Mother’s Day after m/c

[Rachwithers]

Hi all,

Anyone else dreading Mother’s Day? Miscarried in November and should be 20+ weeks pregnant, receiving my first ever Mother’s Day card but instead were awaiting our first ivf appt... 💔

Sending you all lots of strength x

[Tugsgirl]

Hi I’m sorry for your loss.

In answer to your question; yes and no. I’m dreading it for the two losses we had last year and for the fact that we’re now all out of embies but I’m looking forward to spoiling my Mum. Are you going to be spending time with your Mum? Whatever you do, do something really nice, even if it’s only you and your OH. Perhaps buy yourself a little treat. You are a mummy too, to an angel 👼 xx

[Cinderella5]

Hmmm i guess Im a bit different to you....Ive never been pregnant and it may sound strange but I can't quite see myself as a "mum" so I don't feel upset. Not sure if that's a self protection thing or not....!! I just concentrate on my own mum, making sure that she knows that she is fabby! Big hugs for Sunday, sounds like it will be a hard day for you after your loss!xx

[Hopeandwishes]

Hi Rachwithers, I’m not really looking forward to it. Last year Aunt Flo decided to turn up on Mother’s Day and I’m currently having my 3rd miscarriage. Talk about timing! I can’t help think about what it would be like if my pregnancies were successful... We just have to keep in mind that one day we will get to experience it and it will be all the more special. Sorry for the journey that you have had so far but know that you are not alone xx

[Dunla]

Hi, yes not looking forward to it either but like Tugs and Cinderella said I think I’m going to try to focus on my own Mammy and making sure she knows how much she’s loved. I’ll be thinking of you. Sending you lots of love x

[Hidden]

I had my miscarriage in July and I’m finding it very tough- I should be 3 weeks away from giving birth 💔

Im very lucky I’ve got a 19 year old son and I grateful to have him but I’m completely devastated I haven’t been able to give my hubby a child💔

I have invited both our mums over our house for a home made lunch because I cannot bear to be near mums and heavily pregnant women when I should’ve been 💔 Trying to make the best out of a difficult day 😊

If it makes you feel better you’re not alone struggling with this day 😘

One day I hope we will all be celebrating this day with our little miracles it won’t always be like this one way or another 💞 families can come all shapes and sizes. 💗

[RidleyNL]

How funny, I logged on this morning with the intention to write a similar post.. I feel you, I am dreading it too, to be honest. I’m just going to have to grit my teeth to get through it, and I am sure there will be loads of others out there who are as well. I am so sorry about your miscarriage, they are devastating and you can’t help but count the weeks and think about where you should be in your pregnancy can you. Awful, just awful. Sending you love and hope you get through it ok xx

[CM2017]

Hi,

I’m dreading it for the same reason. Miscarried last yr and should now have a 2-3month old baby in my arms. I will be seeing my own Mum today instead of tomorrow. My younger sister is spending tomorrow with Mum alongside her 2 children. They can enjoy being mums together without me bringing the mood down and then worrying it will upset me.

I will be staying off any form of social media as it will be really difficult. I am so happy for everyone who gets to celebrate but it’s so hard knowing what you are missing out on.

Take care of yourself, cry, smile, be sad and do whatever is right for you xx