Chemical pregnancy ? 🙁☹️

[LilSylver]

I think the baby didn’t like it in there much 💔

Lines are fading , so heart broken .. can’t speak.

[Hidden]

I’m so sorry it’s just so cruel after all you have been through. Biggest hugs

Xx

[LilSylver in reply to Hidden]

I hope I get pregnant one day 💔

[amandac84]

I’m so sorry lovely that’s very very hard I’ve been through it and know how crushing it is. Sending you lots of hugs and thoughts xx

[LilSylver in reply to amandac84]

Yes it is unfortunately , I will visit my doctor tomorrow , but am trying to look at the positive side and start boxing all my house stuff as I am moving so hopefully it keeps me busy.

[amandac84 in reply to LilSylver]

Ok lovely sounds like a good plan keeping busy is good but also take time these things hurt xx

[LilSylver in reply to amandac84]

I am in so much pain I can’t even cry , I feel numb that’s why I wana get busy doing anything so I wouldn’t burst out crying like a 5 year old .

[LilSylver in reply to amandac84]

Thank you for your care Amanda dear , you are a kind heart ❤️

[peapop33]

I am so sorry. Lots of love x x

[LilSylver in reply to peapop33]

Thank you 💕

[Great123]

Hi hun am sorry, may the good Lord strengthen you lot of love

[LilSylver in reply to Great123]

Thank you so much dear, pray for me.

[Mazzath1]

Oh bless you 😔😔 it's so hard. Xxxx

[Hidden]

I am SO sorry Lil 💋not sure I can say anything that will make you feel better but be kind to yourself, allow yourself to process, cry if you feel to...there’s nothing wrong and it will help you process the situation. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️Sending love!

[LilSylver in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much for your kind words, am really happy that people are supportive and spread kind words, it genuinely makes me feel better.

I appreciate it thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[Hidden in reply to LilSylver]

Oh I’m glad, this community is full of lovely ladies always coming to the rescue ❤️With support and kind words ❤️Because we’re all on the same boat, IVF warriors! 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻

[Hidden]

So sorry you are going through this, please allow yourself to feel whatever you feel don't suppress it, just try not to don't get lost in it.

It's such a difficult time but you are a warrior and the strength you need is right there within you ❤️

Sending you hugs, you are not alone.

[LilSylver in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for all your kind and encouraging words, they mean a lot 🌹

I will try to give time to feel bad about this but I fear like u mentioned that I get lost into it so am trying not to but suppressing hopefully the feeling of grief will go away on it own.

[Hidden in reply to LilSylver]

It's hard.. thinking of you

[K84k]

So sorry to see your post. I know how you are feeling. I had a chemical pregnancy at the end of Feb after 5 strong positives over 5 days. We knew we were pregnant for a week and we were so happy after 3.5 years ttc and 2.5 years of waiting to start IVF.

Go to the doctors and get yourself signed off work for a couple of weeks (if you are working) and do what you need to do. Cry as much as you need to, eat as much as you want to, go out or stay in just please take the time to grieve so you can then start to heal. It's heart breaking and devastating and nothing anyone can say or do can you make you feel better 😔

I'm on my 3rd week off and redecorating to keep busy although today I'm having a low day. My first week was bad, but it has got easier.

I'm so so sorry 💕💕💕💕

[LilSylver in reply to K84k]

Am sooo sorry to hear that you have been trying to conceive for such a long time , it is definitely not easy ☹️, the process itself is draining us physically, emotionally as well as financially.

I am too keeping myself busy as I am moving into a new house and I really am heart broken but I don’t want to cry , I feel numb and just putting on a poker face.

In regards to your case, 5 strong positives is such spirit lifting event , am so sorry it ended that way. Let’s try again with the transfer maybe next time it’ll be better.

My doctor told me that he will do a surgery and clean my uterus or something if it didn’t work this time because I have slight endometrial thickness .

So yea ... surgery here i come 😕.

Hopefully we all have better results next time.

[BettyBe]

Sorry to hear about your loss 🌺 I had the same thing this morning. Everything positive and going well, until I woke up in the night covered in sweat, then this morning I just didn’t ‘feel’ pregnant anymore. Went loo and saw a heavy bleed, which has continued all day.

It’s heartbreaking and I can’t help thinking I did something wrong but that’s not a good road to go down. I’m so so sorry, please let us know how you get on. My clinic didn’t suggest anything but I see them properly tomorrow. I’m hoping it will get easier over time xx

[LilSylver in reply to BettyBe]

💔💔💔so sorry for the outcome you got , it’s true that we try not to think about what went wrong. We should never blame ourselves am sure we are all doing the best we can.

I guess they didn’t suggest anything because I read so many researches and they all said there is nothing you can do about it, no way to raise your hcg levels, that only put body’s job.

Plus unfortunately I read about so many women taking medicines to keep the pregnancy going and ended in miscarriages ( I don’t know how true this is , maybe some ppl have it work and some didn’t, I am not a doctor lol).

I will be going to the doctor in a couple of hours and he will get back to me after he receives the blood test.

Let’s look at any positive side right now 💔

Anything.

Let’s be strong 🙁

[BettyBe]

Thanks for your reply whilst going through a heartbreaking time LilSylver 🌺

I feel numb this morning and empty. I have a scan this morning also, I really don’t know what to expect, maybe a glimpse of the sack? I was thinking of not going the thought best to go and put anxiety to rest. Good luck today and hope it brings some reassurance and peace. Please let us know how you get on xx

[LilSylver in reply to BettyBe]

I guess the sack shows on the 4th week, it’s still early now.

I went to the clinic yesturday and they said results won’t be back till Saturday.

I told them it doesn’t matter because I know there is nothing they can do once the hcg starts dropping.

Am sorry you are feeling numb, it’s exactly how am feeling, am trying to express my grief but I duno how.

Yesturday I started playing very old songs and singing along and laughing and it got my husband to stare at me for a while with disbelief but we process grief differently I guess.

It is such a hard journey , something that we never thought when we were kids that we might experience it one day but here we are, but I believe this is happening for a reason and we are strong and we will make it one day hopefully 💖.

Let’s all hang in there.

[BettyBe in reply to LilSylver]

It’s tough, one minute I’m ok and the other I’m in floods of tears and in bits. We went for our scan yesterday as I would have been 5w4d and at first it sounded promising that the lining was still very thick but then they couldn’t find anything. I had a tiny hope for a miracle.

I know it’s negative but I keep thinking I could have done things differently, I had a few stressful weeks recently, maybe if I didn’t get stressed it would have stuck or if I didn’t carry some shopping?

I keep reliving the last few weeks and I need to snap out of that but it seems that’s the way my brain has chosen to grieve, I might try old songs or something more productive.

Glad you’re finding positive ways to cope, one day at a time we will feel stronger and maybe ready to start again. Old songs are great, nothing like fond memories of happier time and sunshine to lift the heart.

The experience hurts but does make us more empathetic to others and more understanding of what other people do go through. This is my first ivf loss and I really feel for those who have experienced this more than once and the strength they must have to carry on 🌺 xx

[Klndmr]

I’m so sorry hun 💕 I know how you feel I’ve been in the same situation all 5 times in a row lol. Take your time and have a good cry and carry on. You’ve got this and sooner or later life will be kind to us and gives us what we most wish for! Sending lots of hugs your way and hang in there xx