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💔 heart broken 😭

So after our postive test I booked a early scan I should of been 6 weeks 5 days all they could see was a sack and yolk no heart beat ☹.

Of course they tried to tell us that I might just be behind where I thought I was and the want to 're scan us in 2 weeks but I just know in my heart that it's over ☹.

We are broken .......

All my pregnancy tests came up as strong postive and even a clear blue digital came up 3+ last weekend , I was sure that it was a postive sign and I can't belive I was so stupid.

I can't even drink gin as my husband has a tiny bit of hope left in him and he won't let me 😢 I have to wait 2 more weeks .

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I’m so sorry to read this and I cannot begin to understand what you are going through. Always here for you if you ever want a chat xx

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Thank you xx

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So sorry. Cannot offer any words of wisdom....

Thinking of you guys.

💕💕

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Thank you x

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I'm so sorry to read this Hun, I have been in the same position & know how heart-breaking it is. Bloody awful! Thinking of you xx

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Thank you, this is the 2nd time we've been through this, just want to run away and hide x

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I also had 2 losses Hun. The first is bad enough but to go through a second loss felt so much harder. I just wanted to hide as well but as much as it hurts & it's difficult take time to cry, grieve etc but don't let this beat you! Given time, you will fight on I promise. For now, look after yourself. Lots of love xx

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Thank you, sorry you have been through this too xx

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I’m so sorry sweetie, thinking of u xx

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Thank you x

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So sorry to hear this.. Thinking of you both and sending lots of love xxxx

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Thank you x

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I’m sorry that you are going through this & I can see how upsetting this is for you x

However I really do think there is still hope for you. You may have ovulated a few days later than you thought, so little embie isn’t as far along. I’ve just read a thread where a women saw only the yolk & sack at 6+2 and went on to see little baby and heartbeat at 8+1 ♥️

I very much hope you have a similar success story. Keep the faith just that little bit longer 🤞🤞 x

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Thank you for giving me some hope xx

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I'm so sorry to read this. I've read sometimes before 7 weeks too early so I will keep my fingers crossed for you. Thinking of you x

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Thank you , my husband has more hope than me, but I suppose it's not over till the fat lady sings x

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It’s awful. This happened to us last year. The two week wait is awful. I don’t know how we did it to be honest.

I hope u get a different outcome.

I kept telling myself least we got it early, we were 9 weeks and had a miscarriage a few weeks before. Thought we were ok with getting to 9 weeks, all the test were strong, even the clear blue test went up from 1-2 too 2-3 and then 3+ we so thought it was our turn. We had to wait two weeks was awful. We we’re 12 weeks by the time we had medical management to get what was in my womb out.

We’ve been unsuccessful in getting pregnant since think we had what they call a chemical pregnancy.

I wish u all the look in the world 💖 ur stronger than u know 💖

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Thank you, I really thought it was our time I fell naturally we've 1 chemical pregnancy ivf and 3 failed ivf cycles and this time it felt so different.

So sorry to hear you have been through this too.

I hope your journey brings you success x

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We’re just waiting for a referral for ivf.

When we got the go a head for clomid I thought that would be the answer, but still no joy. On third cycle now too, so bloated and sore.

I hope that we get our happy ending one day.

I wish u all the look and I prey things are different for u on ur next scan xxx

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We were just lining up for donor eggs privately so it was such a shock!

I hope your ivf brings you success it's such a hard journey were ever you are at .

Thank you so much x

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I’m so sorry, this is heart breaking. I will keep the hope that it was just too early. Sending you lots of love xxxx

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My husband has hope I'm just numb .... I hope your right xx

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I didn't think the heartbeat was there until 7, possibly 8 weeks? Maybe I've got it wrong. I don't want to give false hope but maybe don't go binging on gin just yet. My fingers are crossed it's just a slow growing bean xxx

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There has been a few ladies on here recently with heart beats at 6-7 weeks .

I will hold off the gin ( hubby has put a ban lol )

Thank you xx

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So so sorry for this. It so hard and unfair. Fingers crossed though it is a lil early and be there in a couple of weeks 🤞🤞 hope so. Take good care xx

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Thank you, 2 weeks is going to feel like forever xx

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Hey Hun, I am so so sorry to read this. Please take care xxx

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Thank you xx

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So so sorry to read this. I have just been through the same thing earlier this year. Really hope you have a positive outcome xx

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Thank you, sorry to hear you have been through the same xx

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I’m so sorry to read this, I know there are no words to make it any easier but it could still be to early to see the heart beat - my clinic won’t scan until 8 weeks for this reason. Thinking of you both xx

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Thank you xx

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:-(

Could you ring them to say you are really stressed and ask if you could have a scan in a week, instead of two?

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It's a private clinic and it is actually 12 days instead of 2 weeks, I bawled my eyes out In the clinic so they know how much it's effected me

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What about contacting your local EPU instead?

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I will try them in the morning see if they will see me earlier . Thank you

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I am so sorry you are going through this. Definitely phone the EPU tomorrow and plead for an earlier scan. For your own sanity and peace of mind. I had a very early scan at my EPU and again a week later when I had some bleeding. They were a bit reluctant but I kept on saying how anxious I was feeling. Explain your history and the anxiety you feel. Good luck. I am thinking of you xx

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Thank you, to be honest I didn't like my EPU last time I had to go there so I'm reluctant to phone them, but your right if it saves me from going mental it's probably the right thing to do.xx

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So sorry to hear this. My heart really goes out to you. We had a scare at 7 weeks with our little boy and thankfully it was ok but in that moment I was crushed. I hope you are ok xx

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Thank you, glad to hear everything was ok for you 😁.

I'm just crushed as you say but we will get there whatever happens xx

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This is awful news, you must be so worried. Like your hubby I’d hold out some hope until the next scan, hopefully it’s just a tiny bit too early 🤞 x

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I'm trying but it's so hard as don't want to get hopes up.

Xx

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I can only imagine 😔. Look after yourself until you finally get answers xx

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Thank you xx

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Im sorry that hear i cant even think whats going through you... i really hope its all positive in 2 weeks and dont lose hope xxx

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Thank you xx

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You will! I was told in3rd round my tubes were full of liquid and it would wash away an embryo if transferred. I did it anyway and now he is 12 weeks 😘 stay positive mirickes happen

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Thank you, will just keep praying that our miracle happens too xx

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Hey crocker crazy I just had an early scan 8 weeks past my LMP and the sonogropher said we were 6 weeks, we did see a heartbeat. However when I discussed it with the midwife she said you usually don't see a heartbeat until after 6 weeks so she is determined were further along. I really hope it is just too soon for you yet! Stay off the gin and keep everything crossed for the next scan, and all of us on here will too!

How do you feel in yourself any symptoms? Xxx

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Thank you, I will keep the gin locked away for a little while longer and hopefully we will have a little miracle at next scan, I'm just in self protect mode at the moment and don't want to get hopes up.

I've got very tender breasts and had some cramping, definatly peeing more soften I did think I started to feel a bit nauseous the last couple of days but that might just be in my head as your waiting for symptoms.

Glad to hear your pregnancy is ticking along nicely 😁 all this stuff is very complicated xx

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I do that! Get into brace position and my fiancee is the hopeful one.

I really hope its just too early to see anything, but the fact that they want to bring you back in 2 weeks means there is hope!!

Symptoms sound encouraging as well, aw I really hope so.

I will be thinking of you these next 2 weeks, and thank you still early days for me too :/

Keep us informed x

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I have my fingers crossed for you that your pregnancy progresses well.

Xx

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Really sorry to hear this. It must be heart- breaking. If you can’t bear to wait the two weeks, could you get serial HCG blood tests to see if the level is rising? Thinking of you. X

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Thank you, I will try my doctors tomorrow see if they will set up some blood tests, it might give us a clue as to what is going on xx

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How awful for you. I know how heartbreaking it is. I wish you’d had better news. So sorry xx

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I’m so sorry. It is so cruel to have it taken away when you have come so far. You’re in my thoughts and prayers. x

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Thank you x

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I had a scan at same time as you. Doctors saw an empty sack which they called blighted ovum and another sack with baby. Went back at 7 weeks same result and the empty sack only started showing baby at 8 weeks. Please stay off the gin for now. In this journey hope is what keeps us going.

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Thank you, will keep away from the gin for now. I've just read your 11 week post wow you certainly have been through it all but have 2 little miracels on bored 😊.

You've given me a little bit of hope back xx

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Sorry for all the heartache you are going through but maybe there is a glimmer of hope for you and I also think you should ask for an earlier scan as it is just cruel to keep you hanging really hope next scan brings the best news for you x

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Thank you, I think it's 2 weeks so they can definatly say yes or no to pregnancy if that makes sence as changes should be so different.

Xx

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my heart is breaking for you...there are no words xxxx

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Thank you 😢 life is so cruel. I hope you are doing ok xx

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I’m so sorry x

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Thank you x

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Oh cocker im so sorry to read this, what a year you’ve had. Hope you are getting lots of cuddles off the fur babies, this journey is too bloody cruel to the best of people xxxx

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Plenty of cuddles , especially when they want food lol. I stupidly thought because it was natural life wouldn't be so cruel to take it away ...... how wrong can u be!

I've been looking the internet for a new little fur baby ( kitten) something to plug the gap lol

Hope all is going well with you xx

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There is just no sense in any of it... two of my losses were natural pregnancies and two were ivf, each one just as painful to go through. That sounds like a lovely idea and hopefully will help pass the time for you at least. I’ll be thinking of you xxx

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Siiigggh life's just so tough, none of us deserve to go through this rubbish.

I will have a house full of animals at this rate 🤣

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I am so sorry to hear what is happening to you. I am sending you huge hugs. Thinking of you xxxxx

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Thank you so much x

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I am so so sad to read this 😔

Thinking of you. This journey really can be so cruel.

Best of luck for 2 weeks time lovely xxx

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Thank you, I hope all is going well with you xx

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I'm so sorry :( xxx

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I had the same thing happen to me. I emphasise with you, it isn’t fair. Sending you big hugs and take care xx

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Sorry you've been through the same thing , it's horrible 😕 are we not tortured enough !

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I’m really sorry to hear you are going this and truly hope the scan goes well in two weeks. The waiting around is horrendous; can they not run HCG blood tests to see if they are doubling as well as scanning you in 2 weeks?

I went through a miscarriage last year and there was nothing on my scan at 6 weeks even tho I’d had heavy bleeding it was still such a shock.

Keeping my fingers crossed for you xoxo

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It was a private scan clinic and don't do bloody tests , I tried to get a telephone call with my nice doctor but she wasn't it today, I'm going to try again tomorrow.

The waiting is the worst ☹ of just been in limbo and I don't think you can ever prepare yourself for a loss as you always have what if in the back of your mind.

Thank you xx

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Oh Im so sorry hun, how devastating! Im really hoping that it's just too early and that you cant have any gin for the foreseeable!! Sending massive love and hugs.xxx

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Thank you 😲 as much as i love gin not been able to have it for the foreseeable future would be fantastic 😁🙏.

I hope you are well xx

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Are you having HCG levels monitored? Way more reliable than early scan. They need to double every 2 days to indicate viable pregnancy. Call the EPU or GP and ask for tests. You can get 3 results in by the weekend. Wishing you well.

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I tried my doctors this morning but the nice one wasn't in so I'm going to try again tomorrow hopefully she will be able to do the blood tests and it might give us a clearer picture .

Thank you x

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I’m so sorry to hear that. I have been in that position 2 times :( Sending lots of love xx

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I'm so sorry to read this. Thinking of you xx

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So very sorry to read this. Thinking of you both xx

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Thank you xx

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I am extremely sad to hear your story. It's very sad that it's your second time too. Please do not lose hope however, as long as nothing is set in stone you can keep praying. And if God forbid, something happens i do not want you to be depressed. There are alot of other ways to have children, like adoption and surrogacy. But for now just keep hoping and stay in good health. Take care and stay strong.

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