Feeling helpless and drained

[Confusedgiraffe]

My child is just 5 and has been on Laxido for constipation since October was doing well so doctor reduced the dose in February was still doing well and last 2 weeks has been soiling the self 1 to 2 times a day so as doctor told us to go back to original dose but week down the line it has not improved.

If feel so protective of my child wish I could know how to help.

School have a plan in place and trying there best with reward chart but I feel so helpless and drained.

[Yaleamanda]

have you disimpacted before?

[Teddy500]

Hi, just things my son has, incase something may help....Ella's kitchen prune puree and pear puree pouch with apple juice to make a daily drink, fig rolls, home made poop chocolate one a day (50% chocolate 50% virgin coconut oil) which are very easy to make, Oatabix instead of Weetabix, a daily spoonful of Troo syrup, reduced dairy, morning and evening exercise routine with lots of jumping and bicycle legs, best wishes 🦋

[Hidden]

Firstly, big hugs and empathy. In some ways these steps back can feel worse that no/little progress, because psychologically we’re wired to feel losses more acutely than gains.

But… this sort of thing is rarely a straightforward linear improvement and steps forward and steps back are part of the process. 5 is also still relatively little in the grand scheme of things. Is it better than this time last year? If so, try to hang on to things like that - yes this is a step back but they’ve been doing AMAZINGLY, and obviously you’ve been doing a great job at supporting them. They’ll get back to where they were and beyond, even if you can’t predict when.

Likewise something I’ve found is that this feels harder when I’ve set time limits/expectations of when things should improve. “This should be better by the time they start school/turn 5/finish reception” etc. When really all that does is add pressure and stress to the system. When I can drop my time scales I do find myself feeling more hopeful and relaxed, which has a knock on effect on my own interactions with my child and family, which theoretically should also help the issue.

[SallyandPaul]

Hi there. I was a bit loathe to reply to you as our daughter has had these issues for nine years and I don't won't to discourage you. However you have some very helpful comments here and i just wanted to say that I wouldn,t be over keen on school doing a reward chart. This is something that your child really can't help and has little control over. Giving support when they have accidents with no condemnation would be far more helpful. I really feel for you and hope that things improve.It's not your fault either,five is very young, just try to be as patient and relaxed as possible,so hard I know. It does sound as if a disimpaction would help and all the things that teddy500 sound great too. Good luck to you both.