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Hi All, after a very long journey of infertility we are blessed to have the little one in our lives.As the tiltle says the worry doesn't end rather adds up.

So to brief baby is few days old and we are told to up his feed and we are trying all but it does not seem to work. So the doctor says his weight should have been similar to birth weight which is not.

The real problem is he usually sleeps during the feed which is making every effort harder.

Where are we wrong please share your experirnce and does this all settles in few days?

Are all babies like that?

Will the weight increase sooner?

How do you wake up a sleepy baby for feed?

A worried and sleep deprived mumma

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hey. I’m sorry to hear that you’re feeling stressed! It’s a chaotic time! How old is your baby?

our boy was also a sleepy little fella and we used to have to wake him to feed. There were a few tactics we used to wake him enough to feed. Some people say that stroking his cheek/ lifting baby up would wake them. Didn’t work for us. Initially, we just took to fully undressing him/ nappy change. That usually did the trick. And it was only like this for 2-3 weeks from memory. After this he was much easier to wake up!!

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Kittykat198 in reply to Rollercoastersmiles

totally echo this. We had a could have issues after birth with feeding and nappy changing really helped to start the second sitting of the feed. Took ours a good couple of weeks to even approach his birth weight and no one was worried. He still dozes off now when feeding, especially in the night so please don’t think you did anything wrong.

Also please remember that babies weigh so little, a few grams here and there can make all the difference between scales. I’m a big old chunky lady and I still weigh differently on different scales and even where my bathroom scales sit on our wonky bathroom floor! Unless it’s a trend that your baby is consistently losing weight and your health visitors are worried, I wouldn’t panic about it too much. Health visitors are really good for advice if you are worried (better then our gp I found) X

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Ltry

My little boy is 17 days old and is still very sleepy and we have to wake him for feeds. We usually have to completely undress him. At a few days old I don't think they are supposed to be back to birth weight yet - our health visitor said they want them back up to birth weight by 2 weeks old. We had a few issues with him losing too much weight so we are also doing formula top ups as my breast milk doesn't seem to be enough to sustain him. Not sure what that means for us longer term but for now I am doing a bit of breast feeding then giving him formula at every feed. We have to wake him every 3 hours to feed.

Rest assured you are not doing anything wrong. It all seems so overwhelming but stick with the plan that they have given you for top ups and hopefully his weight will increase soon. Make sure you are sharing your feelings and talking to your partner and the health professionals around you; they can offer you support that you really need right now!

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Chiefy

My little boy had tongue tie that was picked up by the health visitor. When he was drinking it was tiring him out as it was harder for him to drink and a lot was coming out of the side of his mouth. He had it corrected at 2 weeks and it made a world of difference. Might be worth checking for that?

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Bozo_the_pumpkin

my little girl lost too much weight after birth as well and we were given a feeding plan in hospital. I echo what others have said… we had to totally undress our little one to get her to wake enough to feed. The other thing that helped loads was skin to skin. Loads and loads of it. As soon as she was skin to skin with me she automatically reaches for the boob even whilst sleeping.

Good luck xx

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Runningpcos

congratulations on the arrival of your little one. Our baby was also very sleepy and we did the same as others, took clothes off and nappy change before a feed. He took over 2 weeks to regain his birth weight, which isn’t uncommon. I have found Lucy Webber on Instagram to be really helpful..she is a lactation consultant and midwife and has lots of posts, videos- lucywebberfeedingconsultant. Keep going, you’re doing amazing and it will get easier x

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