Struggling

[Kikki213]

Hi I'm new to this group. I've been trying for a baby for 14 years & been going through ivf since 2017 but started the treatment properly last year 2021. I went for my first egg collection but I was really bad with the treatment where I couldn't go for fresh transfer as I had OHSS. So I had to wait till my body recovered. But then in May I went for frozen embroy transfer, the embroy was a grade A and it was perfect. Everything went perfect untill I started to bleed. Now I kept getting different answers all the time it could be implantation, the pessarys ect. But I knew it wasn't any of day. The 2ww was scary as I knew I wasn't pregnant as the bleeding got worse. I went up the hospital and hearing them words sorry you've had a miscarriage was heart brokering as I've been wanting to be a mum since I was 18.

But now I'm still bleeding after I've had my miscarriage on the 1st June 22. I've been referred to the woman's hospital in Staffordshire and got to go for a pelvis scan in the next 2 weeks or so. But I'm still struggling to coming to terms with everything. People keep telling me that I should move on but it's hard when I've got friends who are pregnant or having their babies today. I just keep crying as I'm so heart broken that I would of been a mummy by now or my baby would of been due soon.

How do I deal with all this?? How do I switch off?? As its effecting my marriage. Xxxx

[sj482]

I’m so sorry to read that this. I had a failed transfer and then a chemical pregnancy and found out at my 7 week scan. Please don’t lose hope!

Have you looked into any support for your mental health?

This group also seems to have a lower response / number than the fertility network uk group.

Try and keep positive I know it’s so so hard xx

[Kikki213 in reply to sj482]

Hi Sorry to hear about your failed transfer and sorry about chemical pregnancy. Send you lots of hugs.

Yeah I'm having help with my mental health but I still feel alone as my familys and friends have all got kids or expecting a baby. Just feels like that everyone is getting bored of me keep talking about the baby I loss but it was my first pregnancy and I still struggling with it. Xxx

[sj482 in reply to Kikki213]

I can fully appreciate that, it is really hard, I wen through 3 egg collections and 3 transfers, with my third and 11 weeks tomorrow - so there is hope!!

[Kikki213 in reply to sj482]

When I went for egg collection I had 18 eggs altogether but only 4 made it but then I had 3 eggs as the 4th one didn't make it.

So i have two left in the freezer. But can't do anything yet untill I get this bleeding sorted out.

But congratulations I hope everything goes well for you. X

[sj482]

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