Well, my egg donor had her collection yesterday and we got 7 eggs, 5 of which are developing. Is it okay to feel a bit disappointed? It seems awfully low, especially given the fact that she is only 22. I am now terrified that by the time we get to transfer, there may be nothing to put in.

Sorry, this is such a random post but I am feeling very emotional and so afraid it is all going to go wrong 😟

Please tell me I am being a giant tit and to stop being pathetic!

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  • Countycat you are being a giant tit and you need to stop being pathetic!!

    There, did that help πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

    I completely understand how you feel love but please just remember you have 5 eggs fertiliser from a young girl in her prime. Quality over quantity every time.

    Most of the girls that are getting large numbers of eggs most of them are dying off with very few making it to frosties.

    Easier said that done but you will do just fine babe.

    When will you get an update and when is transfer expected.

    Wishing you lots and lots of luck xx❀

  • Quality over quantity hang in there xx

  • Good luck for today Button 😘❀

  • Thanks xx

  • Yes good luck! πŸ€ xx

  • Yes Button, I will be holding you im my thoughts. All the best xxx

  • I understand your worries Hun but I'd say definitely quality over quantity, all 5 of those could go on to become babies! Really hope they all develop well and you get your happy ending xx

  • Thank you all so much...I feel so overwhelmed with worry that they may not make it! But hubby keeps saying that it is out of our hands and he is right. I just wish my heart could get the message!!

    I appreciate your support from the bottom of my heart xxx πŸ’

  • Dont beat yourself up for being a little disappointed, you're only feeling down as there's so much riding on this for you! 5 good eggs from a youngster developing is great!! It must be hard but chin up, you can do this!xx

  • Thanks so much xx

  • You're not being pathetic. We're told that the younger the donor the better the result/ number and quality of eggs. I would have felt exactly the same.

    Just to let you know I had DE a few months ago. We were told we ended up with 20. I was soooooooo happy and excited thinking 'yes, this is it'. The following day it went down to only 13 fertilised, and then before we knew it we were left with 3. I had one put back and it ended up with a BFN. We now have 2 frosties left and I'm trying to stay positive but it's hard.

    I guess what I'm saying is, maybe it's not about the number but the quality. We went from 20 down to 3 and now 2. Maybe your 5 are quality ones that will work :) Best wishes xx

  • Thanks so much for sharing your story and for you support! I am so sorry your first try wasn't successful but am so pleased to hear there are two more precious chances for you.

    I am trying to keep positive but it is is such a rollercoaster. Hoping that things progress well over the coming days. E-Day is Monday, 9am. Xxx

  • Will be thinking of you on Monday and sending some good vibes. Fingers crossed xx

  • I think we're preprogrammed to find it hard to look on the positive side when we're so afraid of getting our hopes up! It only takes one; I know this is said on here a lot but it's true. Hopefully you'll have all 5 healthy embryos but better still you'll only need the one little embie to make your dreams come true and anything else will be a bonus! πŸ€ xx

  • Thank you xxx

    The ladies on here really are my rock - your warmth, comfort and understanding means the world.😘

  • Ditto xx

  • I think that even though the number is not the highest you should not feel upset or disappointed. As far as I understand, it is better to have 3 eggs and embryos of good quality rather than 20 of a so-so quality. Quality over quantity is the motto that we all should remember! Especially in such difficult times!

    Stay and think positive!

    My thoughts are with you! xx

    PS oh and yes, you're being pathetic! :D lots of love hun!

  • Thank you, appreciate the reply 😘

  • Oi! Tit! Relax. It's ok to be disappointed but remember... we had 15 collected. 10 fertilised. And only two made it to day three. And where are they? Well at least one is still inside me.

    Try and relax. There's nothing you can do at the moment. Concentrate on creating a happy environment for it/them to come home to xx

  • You are absolutely to turn my panic button down to zero! I am starting to realise how 'special' the 2ww is going to be if I am already this paranoid!!!😱

  • Oh. It's amazing. You'll love it.

    I wish this forum allowed gifs. ;)

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  • 5 is a great number to have left they say 8 is a good number. I was a young donor with a high AMH so they put me in a low dose of meds to prevent being over stimulated.

  • Completely understand your feelings! Think sometimes the clinics big up the donor side of things so much that we naturally then expect a lot but from the stories I've been reading on here, 5s not a bad number. I really hope they all continue to develop & thrive for u Hun.keep us posted xxx

  • 😘 Thank you x

  • Do your clinic guarantee you any numbers?

  • We are guaranteed at least one blastocyst, but I guess it's a waiting game now to see how many of the 5 make it.

  • Totally understandable that you feel anxious but like the other ladies have said, it's quality that's important. Fingers crossed for you. x

  • 😘

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