Our 2 little embryos have disintegrated. Just devastated. The clinic have advised going forward egg donation or embryo transfer.
We've only had two rounds of ivf I keep thinking it's to early to be out already. Do we try again at a different clinic and waste time and money. Anyone been in this position what did u do? Hubbys not got great sperm either xxx
I was there. Hubby’s sperm isn’t that great. I had a fibroid. First cycle I had a 5bb embryo put back which resulted in a chemical. Frozen cycle it was a BFN. Now on my 3rd cycle and have just transferred 2 x 5aa embabies on yesterday. If you feel like this is to early a decision ask your specialist why they want to use other alternatives. Have you guys tried ICSI?
It's icsi we've had. Over the 2 cycles we had 12 eggs only 3 fertilised none made it they just disintegrate in the dish. My eggs aren't good quality and hubbys sperm isn't good either. I'm like do I keep trying for a few more years is it worth it hmmm so tough xxx good luck on this cycle lots of baby dust for u xxx
My 1st cycle at 39 I had 9 eggs 7 mature and 2 went to blastocyst. This time around at 40 I changed my diet took Ubiquinol, Omega 3 & 6, a probiotic, pregnacare etc before egg collection. 9 eggs collected 7 mature 4 went to blast and 2 of those 5aa. I’m currently in my 2ww.
I’m not saying this to discourage you from pursuing other avenues but if you feel like it’s to soon then go with our gut. Speak to your specialist get all the information that you can and then make an informed decision. I’d not want you to waste your money because IVF is so expensive. It might help if you give it a few weeks after this latest attempt because you are so pumped still with hormones. I hope this helps.
I wish you nothing but success!! 😘🤞🏽
Oh no. I am so so sorry to read this. It is so devastating. After 2 cycles with our own eggs we tried another with a differentnclinic and they actually abandoned the cycle half way through. We then went to a clinic abroad as we were told I had 1% chance with my own eggs. The clinic abroad did their own checks before advising on best route forward.
Lots of people struggle with the concept of donor eggs or sperm but I really wanted to be pregnant and give birth so opted with no hesitation to have donor eggs.
We got 7 eggs, 6 fertilised and we have 3 left after cycle 1 bfn, cycle 2 with initial bfp. Frozen cycles are so much easier on my mind and body and I love knowing I have some "in the freezer" although am determined it is going to work this time.
It is so raw today for you to be thinking about what next, but I understand how you are feeling as I know I need a plan when things go wrong.
Sending you massive massive hugs xxxx
I actually think I feel ok about egg donation. There's no guarantees for anything. Hope the process isn't too long. Good luck I'll be keeping all my fingers and toes crossed for u xxx
I’m so sorry to hear this. IVF is such a tough process. Can I ask whether you are doing it in NHS clinics or in a private one? X
Thank you we are private in Spain at the moment xxx
I think it would be worth of trying with a different clinic and try with your own eggs. A fresh start, a different approach. Although my reserve is good, I haven’t responded that brilliantly and out of 19 follicles growing I only got 8 eggs last time. This time I will be given growth hormone to overcome this issue so let’s see if it’s effective. There must be some way to address the issues that have been thrown up in the cycle. But of course now make sure you give yourself a nice break from it all. Sending hugs xxx
Hi we had 2 failed rounds with my eggs , we managed 1 3 day transfer but a bfn then the second round non of my eggs fertilised! My partners sperm has low morphology! We had decided on having 3 goes at the start of Ivf because of the costs and also our age! I’m 44. Our best chance was donor egg route so we took the plunge as we are desperate to be parents and went to Cyprus as they have links with clinic on the Wirral! And high success rates. We are now waiting for our first viability scan in 2 weeks after our first ever positive pregnancy test, so fingers crossed . I’ve got a friend who got lucky with her own eggs on her 7th attempt but we haven’t got the time or the money to keep going that’s why we did donor route. Good luck whatever you decide is right for you 😘 it’s so emotionally hard and it still hasn’t sunk in that I’ve had a positive test! I keep looking at the pic of pregnancy test I took 😊
Congratulations I'm sooo chuffed for you. Can I ask how you feel about the donor egg? Do u worry about bonding xxx
I so desperately want to be a mum and in my heart I could love any child , for my partner I think he’s happy that he will be genetically linked and that’s good enough for me, my body will nourish and nurture the baby and there’s evidence now suggesting surrogates pass on some of their characteristics onto the baby. I couldn’t be happier x
Thank you so much that's just what I wanted to hear 😘 My friends have children and I love them all like they were my own xxx I just want to hear someone say mum xxx
Do what feels right in your heart and feels right for you 😘 x
Go with your heart. We had around 7 cycles with my wife's own eggs before we moved to donor, we were ready at that point. Wife is currently 32 weeks and very happy as am I.
As the husband, I just wanted to support my wife, and it was her decision, I personally would have carried on, but it depends on your financial position and what advice you're getting from doctors. My wife was 37 when we started IVF and by the time we got to cycle 7 she was 41, so donor made sense. We were both shocked it worked first time (so far), donor cycles have only a 40% chance of live birth ( a lot of clinics tell you much higher rates but do some digging and you find this means BFP results rather than take home baby results.
You do need time to grieve not using your own eggs and counselling, its the only way we could have gone forward with it.
2 cycles does seem rather short to go straight to donor, but it does depend on what the issues are and your age, etc.
Best of luck whatever you decide xx
Thank you. I am only 31 hubby is 40. They have told us we could try another protocol but the chances are as low as 13% we have male and female issues the eggs fertilise then just disintegrate. It makes sense I suppose that the best option would be to change one of them for a better chance. I think I feel ok about it. How does your wife feel about donor is she worried about bonding, telling the child etc xxx
Hey Claire, we got told after 3 cycles (if you can even count the first as all of our embryos perished before transfer - feel free to nosey back my old posts to get the full pic) that our chance of success was 5%, the consultant said DE would be the right move forward. We had already moved on to look at DE so its wasnt much of a shock. If we'd had an endless pot of money we may have tried again with my eggs but it wasnt really an option. We just felt that if it raised our chances to be parents then this is what we would do. Dont get me wrong, there is a grieving process to go through, its hard thinking that the baby wont look like you. However my nurse at the clinic pointed out that any baby with my OE may not look like me anyway and take after my hubby. I had a long hard think about this and she was right, my hubbys sister is nothing like him or his mum....doesnt look like her dad either. Anyhoo once I'd made the commitment to go DE I havent really looked back, those embryos are"mine" and thats that!! Im still not pregnant of course and there are no guarantees but hopefully we'll get there! We got 6 top 5 day blastocysts from our lovely donor! Good luck!xx
Running out of time...advice welcome
Any teachers out there about to start Fresh/FET cycle?
bleeding :-( freaking out 
I’m out. 
