Am driving myself and my husband crazy...

[Debrakay1704]

I cannot seem to stop stressing, yesterday was 6 weeks for us and the night before I felt really sick, I did not feel half as poorly last night. This morning I woke up and just had a feeling something horrible was going to happen, I am always expecting something bad to happen, it is so draining and I want to enjoy being pregnant and feel like because I am feeling like this it would be taken as being ungrateful for this amazing outcome which I most definitely am not!! We feel so blessed. My poor husband is trying to be supportive but he finds it hard as he is a logical person and does not understand why I am questioning everything. x

[Kelpineapple]

I completely understand we are coming up to 7 weeks and even tho I’ve seen bambino and it’s heartbeat I still can’t seem to relax! It’s so hard not to over think things and my hubby is exactly the same logical! It’s all new and I’ve learnt that no concern or question is a stupid one. Ask them that’s what they are there and trained in. It’s ok to worry after all we’ve been through to get here 💛💛

[Debrakay1704 in reply to Kelpineapple]

Thank you, Congratulations to you also! I am sure lots are the same, we have our private scan a week on Sunday, thought that might help am really worried about that too. can I ask are you getting a lot of sickness? x

[Kelpineapple in reply to Debrakay1704]

No just been feeling nauseous but then everyone is different and it’s still early! I’m sure it’s all to come xxxx

[Debrakay1704 in reply to Kelpineapple]

take care and thanks for coming back to me. x

[Kelpineapple in reply to Debrakay1704]

Good luck with everything ❤️

[Pickles85]

I’m the same! We have our first scan on Monday which will be about 7 weeks. I can’t stop thinking something is going to go wrong. Most of the time I don’t feel pregnant at all! Some nights I have woken up and have stomach cramps and I think it’s all over but then by the morning nothing! We haven’t told anyone yet and we don’t even really talk about it to each other. I think we almost don’t want to admit we are actually pregnant until we have had the scan and seen that everything is as it should be.

Xxx

[Debrakay1704 in reply to Pickles85]

Hi Pickles, I totally get that, and I feel the same, I know this is such an emotional journey and we are lucky, be lovely for you to have you scan, guess we just got to try and not get too stressed and anxious, keep ourselves busy. xxx

[Dreamingofbaby]

Ahh right there with u. It so hard as so worried if going to continue or go wrong. I’m 8 weeks now and not got another scan until 12weeks I hope (nothing booked in by midwife yet )and so hard to know if all fine or not😑. All can do is have hope but def hard. Best wishes with ur pregnancy x

[Debrakay1704]

Am thank you, and you of course, when did you have your first scan? It is great to know that I am not alone!! Really helps and so nice that we all got this group to help us as I have no one close to me that has experienced IVF.xxx

[Tugsgirl]

I’m sorry to say that at 20 weeks next week I still feel exactly the same. Im feeling some movement, have been for a couple of weeks but instead of reassurance all I feel is fear; fear if she’s not moving for most of the day, fear that if she isn’t moving she’s died and I just don’t know about it. Of course if I then go on to feel movement later in the day I’m so relieved and grateful and I tell myself that I’ll be calmer tomorrow. That doesn’t really happen. I have my 20 Week Scan a week today and again I’m more terrified than excited about it. I keep thinking they’re going to find something wrong with her. It’s like I’m always trying to brace myself for bad news and yes, it’s exhausting. The amount of times I’ve almost buckled and bought a Doppler!! I wish I could enjoy my pregnancy too. I know none of this is any use to you but I just want to tell you that you’re not going insane and I think given our situations it’s not surprising to feel like it’s all too good to be true xx

[Debrakay1704]

Hey, it is of great use, I am just so sorry that you and others are going through it as well, I feel a bit better just getting it out there any hope you do to! Exactly what you said I am always bracing myself for bad news. Love that people can be honest on here, I think that it is safe to say for most until that beautiful bundle is in your arms you will not stop being anxious. I hope your pregnancy is going well though and you are feeling good. xx

[Tugsgirl in reply to Debrakay1704]

Apart from the daily battle with my anxiety yes I’m feeling fine thank you xx

[Debrakay1704 in reply to Tugsgirl]

xxxxxxx Good to hear. xxxx

[Kempton]

I remember my symtoms coming and going so much at that stage. It's weird how feeling so dreadfully sick is kind of a comfort! Not long until your viability scan now so hopefully that will help you to relax a bit, once you've seen your little one's heartbeat ticking away!

To be honest I was nervous all throughout my first pregnancy (less so with my current one - maybe because I'm getting similar sensations so it feels like it's ok). The fear may not disappear at all during your pregnancy but each time you see or hear your baby you'll feel a little better. And when you feel those daily kicks (sometime in the second trimester) its so reassuring.

All the best!

[Debrakay1704]

Thank you so much for your reply and congratulations on your second pregnancy and I hope that everything is going good for you. Take care. xx

[wemma83]

I feel exactly the same! Got our seven week scan tomorrow and I’m absolutely pooing my pants. My symptoms seem to come and go and my anxiety is at an all time high, it’s so horrible waiting 😕 Just got to keep praying and cross our fingers that everything will be just fine 🙏🏻🤞🏼 Sending lots of love sweetheart 💕 xxx

[Debrakay1704]

Oh hun I get that, I know I am going to be exactly the same!!! You will be fine and I will be ready and waiting tomorrow to hear your amazing update, try to get a good nights sleep and I hope your wait will not be too long tomorrow. xxxxxx big hugs

[Suz92]

I hope you are feeling less anxious this week, it’s so hard though. We’re 8 weeks and I’m feeling so anxious that something will go wrong. I’ve had a few bleeds which hasn’t helped, but the baby seems to be fine despite these. What a rollercoaster!! Wishing you a healthy and happy pregnancy xx

[Debrakay1704 in reply to Suz92]

Hi Suz, I saw your post on another persons post and was going to write to you too!! It is so hard isn't it?? Aw bless you, well that is great news, have you had scans? I know that you are going to laugh me saying this but try to relax, have you got a lot of people that you can talk to? I have my first one on Sunday and am so scared I think that has heightened my anxiety this week. Everyday seems to bring a new challenge as you get different pains etc. Wishing you a healthy pregnancy too, you are doing really well though, 8 weeks in is amazing. xxx

[Suz92 in reply to Debrakay1704]

Thanks so much Debrakay, I’m sure you are so anxious about Sunday but I’m sure it will all go well. The first few seconds of the scan are the hardest as they have to locate the baby. Those few seconds feel like years and you can’t breathe, but then all will be well. I’ll pray so hard that it’s a lovely moment for you!

I went to the EPU last Friday after a bad bleed, i was inconsolable as truly thought the worst (the nurse thought I had a mental health issue I was in such a state!), but there was baby on the screen with a heartbeat. Then I went on Monday to the fertility clinic. I’m really lucky in that the fertility nurses know me so well after all these years (silver lining!) that they’ve told me to come anytime I want for a scan to reassure me. They’re very kind! I have family and friends that I can talk to, very lucky that way too. And hubby is my rock. What about you? We’ll get through these days and weeks, one hour at a time xx

[Debrakay1704 in reply to Suz92]

Thank you for the heads up, all advice info welcome!!! That is so amazing that you have that support from the clinic, really great, I am of course no expert but as you probably have seen as well lots of people experience what you are going through and everything is fine and those scans help. I have told about 8 people that way if I do need them I dont have to start at the beginning, they are all really great and so excited, I keep the scans to myself etc so that there is no pressure there I know people don't mean to but they get nervous and then it makes me worse so that is something private we just share, please keep in touch and here if you need anyting. xxxxxx

[Suz92 in reply to Debrakay1704]

Thank you so much, it has been really lovely ‘talking’ to someone that understands. I’ll keep in touch and please you also keep in touch. I’ll be thinking of you on Sunday xoxoxo

[Suz92 in reply to Debrakay1704]

Hope your scan goes well today Debrakey, will be thinking and praying for you. Exciting and nerve wracking day!xx

[Debrakay1704 in reply to Suz92]

Thank you so much. Am so touched. Hope your good x ❤️

[WannaBMum in reply to Debrakay1704]

I hope your scan goes well today and please let us know how it goes.

Keeping everything crossed for you!

[Debrakay1704 in reply to WannaBMum]

Thank you. I will. Am nervous but hopeful. ❤️

[WannaBMum in reply to Debrakay1704]

I am all too aware of that feeling lol. Xx

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I think most women becoming pregnant after a battle with infertility will feel like this.

I’m 30 weeks & I still struggle with my anxiety. I know that isn’t what you want to hear. Due to the location of my placenta I don’t feel many movements only when lying down in the evening. My hubby is completely calm & is taking charge with practical things such as decorating the nursery setting up the pram etc . I don’t want to leave it to the last minute but worry if something goes wrong & we are left with a room full of baby things, to most people it sounds irrational But they haven’t had a 7 year struggle to get pregnant. It does make us worry more. The midwives don’t take any of this into any account with me🤦🏽‍♀️ I’m so very grateful for this baby but terrified it’s too good to be true that we did get our happy ending, plus hormones don’t help do they!

All I can advise is to take it one day at a time ( I’m still doing that!) symptoms will come & gothat is normal. wishing you the best with your pregnancy . Xoxo

[Debrakay1704]

Hi Jess, Of course , I totally agree! You are doing amazing though, I think I will be exactly the same as you as I think sometime you think if you fully let yourself believe..... Exciting about the nursery etc!!! My husband is exactly the same and so laid back, he does not get it! Look forward to your updates and hope the rest of your pregnancy goes smoothly until your miracle arrives. xx

[WannaBMum]

I am so glad I found this post! We have our viability scan this afternoon (7w+6) and I am so nervous, I barely slept a wink last night and when I did finally doze off I had the worst dream.

We had a minor scare two nights ago when I started spotting but luckily it disappeared within the hour. I am struggling not to over analyse every little twinge or cramp and I'm petrified everytime I go to the toilet in case of what I may find! Since transfer I have had very little symptoms and most of them have disappear after a day or two. Hopefully after the scan today I can rest easy for the next few days.

I really never imagined I would be this anxious after my BFP. I desperately want to enjoy my pregnancy after waiting so long to get to this point.

Anyway apologies for the rant and all the best of luck to you ladies! Xxx

[Debrakay1704]

Aw glad you found it too, hope that you do not have too long to wait today to have your scan as you must be exhausted! You think that once you get you BFP it will be all plain sailing but then the fun really starts hey! Hopefully today will give you all the reassurance you need and your can relax and get some rest, here if you need anything. xxxxxx

[WannaBMum in reply to Debrakay1704]

My scan isn't until 3pm so I only have a few more hours to go. Fingers crossed!!!!

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Hope it went well today xoxo

[WannaBMum]

Hi everyone, just to let you know that the scan went really well this afternoon. After what felt like a lifetime to locate we finally saw out little ones heart flicker on the screen which brought a tear to my eye. I will definitely be getting a good night's sleep tonight.

Thanks again ladies and all the best to you all. Xxxxx

[Debrakay1704]

Brilliant!!!! have been thinking of you, thanks for letting us know and hope you had a lovely rest. xxxxx