2ww

[Lind16]

Hello ladies

So I am 4 days into my 2ww and would love to have x-ray vision to see what's happening in my tummy . I have had 1 failed ivf already and this one is a frozen cycle and hoping it just works out this time . Any one have any ideas on how to stop my mind thinking and over thinking of everything . Xx

[Karinyaa]

Hi, hun! This part of the cycle may be exhausting and agonising. And it is not unusual to feel a bit isolated and insecure waiting for the answer. After all those doctor’s appointments, consultations, scans and tests, there is nothing you can do but wait. Each day you may be monitoring your body for signs of early pregnancy. For us it is like being on a rollercoaster of hope and fear. I guess you may consider the following tips to help you cope better. They did help me while through our de ivf.

Have a support – either from your partner or someone in the family or a friend who is optimistic and positive. But try to limit the number of people you tell about your cycle and let them know how you will share the outcome of the cycle. Some couples tell their family and friends, "No news is bad news," to eliminate the need to call them with bad news. Many women find internet IVF forums a great source of help.

Make sure you rest – after the transfer have a few day’s rest if possible. You do not have to stay in bed but try to relax, watch movies, listen to music, curl up on the sofa and read a book, enjoy a lovely meal. It may be helpful to take some time off work. It may not work for every woman and some women prefer to get back to work straight away as concentrating on tasks at work may help to take their mind off the treatment but for women whose jobs are very stressful or physically demanding is better to go away on a short holiday or just enjoy a few days of having fun and giving themselves a bit of nurturing.

Keep yourself busy, have fun. Distraction is very important during this period of time. Enjoy life.

Talk to your partner about your feelings. Support for one another is extremely important in making sure that you are mentally and emotionally in the right space. Sometimes it can be very hard on your relationship with each other so don’t be afraid to seek professional help of a fertility counsellor.

Be aware of the internet. Be careful not to spend the whole two weeks online reading about other women’s experiences and searching for information on signs of positive or negative outcomes of fertility treatments. Too much time online can lead to too much obsessing. Too much obsessing can make two weeks feel like two months. Monitor your online usage and catch yourself if you start to meander onto too many two-week-wait websites.

Write your thoughts in a journal. You can write your thoughts down throughout the day as they pop up. Or you can do it once a day on regular basis - put all the things that are turning over and over in your mind down on paper and out of your head.

Use relaxation techniques, book a session of hypnotherapy with positive visualisation. Try meditation and mindfullness. Take slow, deep breaths when you are feeling anxious. These techniques can assist you physiologically, as well as being mentally calming.

Try to be happy about the present and let the future simply unfold!

[Lind16 in reply to Karinyaa]

Thankyou for this it's helped alot xx

[AmbK]

I know getting scared is natural... especially after you've had a failed attempt but try to stay positive to improve your chances of success. Definitely, the fresh cycle is preferred over frozen one but there are lots of success stories with the frozen cycle as well... let's hope it turns out to be the same for you as well. Meanwhile, do watch a lot of happy movies, things you love, binge on your favourite snack and do everything that gives you the positive vibes. It's the only way you can give your pregnancy the best chance. Sending baby dust!

[Lind16]

Thankyou x

[Karinyaa]

Hi, Lind16! I can't wait you announce some good news??

Hope you feel well/you both feel well - xoxo

Any specific symptoms you had? How are the things going? Would love to read some updates