Diagnosed with endo

Hi ladies has anyone ever been told due to their poor health they can't have ivf? Iv been told because of my heart condition they can't offer me ivf. I was heart broken to hear this 😭

[Hopeful16]

Hi Shaz37, so sorry to hear this, maybe u could consider other options. Sending loads of hugs ur way xxx

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Hopeful16 thank you. I don't want to try other ways like adoption. Yes giving a child a home is a wonderful thing but I want my own baby. I want to be pregnant too. Don't think I'm ready mentally for adoption.

[Hopeful16 in reply to Hidden]

Aww darling, wish u all d best xxx

[lainnie33 in reply to Hidden]

so you can try surrogacy, that baby could be genetically related to you. that's awful you can't be stimulated and other ivf stuff.

think about it, I faced with such problem also. But the only way for us is surrogacy. I never has a thouhgt that i won't love this child or it won't be mine.

we are applied for one clinic and now waiting for first counsultation.

don't waste your time, because one day you'll be too old for this.

wish all the best

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Shaz37. So sorry to hear this. Is it possible that with treatment your condition could improve? Perhaps you could consider surrogacy? I know it's easy for me to say, but if you are not well enough to carry a baby to term, then this could be an option for you to have your own genetic baby?? I just hope that you are getting some support as you deal with all of this. Thinking of you. Diane

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I can't unfortunately because that will also cost and we don't have that kind of money. Not getting enough support I just cry and talk to my husband who doesn't really understand.

I'm in a very stressful state because of all this and my health.

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK in reply to Hidden]

Hi Shaz37. So sorry to read that you so stressed by all of this, which is completely understandable. I wondered whether you have had any counselling to support you at the moment. If not it might be an idea to speak to your GP and ask him/her to refer you. I suppose another option might be to adopt, but I'm sure you couldn't get your head round that option just now. You need to get some support and feel stronger before considering anything. Thinking of you. Diane

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Hi Diane. Iv had counselling but it hasn't really helped. I had it at the hospital where I'm being treated. Adoption is a beautiful thing and that is in the pipeline as a last resort but I want to try to have my own. I'm 37 so time is running out for me but I still have some sort of hope. I'm going to try and push my consultants for ivf again.

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK in reply to Hidden]

Hi Shaz37. Just wondered - I do have a list of questions you might like to look through before you see your consultant again. There may be one or two you hadn't thought of asking. It is too long to add here, but if you email me confidence at [e-mail] I will send it to you. Not in my office until Monday as got a couple of days off, but will do it then. Diane

[Hidden in reply to DianeArnold]

Thank you Diane I'll email you.