The title says it all really, after our third fresh cycle finished in a BFN last Nov I’ve been doing LOTS of thinking and over the last month I decided that that’s it for us, I just can’t face a fourth round, I can’t face another “not pregnant” after coming up 6 years of TTC and never once seeing those 2 lines, I need to move on with my life!
I know it’s the right decision but I also know the baby announcements will always feel like a kick in the guts, I know that it will never feel like its ok because it’s not ok and it’s not fair but it is something I accept and I think that’s half the battle!
But as well as saying goodbye, this post really was a thank you, thank you for all the help and unbelievable support I’ve received on here, over the years of being on here I’ve seen people come and go, some really happy endings and some sad, but through it all what’s always shone out of this site is the wonderful support and for that I will always be truly grateful, so thank you and good luck to you all 😘😘😘 x x x
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I am so sorry to read this, I can't imagine how difficult this decision must have been for you. I can only say, what a warrior you are and I wish you every happiness in your future 💗💗💗
Snap made me feel the same. Such a brave person. I know this is what I dread the most...every credit to making such a hard decision xxxx ❤️ good luck to your future and I hope you get some enjoyment in whatever your future holds for you
It’s so brave to make this decision and I’m a genuine believer that everything happens for a reason. Maybe kids will enter your world in a different way or maybe you will get to have other amazing experiences that wouldn’t be possible if you have kids. I know it must be so so hard but if you have had enough you are doing the right thing by looking after yourself. Wishing you all the best in the future xx
I’m really sad and I wish things were different for you, you are truly brave for making this decision and taking control of your life, I do hope the rest of the your journey is full of happiness xxx
I’m so sorry that your treatment didn’t bring you a baby. I can understand the need to cease treatment & it must’ve been a very painful decision to make, It takes over your life. You sound like at peace with your decision & I wish you every happiness with your life. My mum knew a couple who tried for 10 years numerous failed IVF cycles & they gave up changed careers (which involved children ) she fell twice & had 2 boys she had both blocked Fallopian tubes & baffled the medical profession! Never say never. xxx
Thanks Jess and thanks for your support, some of us feel like we have been on here forever!! I’m so glad it all worked out for you, but Jesus you went through the ringer getting there, best wishes for your future x x x
I have followed you for a while now, I am so sad for you that you didn't get the magic result we all want, but I am also in awe of your courage to make that decision and stick to it, its really inspiring to hear a positive post about that as its something I am avoiding at the moment myself.
Wishing you heaps of happiness in the future, and thank you for all the comments and help you have given over the past years xx
Aw thanks hunny, it’s so hard to come to a final decision and we’re all different, but for me it was for my own sanity, it feels like it’s taken over my 30’s! I’m 40 next birthday and want a fresh start and to start living again, this journey puts your life on hold in someways, always waiting and almost wishing your life away, so now I need to start living it again! There’s part of me that deeply sad and I think there always will be, but right now I’m just so relieved to be moving on with my life. I wish you all the luck in the world hunny with whatever you decide it will be the right decision for you 😘😘😘
I wish you all happiness in the world. You are a strong brave woman and you have made a really hard decision and I believe it’s the best one. We are going to do the same. I have one more try which will be our 3rd and if not we will do the same as you guys. You don’t need a baby to be happy. You will have a great life. All my love ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Xxxxxxxxx
Thanks hunny and you’re right, you don’t need a baby to be happy, there is so much world out there to be lived! However I do wish you luck and baby dust for your third round, who knows where life will take you from here! 🤞😘🤞😘
With tears streaming down my face I am currently trying to make this decision and I know how heartbreaking it is and how you go back and forth trying to ensure its the right decision. There are no more words that seem right but thinking of you x
Aw thanks hunny and I’m sorry I made you cry 😘 it is so difficult to come to that very final decision, but we’ve been at this for years now and 3 rounds is as much as I want to go through so I know it’s the right choice for me. My odds are so low now that I just need to start living again! Wishing you the very best for the future 😘😘😘 x x x
Very brave decision and I'm sure very difficult. You never know once you stop actively trying it may just happen. I do hope do this for you. Enjoy your onward journey and good news you can have more holidays to yourselves and live life for yourselves. This thing takes over...finally freedom in a good way. Best of luck...still all here if you ever need a chat xxx
Hi Jonesjp, we are in the exact same situation - we had our last cycle (3rd) in February & that also failed. I have never seen a BFP either & that ‘not pregnant’ I think is the hardest thing to cope with in the whole of every cycle. I accept that we won’t be doing any more cycles & in a way we feel relieved about that, what I haven’t begun to process yet is what that actually means for us & my desperation to be a mummy, but I guess the day will come when I have to start getting my head around that. Lots of love & huge hugs to you from someone who knows just where you are ❤️ XX
Thanks hunny, it’s tough isn’t it, I wonder if In all the years if I’d ever got any type of BFP it would have encouraged me to continue, but I’ll never know, after never doing so it just seems like the impossible dream! But I am looking forward to taking some control back and moving on with our life’s. Good luck for the future hunny, there’s a big old world out there for us to explore 😘😘😘 x x
Thank you ladies for all your lovely messages. It was a strange thing that once I’d finally decided it was like a massive weight lifted off my shoulders, I thought I’d be distraught, but I wasn’t and think I was ready to accept that’s how life is going to be. I’ll never forget something a counsellor once said to me ( it wasn’t a fertility councillor but one from RNIB as they gave me some sessions when I went from being sight impaired to registered blind) she said it’s like your waiting for this one big thing to happen, yet it won’t your already living it, and she was right and it is the same for so many situations in life, there is this massive fear I’ve had of being childless, yet I already am and I am already living that life and it’s pretty good! I have an amazing husband, two beautiful fur babies a job I like, a lovely home and life is good, being in fertile will never be ok and it’s certainly not fair, but I have accepted that will be our life and that’s ok. I wish all you ladies all the luck in the world, however your journeys end up 😘😘😘😘
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I am currently trying to make this decision and I know how heartbreaking it is and how you go back and forth trying to ensure its the right decision. There are no more words that seem right but thinking of you x
Thank you
Yet another failed cycle
6+5 weeks HCG bloods normal? 
What do you do when you have no/lost hope? 😥
