Christening!

[Little_beth]

Just had mental torture! Been at a family christening full of kids and girls with their new babies!! I only ever get asked "how is work!" Am I just being super sensitive??? I feel I am being punished! Xx

[emu2016]

Oh goodness! I know just how you feel! And suspect most women here do!

I'm mad if they ask me 'when are you going to have a baby' then next time I'm mad that they just ask about work; or holidays; or family/friends.... does this mean they've given up thinking I will have a baby or think it's best they don't ask or has someone told them not to?!

Just ride through it. We play games on the way to events: who'll be the first to ask about kids. Or who will start to ask something and then stop!

Big hugs x

[Little_beth in reply to emu2016]

Omg!! Love that! a bingo game I so am going to try that!!!

Yeah then people put their heads down and make you feel like the elephant in the room, then friends say to you - you are over thinking things!! If only they knew what went on in my head daily!!!

Thank u hugs x 🤗

[emu2016 in reply to Little_beth]

It's a great game. Especially if you leave the answers in the car to check over later! Another favourite is who'll be the first to ask "are you drinking alcohol?" 😂

Ah, it's a pain but it does help a little xx

[Diamonddream]

Hey Hun

Know that feeling, we had a friends christening to go to and everyone had babies or small children, we were the only couple there without.

We said hello to everyone and left 15 mins later, it was torture!

I know executor how you feel! Try stay strong we are all here for one another

Sending hugs Hun 💗💗💗

[Little_beth in reply to Diamonddream]

💕💕 hugs 🤗

[Leesalou]

Lucky you only get asked that, I always get asked when am I have a baby,

Why I tend not to socialise or go to family friend functions x

[Little_beth in reply to Leesalou]

You are quite right! It is best to stay away from the situation, I only ever get asked how work is because they are frightened to ask because I had to terminate a pregnancy due to the baby having severe heart problems 2 years ago. Hopefully I have no more social family things for a while!!! Take care xx

[Leesalou in reply to Little_beth]

Sorry to hear about your story, must be awful to go through but your a strong lady,

What is your next options?

I've got a christening in may and I'm a god parent, I'm not a lover of social events, I've got a family party on the weekend followed by family meal the following, can I go into hiding now! Lol xx

[MommaBear16]

You're not alone Beth! The last christening I went to was the day after I miscarried after taking the meds. The vicar was talking about 'the gift of life' and how the 'womb is a miracle that protects the baby'. If I wasn't godmother and sat at the front facing everyone I would have gone to pieces. Christenings and children's parties are the worst. And people are insensitive douchebags. They don't mean to be. But they are x x x

[Little_beth in reply to MommaBear16]

Oh it's horrible and when you hear words from the bible it kills you inside!

People are, I would love for them to experience hospital appointments injections, hormones, 2ww, then ask how you are doing!!

Xx

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Can totally relate to your post I've got a baby shower I'm meant to go to in April and don't know if I'll be able to bear going - ill have to see nearer the time how strong I'm feeling. I think we are all extremely sensitive and unfortunately it's not something we can turn on and off. Xxx