recently lost a friend to cancer she had 3 children she was my age

[josephnsn]

I am 44 and have 19mth yr old. I have a sister who would hopefully look after him if something happened. Do you have family or a really good friend?

[Hidden in reply to josephnsn]

Just out of interest do you use a sperm donor or do you have a partner. The strange thing is I only seem to speak to people who have used sperm donors online. I never seem to meet them in real life. Strange ain't it.

[josephnsn in reply to Hidden]

I have a partner

[Bluelady-sing]

My friend is older than me

[Kyra-J]

I say to for it. I’m going as a single person. I have 1 child by ivf split with her dad. I refuse to miss an opportunity of having another child/children.

Hopefully once all this Convid 19 is over I can continue with my treatment. If you get a sperm from abroad a lot have pictures as a adult or child 😊 good luck with your decision