Diane, can I just say a massive thank you to you for looking after this site and for being a massive support to us all! You have always in my opinion done this with a huge degree of professionalism, empathy and genuine concern. What a lovely lady you are! This last few days on here have not been great and the purpose of this support group seems to be lost.
It would be great to draw a line under this and take it back to where it should be.
Let’s all move forwards xxx
Agreed 100%. We are all here for support at very difficult times in our lives and Diane is our rock xx
That's lovely and needed saying, thanks. It's so sad that her post was twisted entirely out of context yesterday. xxx
Hear hear! 🥂
Absolutely DianeArnold ! Let's get this wonderful supportive family back together!! Love to you all, don't know where I'd be without You!!xxxx
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Completely agree! Such a supportive group, i think I would have lots my marbles if it wasn't for you all!!
Agree, agree, agree!!!
I don’t post much, but I do lurk, and there are a number of you ladies who inspire me to just keep going on.
There is naturally light and shade in the group, hope and the deepest despair, but the support you get when you need it most is like nothing else and Diane is always there with kind words. Xx
Yesss, to DianeArnold and us all 🥂
I agree, well said. This forum is full of many wonderful supportive ladies and gentlemen who are all at different stages in this awful journey, but all equally able to help and advise each other, it's everyones loss if we start losing people, especially those who have so much experience to share. Definitely need to draw a line under it all and move on, I really rely on this forum and don't want to face this journey without it 🙁xox
Yes Diane I for one really apprecriate all your help an support along with everyone on here, I 100% wudnt b able to cope with this journey without this forum.
I agree! Thanks Diane! And thanks to you all, ladies! Xxx
Agreed. Diane knows how wonderful I think she is..
Let’s all look out for each other instead of fighting amongst ourselves. We should all have each other’s backs here no matter what stage we’re at xx
Hi. Thanks for the kind comments. I truly love all you ladies - and a few men, but all this needless agro has questioned whether I need it. I don’t want to resign, but may have to. We’ll see what the discussion with my boss brings this weekend. Night night for now. Diane xx
And that was why I posted Diane. I wanted to stop this and show you how much your valued. Sending huge hugs xxx
Diane, please don't even think about resigning over this. You are wonderful and I feel very guilty for responding about these pregnancy posts. It was too much. I agree. You are highly valued and this site simply wouldn't work without you - that much I do know. I think situations like this are rare and you were simply responding to feedback from people - you were trying to please us all which is so hard. You made the right call and always always do xxx
I wrote a long reply down there; but then saw your comment and decided to edit mine and make it shorter. Really don’t want to create more arguments! But I have loads to say ... grrrr xx
Oh no Diane, please don't resign and certainly not over this. Your aim is always trying to protect all of us which you do.
Your knowledge and advice is so valuable and you do it with such a caring heart.
I am personally of the belief that we have to follow the rules whatever they may be.
I don't think we can ever be at a point of everyone being happy all of the time.
I don't know what else to say except please please don't resign over recent days events that would be so so sad.
Sending you so much love
Xxxxx
Oh my word Diane, I know today has been bad but please don't go!!!😙💕💕💕 You are so valued by all of us, your expertise & advice.....well there is no price that can be put on it! We really need someone special like you, you understand us!! Ive been on here a long, long time.....too long & you are amazing!!xxxx
When you say “have to resign” DianeArnold what do you mean? Do you think you won’t have a choice? Because if you don’t then I don’t think any of us will stay here without you, there will be the biggest uproar! But if it’s because you’re thinking of leaving then please please please reconsider because we not only NEED you but we love you! Diane you have made a huge and positive difference in so many lives, none more so than mine. You were there for me in my darkest and scariest times and I honestly, hand on heart, don’t know what I’d have done without you! You saved me. More than once. So please please don’t leave. Stay. Please xx 🐰🐰 xx 😘
Oh no! I have been out this evening and came back to loads of messages from people telling me about this. You cannot go Diane. We all need you and you keep us sane in our darkest moments and bring us peace. You are an amazing human being.
Posts were not in my opinion directed (And should never be) at any one individual. We are all going through hard hard times and sometimes are in different places than others. We need each other and need you.
Xxx
Hi Diane,
I hope that you are ok.
You do nothing but support us all, your post was perfectly reasonable, and it felt reflective of what more than a couple of members felt.
I can understand your feelings, it must sometimes feel like herding cats trying to keep us all happy!!
I for one sincerely hope that you stay with us all, and if you did leave through anything but your own choice I would question whether I would remain on here.
If it is your choice then I really hope that you feel able to reconsider, you are so valued by so many, myself included.
Lots of love,
Suzannah
Oh Diane please don't resign. You have been absolutely amazing at supporting us. I agree these few days have been small hiccups but let's put that behind us now. This forum has been my rock through my IVF and you have been our light! Please please stay with us!
Oh no Diane, please don’t leave! I’m honestly so confused as to how it would get to that point.
I took your post the other day as very kind and thoughtful. Of course there were some strong opinions and reactions, but I think that’s to be expected when you’re dealing with such an emotional subject. It’s in no way a reflection on your performance as administrator. You might even say it’s a good thing people have felt safe enough to share how they are honestly feeling with each other. That’s what healthy families do. You’ve done nothing but do your best to make this a supportive, safe community. No one could do that better. We absolutely need you. Xx
Please don’t leave Diane. You do an absolutely amazing job here. Not only did you help me through my IVF journey but you have also kindly responded to many of my queries on the NCT forum which I have appreciated so much.
I really hope you change your mind. If this is a case of your boss suggesting you resign then I agree with Vicky, there will be uproar!
Xxx
Please don't resign Diane. You are the heart beat of this invaluable support network. It wouldn't function the same without you. You are an incredible asset and have provided much needed advice, encouragement and support. Your post was not offensive in any way and clearly was misunderstood/misinterpreted by some which is really sad. You want the best for everyone and this reflects your wonderfully kind nature. Please don't leave as you would leave shoes that could never be filled. You are appreciated and greatly loved. Xo
To be clear - this was never about you Diane, it is no reflection on you. It was a perfectly reasonable message that was completely skewed and manipulated by the few. Diane your post was perfectly reasonable given this is a fertility forum. xxx
Diane you do an amazing job 😘 xx
This is so sad:-((( 😢😢
I am a bit confused why this has escalated so rapidly.
Sending lot of love.
We are all here to support each other. I don't know what I would do without you wonderful ladies and you Diane.
Please dont resign Diane. You did nothing wrong. You are a support to all. X
Hear hear. I'm late to this but so sorry to hear of your distress, Diane!
This site and your support and guidance for us is a true lifeline on this tough and sensitive journey. Thank you and sending you huge hugs! Xx
Nooo, please don’t leave DianeArnold . This forum doesn’t work without you. Please stay! xx
Oh my goodness Diane please don’t resign, I can’t begin to tell you how much you’ve helped me on a horrendous journey - 3 miscarriages in the last 8 months and you’ve been a rock for me in some very tough times!! 😢
I didn’t get involved in the last posts but have to say I think it’s very sad the way it escalated!! All you’ve ever done is try to support us through the hardest, loneliest journey and some need to remember that!! Sending luv n hugs your way Diane!! 💗xxx
Resign?? What?? Have I missed something? Diane you are totally brilliant. I am also very sorry to hear that you have been distressed. This forum is very hard to be an admin of, given it's very sensitive nature and you do a brilliant job, thank you. xx
thank you so so much for posting this message..I think a lot of us wanted to write something like this. .I am so so sad to hear all that has happened as this forum has been my saviour so many times and as for DianeArnold it just wouldn't work without her and I for one need to say a huge thank you to her. I see a pattern here with people reaching out then getting upset and leaving and I think this sadly is the risk with social media..I heard it referred too as keyboard warriors the other day .folk who can almost anonymously hurt folk through what they type when they would never say this face to face. I have never had anything but support on here and have made some real friends on here. I hope that sense can prevail and all can stay as all our experiences and feelings are valid however if folk are turning nasty and hurtful I am sorry they need to leave as it is hard enough out there without a fertility forum turning nasty. I hope all can return to normal and those that caused upset leave or reflect and apologise and those that were hurt can see the enormous outpouring of support from the majority on here and can also stay and continue to feel the love, strength and nurturing from us all including of course the wonderful Diane. please please let's get back to what we all do so well in supporting each other through sadly our shared struggles. .much love to you all xx
So glad someone posted this- it must be very difficult to moderate a forum like this, and Diane, you do a grand job with real heart. Hope everything recently works itself out, you are so appreciated xxxx
Thank you ladies for being so supportive of my post. I just couldn’t take it any more.
I dreaded the responses initially but you ladies have all came together and showed what this group is REALLY about.
Thank you and fingers crossed it has helped Diane , our rock, our biggest supporter our amazing Diane! 😘😘
I really hope so..well done hun xx
Thanks DianeArnold you are a total star ⭐
Thank you DianeArnold , it is hard work and can often feel like a thankless task being a forum moderator. You do a great job and thank you for all you do. I hope you don't leave, but I understand the strains of running a forum and the stress that can come with it. Whatever is best for you and your mind xx
I have been saddened to read what has been happening and chose not to comment as it is such an emotive subject. I agree that Diane is lovely and friendly and to lose her would be devastating to many. What would we all do without her voice of reason and professional and motherly advice?! Even there on your days off, your dedication to this site and us all is wonderful. Diane I hope you are able to do what's best for you in all this xx
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