So today I went for my 8 week scan, and unfortunately my baby hasn’t grown 😔. The nurse couldn’t see a strong heartbeat 💗 and told me and partner that it hasn’t worked! We are so gutted!!!
But the sad thing is that body is not rejecting the baby so I’m going to have to a dc, I’m going for a second scan on Wednesday to double check.
I’m hoping next time around it will be a better result keeping strong and positive.
Has anyone miss out on there first round of ivf?
Would love to comfort from you lovely ladies today xx
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Once naturally and twice through ivf. Turns out I have a blood clotting condition though so most likely there wasn’t anything wrong with my babies 😞 xx
Had a natural miscarriage 10 years ago. First ivf (fresh) was a bfn. Second was a fet and bfp. Third was a fet and a bfp. Now I’m on my tww for my last frozen embryo. We lost one embryo day of transfer.
I have been through this unfortunate experience roughly 15 days ago. Same as you, we went for our first scan and were told that our baby has not grown and I will miscarry soon (which did happen) My husband and I still trying to cope with that! So sorry for your loss!
I thought it would be better to let nature do what needs to be done....I had a second scan and told me that the process is still ongoing... In a week or so I will have a pregnancy test. They told me that if I get a negative result the miscarriage will be considered as complete; if it comes positive I need to ring them back and get me checked just in case. I do not bleed any more which gives a hint that this might be over, however I will proceed with how I have been advised. It is better to be safe than sorry!
So sorry to hear this. I suffered the same on my first round of IVF and it’s heart breaking. Take it easy xx
I had medical management where they gave me a pessary but it didn’t work (I didn’t know this at the time though) so it passed naturally a few weeks later xx
This is just awful I’m so so sorry! Look after each other, there is nothing anyone can say to make this better but I’m sending you lots of love, thinking of you x x x
So sorry to hear this. Can’t imagine what your going through. Sending all my love and so many hugs. The world is not fair but you will get your baby soon hunny. So sorry again xxx
Sending you love. I was in the same boat on my first cycle, at our 7 week scan they could see the pregnancy sac but it was empty. Had to wait a week to have it confirmed then had d&c the next day.
Have since had a failed fresh cycle but that gave us two embryos to freeze and I'm in the 2ww now after using one of them on a natural fet and feeling relatively positive about it.
If you need someone to chat to who's been there feel free to pm me.
Sending you all the love and strength in the world xxxx
I'm really sorry to read this. Awful time for you and your OH. I've had 2 D and Cs. If anything good can be said about a D and C it is a quick process and saves lots of time waiting for nature to take its course etc. However, you will feel a bit of discomfort after the procedure and will have some bleeding. Be kind to yourself. You need a lot of tlc right now. Thinking about you. Take care. You will survive this. Just take one day at a time. Xo
Sorry to see your news. I had a heartbeat at my 8wk scan but by 9wks I was spotting. My EPU scanned me at 10wks as they couldn’t see me sooner and I had a baby with no heartbeat and not going anywhere. That was the 18th dec and I opted for a d and c which I had on the 21st dec. I’m just about to start my second round as I’m not lucky enough to have time on my side, I’m 41! So far I’m fine but have the odd down day! 💕 xx
Your strength and positivity shines out from your post. Be brave. My heart breaks for you but I pray that everything is fine with your unborn. Sending all my love and best wishes
I lost a pregnancy last year after ttc nearly 6 years ( once my endometriosis was found and treated we fell for the first time) at 4 and a half weeks. As it was early I didn’t need a D & C.
It’s such a shock and I’m really sorry you’re going through this xoxo
I am so sorry to read your post and what you are going through. It is so cruel and went through similar as you. PM me if you maybe want to know more about what to expect or if I can help in anyway - even a rant.
dear ker i know it must be really hard on you.This time you just want people to support you.You are strong to have gone through all of this.And still looking for more options.At this time of misery even.You must ask the doctor first.They will give you the best consultation ever.Best of luck.(
Hey beautiful lady.You are so strong and brave.I knew you are dealing all that with much positivity and strength.I wish and hope your next scan will be much better and fina as compared to first one.I had my child with IVF.I am not getting success in the first cycle.After 2 failed cycles I got the positive test in the 3rd cycle of IVF.Hope in future you are feeling better.
Thank you to everyone that has replied to me, I’m just full of mixed emotion I really don’t know what to expect tomorrow! I’m doing this on the nhs too and I’m on time scale, and my clinic just informed me today I have wait 3 mths before I can go again! 🙈😒
It’s really tough- when I had my miscarriage I was keen to try again soon ( told I could try naturally after a period) I get it but it’s probably best to let things settle down- you can just use the time to prepare yourselves get fit and healthy ( not that you aren’t) and enjoy spending time with hubby, do things for you as well treat yourself 😊 Im really sorry for what you’re going through and hope tomorrow isn’t too awful. xoxo
It is very heartbreaking. I am sure you must be shattered now. I would suggest you not to lose hope. Some cruel things happen in life. You should be calm and stay strong. I would suggest you have a healthy diet for the duration. Keep yourself active. One of my friends underwent this procedure. She told me it is difficult to tolerate the failures. At the same time, she said that the doctor suggested her to take a very good diet. It also helps a lot. Moreover, the body also needs such strong energy. She was blessed with the baby on the third attempt. She had a very good diet and her spirits were very high. I wish you all the best in your future.
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lol after yourself xx
Good news 
So sad - so cruel
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