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Embrio transfer day by myself

Did any of you lovely ladies went to Embrio/blastocyst transfer by themselves without your other halfs?! Would i regret in case ICSI works this time or worst didnt work...

Have an appointment for Wed and thinking its waist of time /money and super inconvenient for my hubby to come over to London for an appointment.

Thank you x

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My hubby has been there for our 2 transfers and will be there for transfer number 3.

I'd rather have my hubby there, our clinic is a 2 hour drive away so any trip there is rather inconvenient and sometimes we've had to have an overnight stay depending on appointment times. His work have been really flexible and allowed time off for appointments.

It's totally up to you and your hubby. Does he want to be there? If he's not bothered perhaps you could take a friend or family member to make sure you get home safely afterwards?

Good luck for Wednesday.

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If anything goes wrong it's nice to have the support, but it doesn't have to be your hubby.

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My hubby was meant to be on a residential course for a week starting on the day of our transfer.

He's been to all other appointments/transfers.

As much as I know the transfers have been fine in the past, it was the phone call I was dreading and in my head, preferred him to be around.

As it turns out, the course was changed and he could then work from home :-)

I felt pretty calm, but could tell afterwards that I was slightly anxious.

Think of everything youve put your body through..it might be nice, just to know he's there on the day?

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What the phone call you are talking about?

Lucky you my hubby only been in hospital 2so far (signed consent form and eggs collection) and keep moaning thatits such a dreadful process...

He is just a moaner...

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Just the phone call to tell you if the embryos have survived to that day or not....

If you do want him there, just tell him you'd like his support....I don't think you are asking for much!

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Gosh... Never thought it could be that way. Saying that when embriologist called me to cancel my app on Mon (day 3) and book it for Wed she said smth like... They look good but anything could happen between now and then... Hm

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They must look good and you must have a good number of them if they are wanting to continue to day 5 :-)

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Its all done! Im excited!

O only had 8 eggs collected, 6 were mature enough to perform ICSI.

Only 4 embrios survived to day 3 but 1 stoped dividing.

So basically it was only 3 blastocysts this morning. 1 is with me and other 2 will be groing for another 24 h.

Will recieve that call tomor if they can freeze any... I doubt but hope for the best)))

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Exciting times..the waiting begins!

Make sure you get some time to relax :-)

X

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I didn't get the day 3 phone call to come in until after my hubby had left for work, so he couldn't be there. I had thought it would be okay, but they dropped a bit of a bombshell that they wanted to put two embryos back. I freaked out because my sister had a very difficult birth with twins and our family has spent the last three years getting over it. I wish he could have been there to hold my hand and talk it through. I was so upset I couldn't speak to him on the phone at work, but the embryologist was wonderful and spoke to him for me.

I think I'd been focusing too much on the physical aspects of the procedures and how much support I would or wouldn't need. I didn't see this one as very physically difficult, but emotionally it was a big deal. I wish I'd had someone there with me in retrospect, but I really didn't foresee this as being an issue, especially since all the literature we'd been given was advising us that the most likely scenario would be to return one embryo.

But everyone's different! So perhaps think about whether you'd like some support there from him or someone else.

Good luck! xx

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Thank you!

We r deff will be putting bavk only 1 (i wishit was 2) as bounded ny NHS contract.

My hubby is a moaner...

Sometomes i literally feel like i have a baby already.

So i decided i want to do it alone and as im having day off im just gonna go and have a procedure and lunch by myself to celebrate me and my "baby" to be reunited and will just hope it will stick!

Selfish? But hey feel like it eould be calmer and hustle free))))

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Sounds like you've thought carefully about it and have made the best decision for you. Hope it goes well and enjoy your lunch! x

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Hello, I would just check that the hospital/clinic don't need him to sign anything on the day (I don't think we had to but I would double check!). The ET procedure is fine but it's quite reassuring to have someone there (even if it's not your hubby). Just make sure you take it easy after transfer x

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I just went shopping....))))

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