After a 5 day transfer, we had positive tests on day 9 and 10 and then 3 x positives on OTD 12dp5dt (last Friday). One was a Clearblue weeks indicator test saying 1-2 weeks.
Today, tested again this evening with a Clearblue weeks indicator and it stated Not Pregnant. It really does hurt. We had less than a week of happiness and excitement. We had 1 embryo that made it to 5 days so no frosties so it really does feel like the end of the road.
I will test again in the morning as it was a pack of 2 tests, but I'm not holding out much hope.
Just want to say thank you to everyone for the support and hope and I wish you all the best on your journey xxx
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Yes that happen to me in 2015 my first time doing invitro after I didn’t conceive I didn’t want to waste nomore money so dec 15 last year I got my tubes untied.
I hope everything works out,it can be depressing I have 3 kids 27,26,14 5 grandkids husband has any so that’s y I’m trying I pray everything works out.
I wish there was something I could write to make you feel better but I know that’s impossible thing to do right now. I’m so sorry, I know how devastating it is and how lost you’re probably feeling right now. Thinking of you and sending you big hug xxxx
Unfortunately not, we decided to have a back to back cycle (or embryo banking). I am starting down reg on March and Stimulation on April. We want to have more embryos for PGS testing. It is a waiting and waiting time 🙄☹️ so rollercoaster 🎢 will be back sooner than I thought. I never ever thought that we will go into our 4th cycle so quick 🥺
Praying that the waiting will be worth it for you. I have only gone through 1 cycle and I feel broken. I can't imagine how you are coping.
I don't think we will try again. Our 'stats' really weren't great with low fertilisation through ICSI. And it depends on £. We had 1 free cycle on the NHS so I'm not sure we're in a position to pay for it privately at the moment. I may just have a house full of dogs 🐕🐕 xx
I'm so sorry to read your post. You must feel awful. I'm praying that tomo morning brings you better news. There is always some hope honey. Huge hugs to you xxxxxx❤️❤️❤️
Awwww love...I'm am so so sorry. I know how absolutely devastating this is. I know there's nothing I can say to make you feel better but I'm thinking of you and sending big hugs xx❤️❤️❤️
I’m so sorry to hear that, but are your sure your pee wasn’t too diluted? I really hope you’ll get a different result tomorrow morning! Sending you a hug x
Awww honey I'm so sorry! We had positives from day 7, good looking positive lines and on day 14 had my hCG done & it was far too low and had to stop meds. Its hell, nothing prepares you for that disappointment! Sending massive hugs!!xxx
It was hard to lose the hope and the embryo and I allowed myself to mourn as long as I needed. I also went up to the mountains and had a small “ceremony” like a funeral for the little one that I had lost (I know it was just a clump of cells, but for me it was more) and brought back a rock from there as a reminder. Once I had done that I started collecting facts and reading research (to feel more in control) as well as reading other people’s stories. And then I spoke to people around me about what had happened (colleagues, friends, family). I feel it helped being open about it.
Now I hope again for next time or then maybe next time after that. I have also realised that we (my partner and I) have a good life now as well and we can be happy without a child if that is how it is meant to be (although I also at the same time feel that I’m letting my partner down as this is so important for him) and that has been a bit of a relief.
I have also done a lot of mindfulness and practiced some mix between CFT (compassion focused therapy) ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy) and radical acceptance and just try to find the joy in the everyday things in life.
I still feel beyond rubbish some days though.
Remember everyone needs to do what works for them. There are no rights or wrongs.
I am so sorry to hear this. It sounds like you may have had a CP. As surely all those tests could not have been wrong at the time.
This is what happened to me on my last cycle. I tested from day 5 and saw it progressive I get clearer and clearer then I took my OTD test a day early and it was positive and that was the last positive test I got.
Nothing prepares you for IVF nor the outcome you think you can handle it but it just tears you up inside having to put a brave face on I feel is the worse. It's the pain of wanting something so bad and for one reason or another you just can't get it. Something you think at the time is simple to achieve.
I don't think anything anyone says will make the pain go away or really make you feel better but you just have to remember easier said than done that you are not alone.
My heart is breaking for you as I know how you are feeling. Just take time out for yourself and don't push your partner away. I did at the time and it was the worst thing I could have done.
Thank you Emma-Rose. This group is so important as everyone understands how you're feeling.
I knew a few people who had gone through the IVF process but I never imagined it would be as hard as it has been. The last two months have been so difficult both mentally and emotionally but this group has kept me somewhat sane.
It can be so cruel at times.
Thank you for you words. It really does help (but I'm sorry you know how it feels) xx
This is so very cruel. It happened to us on our second transfer. I went on to get tested for natural killer cells at Siobhan quenbys clinic at Warwick which came back ‘high’ so had steroids for our third transfer which resulted in the birth of our son. Something worth looking into, if and when you are both ready. It took me a long time to be ready again though after that happened to us. Sending big hugs xxx
I went to Warwick castle years ago and it's quite an olde worlde town and it wasn't what I expected as I had expected it to have been a similar type town to Birmingham and Coventry.
I agree and I felt the same after my early CP/miscarriage, raising our hopes so high to have them dashed is the worst feeling! but a few weeks on and I am starting to feel a little bit more positive about how it’s the closest we’ve came and some reassurance that I can get actually pregnant. Absolutely not at the time though it’s just too devastating xx
Oh K84k I’m so sorry. To have something for a short while only to have it taken away from you so o devastating. I wish there was something I could say to help but I know there isn’t 😢 Try & take some time - if you can have some time off work that might be good - and be kind to yourself. Xxx
Thank you. Its very difficult to accept as I finally allowed myself to be positive and excited after holding back expecting it not to work.
I had finally told a few managers the good news so they can support - it feels ironic now. But I will take some more time off work to come to terms with it.
Hi. So sorry to hear this. I had the same thing happen to me last October. The doctors said it was because the trigger shot was still in my system and I was getting false positives 😢😢😢
I guess they give OTD for a reason because I was getting positives right up until that day and then on otd I got a BFN 😢
Take your time to heal it really is such an awful blow. Sending you lots of hugs XX
I thought we'd past the trigger date as we got 3 positives on OTD as I was so conscious of that. I called the hospital to cancel the confirmation scan and she said it was a bio-chemical pregnancy so it was real, but just didn't progress. I don't know if that's worse.
You're right, it really does feel like such a blow. I'm gonna feel sorry for myself for the weekend, turn off my phone and stay offline then pick myself up next week and book an amazing holiday (always cheers me up!).
Sorry to hear about you getting a negative yesterday evening. The ups and downs of this are just awful. I'm hoping that test was a one off and was wrong, but I know how upset and confused you must be atm, and wanted to send you lots of love. xxx
It really is a rollercoaster. I didn't realise quite how emotional I would be (I usually only cry at TV shows ha) sadly it wasn't wrong but I guess I got 1 week of happiness and excitement which is more than some people have. The whole process just seems cruel for us all!
Thank you. The support on here is so needed and so so much appreciated just wish so many of us didn't have to go through it xx
Thank you, I really appreciate it. I've got a great support network that I'll go to when I'm ready Xx
That's not fair is it?
It's always disappointing isn't it when you get your hopes up only to have it result in nothing and it's really upsetting isn't it when you are led to believe you are getting something and no you aren't and there's not a thing you can do about it!
Oh yes, baseball bat for sure and AF is coming which adds insult to injury 🙄 I'm going to wallow for a little while and then pick myself up and plan holidays and puppies. Thank you xxx
I’m so sorry you are experiencing this. We have been there so understand how cruel/heartbreaking/confusing it can feel to get the bfp only to lose it again so soon. Sending you big hugs ❤️ Xxx
I like the sound of your attitude. Right now it’s just about taking care of yourselves and healing from this loss. Then in time, only when you feel ready, you can take away the positives and know that you are another step closer. Take care hun xxx
Thank you 💕 we tested again this morning and it was the same dreaded words. We got further than we expected which we will take the positives from when we're ready but for now.... Self pity and chocolate is in order xx
Wow! A lot of responses! I think it’s emotionally smart to prepare yourself for the worst, but it’s my understanding that once hCG levels get too high the test folds in on itself giving false negatives. Time for a beta hCG. Good luck!
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Clearblue still showing 1-2 weeks at 6 weeks
Think its all over 😩..... 
The IVF roller coaster continues...
Too good to be true...
